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Original poster

This is more of a request than an AIBU

142 replies

MaggieBee · 09/06/2009 21:01

Can I please suggest to the morons (only a couple of them thank God) that if there is a 28 page thread rolling on about a serious issue which you haven't personally experienced, please try to restrain yourself from piling in ten minutes before the end to play columbo and shout troll.

I have never offered more than a couple of words of support on threads about bereavement, infertility, miscarriage, drug or alcohol addiction or infidelity because I haven't been through any of these things and I can only empathise and offer a few kind words of general support.

However, on this thread about a controlling and abusive partner, I and the other people who have been through this too recognised the authenticity of SP's thread. We were more equipped to make that call than a couple of people jumping from thread to thread for a few moments entertainment.

I was really fcukign angry to get back today and see that SP's thread had been taken over by a couple (just a couple) of morons picking holes in her story. The people who did that should have a long hard think about the damage they might have done.

OP posts:
poopscoop · 09/06/2009 22:22

Sorry but I do not need to be told to leave it. I choose what to post on a public forum. I have responded to comments passed about myself on the other thread and then discovered that another thread had been started complaining about me?

So, I choose to ignore or defend myself. I have chosen to defend myself on this occasion. I have been told I am a moron, that my behaviour is digusting and that I know nothing about DV because I have not suffered it personally. Well is that right?? Would you be responding to such comments, I think so.

poopscoop · 09/06/2009 22:24

Not only that, I have been told that I find this 'entertainment' and 'good fun'

Portofino · 09/06/2009 22:27

But the point is, that Maggie has LIVED through this. She has offered her help here and desperately wants to believe that the OP is genuine!

If it is the case that the OP is NOT, can you blame Maggie for being on the defensive here?

It HAS all got a bit personal. If this a troll she/it will be having a chuckle about all this. It's won, heh? you are SO wound about the troll that you are having a go at a REAL victim of DV!

poopscoop · 09/06/2009 22:28

And I haven't???????????????????

Portofino · 09/06/2009 22:33

I'm not saying YOU haven't! I don't know. But what purpose does all this serve? Like I said, if this IS a troll, it is working very well! Maggie's upset, YOU're upset. Pyscho's upset because this brings up bad memories. I'm starting to get upset because I'm trying to be helpful and it goes against my nature....Can't we all go to bed?

poopscoop · 09/06/2009 22:34

Does one need to spill the deatils of their private life in order to be a victim of DV?? Get real.There will be women on this forum who do not speak about things. They may be using MN as a distraction. I doubt if it is just those who offerred their support on the thread.

MaryMotherOfCheeses · 09/06/2009 22:37

Porto, you are trying to be helpful but I fear you're banging your head against a brickwall.

Poopscoop, Porto never tried to deny your experience of DV. I just don't understand why you need to keep winding this one up.

hullygully · 09/06/2009 22:37

I haven't read any of the posts because I am too busy, but I just want to say how totally I agree and I think it is absolutely disgusting. All of it. Every bit.

Original poster
MaggieBee · 09/06/2009 22:37

I can't believe that anybody who has been through DV would ever take the risk of shouting "troll" on another woman's cry for help - even their story doesn't add up. I would never, ever publicly doubt somebody who claimed they were being abused. If they were genuine, then to be doubted would crush them. You have upset me so much Poopscoop and you don't care. You're still picking at the carcuss like a vulture. If you'd ever been through this, you wouldn't behave this way.

OP posts:
hullygully · 09/06/2009 22:38

And why does everyone's name start with "p" this evening?

poopscoop · 09/06/2009 22:41

you have upset me maggie, presuming you know everything about my life, calling me names, presuming I know nothing about DV. Dont you dare say to me that If i had been through this I wouldnt behave in this way.

have very good reason to say what I said on this thread and the other. Perhpas if you dont like it, then you ought to be the one going to bed.

And yes, if the OP was a troll, she will be pissing herself at YOU, ME and everyone else.

poopscoop · 09/06/2009 22:41

hully

hullygully · 09/06/2009 22:42

Well, the op hasn't come back so she's either murdered or bored.

Original poster
MaggieBee · 09/06/2009 22:43

You're not upset.

OP posts:
hullygully · 09/06/2009 22:44

I bloody well am. Especially as your name doesn't even begin with p.

poopscoop · 09/06/2009 22:44

neither are you. You are sitting there having a fine old time, you are loving every minute of this.

Nice eh?

poopscoop · 09/06/2009 22:45

hully I think i need to change my name .

hullygully · 09/06/2009 22:45

No, it's not nice. Where is the love? Now just have a lovely hug and make up. You're both as bad as each other.

poopscoop · 09/06/2009 22:46

i don't think so.

MaryMotherOfCheeses · 09/06/2009 22:49

Well you've amused me pullypully

hullygully · 09/06/2009 22:49

Love is the answer.

hullygully · 09/06/2009 22:49

And the drug. (Altho Our Lord forgot that bit.)

poopscoop · 09/06/2009 22:50

pmsl

Portofino · 09/06/2009 22:51

I'd like some love! Everyone else has got bored of chick fighting or gone to bed.

poopscoop · 09/06/2009 22:53

well that was a first for me! Becoming the centre of an MN ruck. phewf!