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Am I being unreasonable to suggest that kids who are faddy eaters have been "allowed" to become so?

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Lucia39 · 27/05/2009 20:17

This will no doubt get me "flamed" but hell, I don't want to watch the Champions League final so have left other half and teenage son to do so on their own - a good opportunity for some "male bonding" with some beer!

So, what do other parents think? Are faddy eaters born or made?

I recognise that we all have certain foods that we don't particularly care for or like but once those dislikes have been identified surely everything else should be accepted and eaten? I always advocated the "taste it and see" approach which generally worked. Although I wouldn't suggest that a two year old be given red hot Indian food just to "taste and see", but .... you never know!

I also often wonder if some children are faddy because their repertoire has been so limited and/or bland that they view anything that looks or tastes "different" with suspicion.

When I was growing up there was always an option at meal-times "take it or leave it" and my mother held to the view that when we were hungry enough we'd eat. I am also quite sure that a day without solid food will not actually harm any child!

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barnsleybelle · 27/05/2009 22:57

forgive me for jumping in, but someone has told this lucie person if she wants a private conversation to go on msn. In all fairness she's actually discussing the post and you guys are talking about camping on a fussy eating thread?????

I don't agree with her posts, but i'm sensing kettle pot and black here.

Dalrymps · 27/05/2009 22:58

'a chit of a young girl' lol, you really must be oooold to be using phrases like that . Jealous of my youth I guess, ah well.

AitchTwoOh · 27/05/2009 22:58

ah yes, the midgies. i must buy something, do you have a recommendation?

islandofsodor · 27/05/2009 22:58

I am a fussy eater and I was made not born as my Mum is extrememly faddy. I was determined that my children would not end up like me.

However dd is a great eater and will eat most things. Ds on the other hand is a nightmare. I treated them both exactly the same way. No issue was ever made about food, they were given a wide variety etc etc.

However with ds his teeth came through very late and he couldn't chew. Hence he eats very little meat or things that require chewing. I think he missed that time when he was receptive to new foods.

BoysAreLikeDogs · 27/05/2009 23:00

Aitch that Avon Skin so soft is sposed to be top for midgies

Lucia39 · 27/05/2009 23:00

Ah well remember Dalrymps there are two choices in life we either die young or grow old! So in another 25 years or so you'll be old just like me!

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AitchTwoOh · 27/05/2009 23:00

me and expat are hardy responsible for what other people post... we'll talk about camping all we like, thanks.

and it was lucia who suggested dalrymps msn people, i thought.

barnsleybelle · 27/05/2009 23:01

totally misread the posts . shame on me and all the wine i've drunk celebrating the barca win...

I'll quietly fade away now....

AitchTwoOh · 27/05/2009 23:02

cheers, bald. i'm not sure how i can get hold of it in time, though.

am really at lucia's trolling now.

expatinscotland · 27/05/2009 23:02

the skin so soft in the GREEN bottle only and lots of smoky incense.

or Mozzi-off, which really does work!

Purdie's 'wee beastie' and their smoky candles, too.

BoysAreLikeDogs · 27/05/2009 23:03

ahhhh MN + vino =

bless you bb

ClaireDeLoon · 27/05/2009 23:03

I read that the army use skin so soft, its a certain type you have to use though. The oily spray? I was googling ready for a holiday in Scotland, never got round to buying the stuff yet wasn't bitten anyway. I think the midges are a myth, to keep lovely Scotland quiet in summer

AitchTwoOh · 27/05/2009 23:04

i've got some of those mosuito burner things from our hols last year, i'll see if i can find them. where do i buy these other ones?

AitchTwoOh · 27/05/2009 23:04

lol bb. bottoms up!

barnsleybelle · 27/05/2009 23:05

Thanks boys.... i get the feeling you've been there!!

Dalrymps · 27/05/2009 23:06

Lucia - Indeed I will be old one day. I won't be patronising and judgemental though. I'll also speak to others with respect and consideration.

I won't be so bored that I will start threads just to wind other people up about serious issues because i've got nothing better to do either.

Are you proud of the way this thread has turned out? You don't come across in a very good light... I'd have a think about that if I were you.

expatinscotland · 27/05/2009 23:07

you can get mozzi-off in Glesga in tiso or black's. you can probably get purdie's there, too. it's a company started by a mum of four, who looks enviably good!, after her RAF husband was injured. they are all from inverary.

colibri incense i got in Napier's in Glasgow, too, but it was about 6 months ago so ring and ask if they've still got it.

we are now glasgow addicts after having to drive and try to park in embra last week compared to having to driven into Glasgow the Saturday before.

actually, no comparison.

Thunderduck · 27/05/2009 23:09

Glasgow is much better for shopping than Edinburgh, unless you're looking for stuffed Nessies and Edinburgh Rock.

AitchTwoOh · 27/05/2009 23:10

we must meet up next time, email me.

Lucia39 · 27/05/2009 23:11

Dalrymps do you really think I give the proverbial what you or your coterie of "chums" think about me? Get a grip woman for heaven's sake.

I have explained quite clearly and, I think, in reasonably comprehensible English, why I started this thread. Nobody was compelled to add their comments. Nobody was forced to read this thread. That you chose to do so and post to it was entirely voluntary on your part. Now run along and chat about your camping trip!

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Ronaldinhio · 27/05/2009 23:12

I love SSS it reminds me of clambering out of the oily bath as a child if I was allowed to use my mums precious oil. Does it really prevent mossies?
Why the weird shouting earlier?

pippibluestocking · 27/05/2009 23:13

Totally wrong op - I have one DD who is very limited in her diet and another who eats gherkins, olives and would suck lemons if I let her - no difference in their upbringing, just different children.

squilly · 27/05/2009 23:13

This is MN at it's crass, sanctimonious, judgey pants worst. Nice thread not.

To any parent, like me, that has a child who has issues with food, this thread is unforgivable. Taking pleasure and using other people's worries and concerns to prevent your boredom is clearly worth more than empathising or sympathising with issues that for some families cause an incredible amount of grief and heartache.

If you don't understand the issues, don't comment on them.

If you want to be smug about your DCs go to the smugness thread that's running now. That should suit you nicely.

If you want any respect from reasonable parents, stop pissing about with subjects you know nothing about just for fun.

Dalrymps · 27/05/2009 23:14

Erm, i'm not going camping?

It is not me who needs to get a grip, I am prefectly calm thanks

The problem is the way you have deliberately wound people up who have taken the time to post on your thread. You must be really bored thats all I can say. Run along yourself!

RustyBear · 27/05/2009 23:14

Lucia - I am also old enough to be dalrymps' mum, but I wouldn't dream of calling her, or any other mumsnetter 'dearie' or 'a chit of a girl' She's right, it's totally patronising, but I suspect that's what you meant it to be.

Unfortunately you're just giving ammunition to those who think that as soon as we pass 50 we turn into judgemental old bats....

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