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...To expect monetary contribution from my DP??

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GrumpyMoo · 29/04/2009 16:24

... In any form. I'm not asking for all his money to go off and spend as I like. But SOMETHING towards his keep would help. And how do I ask him NOW after we have lived together on and off (more off than on TBH) for nearly a year?? HELP someone. Need kick up the backside or somehting please??

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GrumpyMoo · 03/05/2009 22:29

dittany I am better than ok. I am about 13 stone lighter that I was on thursday. That CAN'T be bad?? Surely????

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fumble · 03/05/2009 22:29

Yes the sort of style and elegance you might expect from scroungers who then moan about their situation!

dittany · 03/05/2009 22:30

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pooka · 03/05/2009 22:32

Fumble - I am very sorry and embarrassed to say this, but you do sound rather unhinged/like YOU have a BEE in your bonnet. I think that AS others have said, this is partly BECAUSE the CAPS distract from the NONSENSICAL nature of the ARGUMENT.

Seriously. Would you suggest that Grumpy keeps this tosser in her and her kid's life on the basis that he makes no financial contribution to the household? Why would that be a good idea? Are you arguing that partners should not make any financial or other contribution to what they eat/use? Would you be happy if your husband did this?

fumble · 03/05/2009 22:32

Really interesting that someone who has control of their mind needs a website???

Someone who has the brain to know they are on the fiddle then bemoans there 'poor' situation?

Mmmm VERY ONE SIDED BACK SLAPPING WEBSITE INDEED

dittany · 03/05/2009 22:32

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FairLadyRantALot · 03/05/2009 22:33

Fumble, the problem is that HIS money was spend on himself, and her money was spent on bills and him and his child...he did not contribute by paying for rent or anything....
that is why he is a user....
I am not a money earning mum, but...I am part of a partnership doping my bit, whilst not really being able to contribute financially....and as it seems op's partner did not contribute in a non-material way neither...

OldLadyKnowsNothing · 03/05/2009 22:33

Fumble, I am a bona fide taxpayer, claim no benefits (not even child benefit, as my DCs are grown, and taxpayers themselves) and am not moaning about my situation.

So I say again, fuck off fumble, there's a dear. If you're not Grumpy's ex, you sure sound just like him.

dittany · 03/05/2009 22:34

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fumble · 03/05/2009 22:34

pooka WHAT i AM SAYING IS THAT IF YOU ARE TOGETHER THEN LIVE TOGETHER AS A COUPLE NOT A MY MONEY AND YOUR MONEY WHICH THEN WORKS OUT AS HER MONEY AND THEN HER MONEY!

FlyMeToDunoon · 03/05/2009 22:38

Well Grumpymoo I am sooooo pleased that you got shot of the wanker.
Well done.
Enjoy the rest of your life!

pooka · 03/05/2009 22:39

Exactly. WHEREAS, as grumpy MADE clear, her exP made no FINANCIAL contribution TO THE household. So WAS a case OF his MONEY and HER money but WITH the ADDED twist of HER paying HIS living EXPENSES as well AS those of HIS daughter.

Fair? I DON'T think SO.

ataraxis · 03/05/2009 22:40

What utter bollocks fumble. How can it possibly be 'their' money if he keeps all of his part of 'their' money to himself? You make no sense.

Bizarre vitriol unless as others have said, you are in some way involved (or are another bitter ex who's courageous better half saw the light).

I am a taxpayer and have no issue with anything grump has written in this thread. Have been quietly cheering her along.

Please explain exactly what is your problem?

OldLadyKnowsNothing · 03/05/2009 22:40

Ah, yes, waaay back near the beginning:

"By GrumpyMoo Thu 30-Apr-09 09:16:49
..He says that if you ask other people for advice you are contaminating your relationship with someone elses views and not your own oppinions."

And rather more recently:

"By fumble Sun 03-May-09 22:32:26
Really interesting that someone who has control of their mind needs a website???"

Though fumble sounded familiar.

Hello, cocklodger!

Now do be a dear and fuck off. Grumpy doesn't need you any more, she never needed you to begin with. She felt sorry for you, and she's a kindhearted person of whom you took total advantage. I don't often use the word, but you're a worthless cunt, a liar and an utter shit. I feel sorry for your DD.

fumble · 03/05/2009 22:41

sO iF THIS GUY WAS GOOD TO KIDS SHE SAW THE FANTASTIC POTENTIAL HE HAD THEN WHAT WAS STOPPING THEM??? AH YES BY THE SOUNDS OF IT NOT WANTING TO CLAIM AS A COUPLE!!! MAY YOU INDEED TRULY GET WHAT YOU DESERVE

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GrumpyMoo · 03/05/2009 22:42

I think I have worked out the problem fumble (amazingly like exDP, surreal) has with my previous situation ie me paying all the bills etc. I ltterally have lightbulb over my head (actually most living rooms do I beleive lol but in my case it is lit up like christams!

Fumbles' problem seems to stem from their previously stated positioon of being old fashioned!!! I should have been giving my exDP ALL of MY money! To go with all of HIS money. Duh! Not asking him to contrubute to the household. Which obviously was MY house with MY kids and MY stuff in it. That what is the problem here!

I didn;t turn over all my money to HIM. Maybe I lucked out there! Could have left HIM with no money and all the bills to pay for too!!!!!!! I could have been living the life of riley and getting my nails done every week! Huge LOL over this. Poor guy was obviously feeling very minimised and small. Need I say more?

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pooka · 03/05/2009 22:43

I think you deserve a new keyboard, fumble. I truly hope you manage to get one, because the typing is almost as irritating as your pointless argument.

FairLadyRantALot · 03/05/2009 22:43

fumble readthe thread....thoroughly...that might tell you that this particu;ar bloke didn't want to share...

fruitbeard · 03/05/2009 22:43

DEAR COCKLODGER

YOU HAVE NOW PASSED BEYOND AMUSING INTO REPETITIVE BOLLOCK-SPEAK, now kindly FUCK OFF, there's a DEAR

fumble · 03/05/2009 22:44

oLDLADY i REALLY DO RESENT YOUR COMMENTS I TOO HAVE READ THIS POST SO WHY DO YOU THINK I WROTE THAT?? AT LEAST I CAN SEE IT FOR WHAT IT IS AND THAT IS A CHEAT!

hAS GRUMPY ANSWERED ANY QUESTIONS? IF YOU ARE ON BENEFITS YOU SHOULD LIVE AS A COUPLE NOT AS A RESULT OF SOME WOMENS ISSUES SURROUNDING HER XH!

dittany · 03/05/2009 22:44

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OldLadyKnowsNothing · 03/05/2009 22:45

Fumble, you can resent as much as you like, you're still a cunt.

pooka · 03/05/2009 22:45

It's the key on the left of the letters (next to A on my keyboard). Is really useful for making one appear less unhinged.

FairLadyRantALot · 03/05/2009 22:45

the x hubbie isn't the current problem

fumble · 03/05/2009 22:45

rEAD THE POST FRUIT BEARD I HAVE WHAT WAS HER EX SAYING?? ABOUT GETTING INFORMATION FROM WEBSITES >??? IS THAT NOT WHAT SHE HAS BASED ALL OF THIS ON???