to think about putting in a compliant about this tesco till assistant?

[SillyDaisy]

this am went to tescos to do the shop after taking dd 2 years old for a swim.

anyway, at the end of the shop we had a couple of bits in our trolley we didn't want.
things dd haad gone grrrrrr for on the way round.

some intg bubble bath and something else.

anyway.
i put the ITNG bubble bath on the end of the checkout and the checkout woman said don't you want that, i said no we don't.
so she said pass it to me then.
fair enough.
then when i had unloaded the whole trolley.
we found something else.
ITNG spaggetti or something.
so i handed to her and said we don't want this either.

so she said yes i better take it, as we don't want someone to say is this your shopping.
i AGREED with her saying yes and we don't want someone else to buy it by mistake.
then i said very nicely it is quite difficult when your shopping though as even when you go up the toileteries aisle theres stuff aimed at children ITNG etc.
(wasn't having a go at all, just trying to explain really why we had a couple of things i didn't want to buy)

she turned round and goes well you know what the answer is then just say no.
i replied ah shes not even two get she doesn't really understand no and reasoning.
[thinking that was the end of it]
then she replied well mine never used to get away with it!
i said well thats fair enough when there older and can understand and you can reason with them.
{again thinking that was the end of it]
then she said they still want it when they are older!
actually trying to have a row with me when i'm doing the shopping with my two year old.

by this point i feel like snapping back and saying well we can't all be as marvellous as you can we, know wonder you have reached the dizzy heights of checkout assistaant.
well done.
but i refrain stay calm and say again
well that's fair enough when there old enough to understand.
refusing to get into a row with her.

then she caarries on zapping the items, i can tell she's pissed off.
the she starts looking at my shopping
and picks up, some organics toddler biscuits, pulls a sneer and goes, errr what are these!?
i reply they are just biscuits, they just don't have salt etc in them
she goes errrr never had anything like that in my day
pulling a right face.

tbh this is not the sort of hassle i need when i go shopping with a toddler.

I think you ABU to put a compiant in.

I think she had a point, you can say no to a 2 year old. If you knew she'd put them in you could have taken them back out again but maybe I am misunderstanding your post?

Nor worthy of a complaint really.

"I think it is a bit unreasonable to put stuff in your trolley which you have no intention of buying because you can't say no to your toddler , and then expect someone else to put it back.I think you are making a rod for your own back.It doesn't get any easier to say no as they get older infact harder because they know how to push your buttons.I think this woman was just giving you the benefit of her experience." Katiestar are you in fact the till operator in question? .

OP, I would have laughed in her face, however saying that I took dd shopping yesterday and she was wailing all the way round, one old woman in particular was looking absolutely disgusted and muttering under her breath so I said "Not yours is she?", "no" she said, "well her crying is not your problem then is it?". Would not have said anything usually but I had a very bad day yesterday.

Agree with expat.

YABU to complain. She was as others have said probably only trying to have a conserbation with you. You can say no to a 2 year old.

daisy you are a right ticket-arsey about the hoi polloi and their manners

organic biscuits -so what?were you expecting a round of applause

job snobbery is awful.what gives you the right to demean someone else job.working checkout it's legal,pays the bills,puts food in the fridge.

she shouldn't have made comments about your parenting

But what she said was right, By the age of 2 you really do need to be saying 'no' to your child.

Its not about your DC being old enough to reason with, its about a child learning that their parent is in charge and that there are rules that need to be followed.

Sorry, but if you don't start telling her 'no' now you're going to have a struggle when she is older

I dont think Daisy sounded that snotty TBH. Its the type of thought that pops into your head when someone is being a cow.

I remember an episode of AbFab.

Edina was in a gallery and the assisant was being a bitch.

Edina said 'less of the attituded dear, you work in a shop'. It was the perfect put down for someone who thought they were a cut above.

Nothing wrong with working in a shop or being on the check out. Lots wrong with being a snotty cow telling customers how to parent their kids.

I am a chav so cannot be accused of looking down on anyone really. I am the lowest of the low

YANBU for being peed off (momentarily) but I wouldnt bother complaining.

YABVU I can't believe you can't go shopping without saying no to your DD, sounds very spoilt.

Yanbu to be hacked off but I would not complain, I might just change supermarkets instead.

I hate it when I have a whole trolly load of shopping, and a 2 year old and the kindly till person wishes to show me that she/he can break the land-speed record for putting things through the checkout letting a big load of stuff pile up as I cannot pack as fast as they can bleep. Now, if I had been offered help packing and refused it then it is my own lookout, however, this particular shop never offers. I end up furious and feel stupid being tutted at by the shop person with dd getting increasingly bored by the minute. Shopping for 5 isn't just a basket load after all. I am a fairly fit, reasonably well educated, patient person, I just don't have 5 arms.

So, instead of growing more wrinkles and raising my blood pressure I shop online with a nice glass of wine!

Just say "could you slow down please or help me"!

I worked on a checkout once for a couple of evenings a week while I was on a career break. I can honestly say that it was the most boring, soul destroying job I've ever done. The professional types in picking up their groceries after work were the worst - obviously sneering at my 'dizzy heights' on the checkouts. Temtping though it was to put them right and point out my 2 degrees, I decided to keep schtum and ignore the tossers.

I am sorry but I am v surprised by someone who says "YABVU I can't believe you can't go shopping without saying no to your DD, sounds very spoilt."

There are days when I look at dd (2) and know that it is easier to just let her have her way. It doesn't happen often but sometimes I just want to get in, do my shopping and get out without a wailing two year old providing a soundtrack. I too give my dd things and then sneak them back out of the trolley. I really don't see any harm in it. No hard and fast rules with two year olds imo.

Well at that age I had 2 of them in the trolley and I would never have let them put anything in the trolley I wasn't going to buy. First of all at 2 they would have remembered that it was in the trolley and asked for it when they got home and secondly as a parent I know when to say no and mean it.

Paolosgirl - no really, I am not a total prune, I have tried on a number of occasions to ask most politely only to be met with either eye rolling or even faster service. But hey, I guess I am just one of those professional types ....

I am outraged that people still go to the shops actually. Couldn't you just get a 'little chap' to deliver it? Waitrose have some smashing working class types that one can have a giggle with whilst watching them unpack the groceries.

Never had an off day then bruffin? I have many. Maybe I am just a bit rubbish.

I do think of it more as working with dd's personality than a one size fits all approach. Luckily she doesn't tend to remember or ask when we get home so I am inclined to think she just wants to look at these things out of interest rather than actually wanting them. I see no harm in that.

lol coolma.

BlueBumedFly - I have found that I get asked "do you need help with your packing" only when I obviously don't.

Usually I abhor the thought of someone else's packing - potatoes chucked on top of the eggs springs to mind.

But when I was 42, pregnant, with two wingeing older kids in tow, I thought, several times: perhaps this once, I will have them help me pack. They never asked. I reckon they knew I'd say yes, and "forgot" to ask. Can't say I blame them, though.

Apostrophe.... Tell me more about the palm fat, I am having a panicky ignorant moment ...

rofl coolma. yabu.

bluebumed - not done the job so can't say for sure, but I have heard some supermarkets have targets for how quickly staff put items through the checkout, so that might be why they do it so quickly.

They do that in Aldi and Lidl and get annoyed with you if you try andput the stuff straight in the bags instead of throwingthem in the basket and packing later

Blimey you sound self righteous Bruffin

"I know how to say no to my kids"

Everyone knows how to say no to their kids, some people just choose to say it for different things than you might.

you should have nipped it in the bud at the time

not worthy of a letter of complaint

LOL balloon, I agree with you whole heartedly. Would I like help packing my one pack of nappies and one bottle of wine.... Hmmm, not so much!

I do understand that they have targets but they only have to wait around whilst I pack so there is no time saved? When in fact if they got bags out ahead of time instead of looking down on the lowly planet wreckers who may have just forgotten their bags for life after a hectic work day and the nursery run with a hungry toddler then it may just speed things up a little.