Am I being unreasonable to suggest that kids who are faddy eaters have been "allowed" to become so?

[Lucia39]

This will no doubt get me "flamed" but hell, I don't want to watch the Champions League final so have left other half and teenage son to do so on their own - a good opportunity for some "male bonding" with some beer!

So, what do other parents think? Are faddy eaters born or made?

I recognise that we all have certain foods that we don't particularly care for or like but once those dislikes have been identified surely everything else should be accepted and eaten? I always advocated the "taste it and see" approach which generally worked. Although I wouldn't suggest that a two year old be given red hot Indian food just to "taste and see", but .... you never know!

I also often wonder if some children are faddy because their repertoire has been so limited and/or bland that they view anything that looks or tastes "different" with suspicion.

When I was growing up there was always an option at meal-times "take it or leave it" and my mother held to the view that when we were hungry enough we'd eat. I am also quite sure that a day without solid food will not actually harm any child!

I follow the 'eat what your dad and I are having or get nothing' school of parenting. DH and I love food and eat a very wide range of meals at home.

I have thrown away the odd plate of food but I try not to notice or get stressed about it.

All of my kids are well grown and healthy so it can't be doing them any harm. They're also supremely unfussy.

And I don't mind them going hungry sometimes. In fact I think it's quite good for them to experience hunger now and again.

Well said RustyBear

too right, thunder and aitch!

we sort of cocked it up last time in glasgow and parked in sauchihall st. but even then, it wasn't far at all to the shops and £7 for all day!

£6 for 11.30 - 2.30 in Embra and we had to get a bus in for all the trams shite.

it was pure bollocks and even DH, who is pure Embra, said, 'if i can't get it online or in glasgow it's not worth having.'

oh Aitch we used to have lovely camping holidays in Scotland as a child. I can still picture the midge crust on my fried eggs and my mum telling me it was extra protein. Ah, nostalgia...
[PARP to op]

once you get the lay of the place, and it's not hard, it's dead easy. and even if you get lost, the folk are friendly.

it was a victory when DD1 said, in her now West Coast accent, 'I prefer GlasgOH'.

i'll bet! last she went there a couple of weeks ago, my mama spoiled her rotten.

i can't do that 'o' to save myself, nor can i ever say 'edinburgh' as she does.

Your dh is a wise man.

parking's a quid (or something like that, a flat fee) all sunday at the buchanan galleries, expat. can't get more central, it's right beside john lewis.

I'm pleased for you that the 'eat it or leave it' theory worked for you gaby.

Just out of interest, what would you do if one of your dc was constantly at the bottom of the chart and sometimes below the bottom line for weight. Would you still be happy to take plate after plate of food away? I swear my ds would not eat for days given the chance.

Not having a go, im just genuinely interested. We already see the paediatrician regularily, have seen the slt, moving pictures program (where psychologists film him eating) and he is under the dietician. None of them have had any helpful suggestions as yet. He is on high calorie milk, dread to think what he'd weigh without it!

And I love your dd.

I love the grid system in Glasgow. It makes it more difficult for me to get lost, which is something I normally do very easily.

How does she pronounce Edinburgh if I may ask? I'm never quite sure how to pronounce it, silly as that seems, everyone says it slightly differently.

Off to bed now... Will check for replies in the morning

In answer to the original question no not necessarily. Of course there may well be some "psychological" reason as there is with lots of issues. However you may as well say "Are all poor sleepers made not born" why not just tell the child to go to sleep, shut the bedroom door and leave them, eventually they will sleep. Try telling this to exhausted parents!
I had a child whom had severe eating/food problems to the point of despair.
After seeking out counselling it soon became apparent that out family did not fit the professionals tick sheet of "What makes a child a fussy eater".
My oh as a child fell into the category of if you don't eat all your meal it will be there for you to finish in the morning-hence he still eats whatever is put in front of him.
The only "advice" the professionals could give me was that it was a battle of wills and that my will would definately break before my child's did and how right they were.
Writing this now it is making me feel ill, thinking about the guilt and anguish it caused.
Happily my child now has a much healthier relationship with food, although will not eat everythiong that the rest of the family do.
Please bear this in mind and thank you for reading this far.

£2 all day Sunday and £1.20 from 6pm any day.

'parking's a quid (or something like that, a flat fee) all sunday at the buchanan galleries, expat. can't get more central, it's right beside john lewis.'

you are joking, aitch.

seriously?

our next door neighbour (weegie) had told us to go to the john lewis carpark, as it is always cheaper.

but we didn't know quite how to get there, even with the satnav.

so later i told her and she said to keep going straight on bath street and then we would hit it.

i heart buchanan galleries, but i feel it's just scratching the surface of real Glasgow shopping, and that there is so much more.

and it's worth knowing!

we got lost going to IKEA again, too!

wtf.

we went past the Braehead exit, but at least we found the Home Office in Govan for the wee one's passports.

jaw drops!

we were lucky to find an Australian parking warden in Embra who told us about the one non-resident place to park with all those fecking tram works on.

we still had to take a bus in.

on the way back out, some jakey was spraffing a bunch of racist nonsense.

at a child.

people were just sitting and listening, then this gal got on and had to sit next to him with her grandson and she said, 'what are you on about, you f*cking ned?'

and everyone cheered!

but i thought, 'i can't be dealing with this anymore.'

the teuchtars children were all, 'why's he like that, mummy?'

a bloke like that would have been kicked off the fecking bus around here.

no one has time for that.

Surely the John Lewis carpark is just the Buchanan Galleries carpark?

she was ace!

she laid into him, 'you sad pish-heid ned, get oot mah way.'

he said, 'move, womin, this is my stop.'

she screeched, 'you better ask me proper, you racist bastard!'

and he did!

he said, 'excuse me'.

she said, 'that more like it, you twat!'

her grandson was about DD2's age. she climbed up the seat and said, 'hiya'.

he said, 'dunnae mind her. what's your name?'

yy td i was just giving both locations in case expat knew one but not the other iykwim?

FAO Dalrymps. Oh dear poor ickle diddums has the nasty old Lucia upset oo then?

FAO RustyBear: Of course I wrote it deliberately! I'm not in the habit of posting stream of consciousness comments. Given the lady's manner she deserved everything she got. Let's hope she starts practising her speaking "to others with respect and consideration" soon as she's a long way to go!

Whatever you do Expat, don't park in the Concert Square carpark, on Cowcaddens Road opposite the Holiday Inn and Dimaggio's Pronto. It's full of junkies.

Oh for goodness sake. Ds was a wonderful eater until 15 months. I would make his homemade Annabel Karmel dinners feeling smug as a smug thing, while he sat in his highchair nibbling on some lightly steamed baby corn and green beans. Pride goes before a fall... he is now 7 and resembles Horrid Henry in that he considers ketchup a bloody vegetable.

it probably is, thunder, as there is that bridge.

but is the parking garage on the side of John Lewis?

I didn't mean you Aitch. I meant Expat's neighbour telling her to use the John Lewis carpark.

That's just part of the Buchanan Galleries carpark I think, though don't quote me on that. It's fine there.

so let's say you park in sauchihall.

when you get out, you walk in a street called bath street until you get to Buchanan Galleries.

if you were in your car, would you just drive past the Sauchihall car park in the Bath Street?

would you go under the bridge and then the car park would be there?