To secretly want to say 'I'll remember this when it's your lo's birthday...' to DH's colleague's wife?

[flamingobingo]

Ok, so I'm not actually going to do that, and I'm actually a very nice person and DH and I will continue going out of our way for his colleague and his wife as they embark on their exciting journey having their first baby in August.

But..........colleague wants a few days off to decorate their nursery with his wife at the end of the month. One of those days is DD1's 6th birthday, for which DH wanted a day off so we could take her bowling with some friends (which she's wanted to do for ages). They can't both have the same day off. Colleague said kindly that DH could have the day off, of course. He's just texted to say wife not happy with change of plan and will be having the day off himself .

They've only got loads and loads of weeks to get the flipping decorating done, and DH has offered them to have any other time off at all - he'll cover - but no, of course, decorating a baby's nursery (PFB though...) must be done on the exact day that an existing child is having a birthday. Gah!

So AIBU to slightly want to say to her 'I'll remember this...'? (just to re-iterate, I would never, ever say this, and will no doubt forget it tomorrow when I've got over the mother lioness rage! )

That's true bella.

I got signed off at 20 weeks with aneamia, so had a very long mat leave/sick pay. Maybe she has something allong those lines...

Anywho...

OP wishing your dd a very Happy Birthday, hope you have a lovely day and manage to do something else as a family!

She does sound very precious. I remember when my ex-boss and his dw had a baby, she was a bloody nightmare, calling him hysterically in the middle of meetings (and every time he would take the call while we all sat around looking embarrassed), and demanding that he took days off at the last minute so he would have to re-schedule stuff all the time, usually at great inconvenience. In fact I would go so far as to say the demands of his bonkers wife made most major deadlines slip dramatically. He should have had more backbone though, he was pretty inept too...

It's your dh and his colleague that I feel sorry for if this is anything to go by because once that baby is born she will be indirectly ruling the company too!

Sorry but I do think you are being a bit unreasonable.

Ok yes her birthday a wonderful day but we all have to learn that we have a nice birthday and then sometimes we can do something else at the weekend or whatever.
That's the way the cookie crumbles!

She wants the "nursery" done - that's her business did you never want anything done while you were pregnant?

it's their first child - you have some humility and let her enjoy the fun of painting the nursery and having some family time imagining what their baby will look like discussing names and all that jazz.

As for the shouting - maybe she's frightened maybe she just wants her husband home - again nne of your business - think back 6 years remember a time you just wanted hubby to hug you or to tell you you are wonderful or get you a bite to eat or tell you not to worry ....

you want her to be kind to your family - try being kind to hers!
She's probably sat there saying oh I've booked time off to paint the nursery now my husband's collegue's wife wants us to change it grrrrrrrrrr! how dare she I know it's the kids bday but ..

yanbu.i think your post has been taken far too seriously.you said you secretly wanted to say it not that you were going to.and also that you shocked yourself by thinking of someone as being a bitch for the first time in ages.

yes your dh should have got in first but didnt,you asked to swap but didnt work-but atleast you tried!

hope your dc has a lovely birthday

YANBU to be hacked off at this woman - I know I would be, although I can see people's point that maybe there is more to it than meets the eye from their side.

I don't think it's at all strange that someone would take time off work to be with their child on it's birthday. My DD and I have our birthday's a week apart and I have always booked that week off as soon as I go back to work after Christmas. My DH used to work shifts and though he's usually worked on her birthday he's always made sure to swap his days so he can be home for her party.

He's also already made arrangements with his manager that he can have a late start so he can come with us for DD's first day at school in September.

And before I cop it I will hold up my hands and admit that she is a PFB and an only child...!

wombling no-one thinks those things are strange at all

Bella - I think a couple of people have raised it, more in the light of the OP's DD being of school age, but as she is home schooled obviously she's there anyway.

I must admit I'm very relieved that this year (she'll turn 5 about a week after starting primary school) her birthday's on a Sunday.