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...To expect monetary contribution from my DP??

498 replies

GrumpyMoo · 29/04/2009 16:24

... In any form. I'm not asking for all his money to go off and spend as I like. But SOMETHING towards his keep would help. And how do I ask him NOW after we have lived together on and off (more off than on TBH) for nearly a year?? HELP someone. Need kick up the backside or somehting please??

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OldLadyKnowsNothing · 03/05/2009 21:55

I imagine Grumpy is relaxing offline after a stressful weekend, fumble. Why, in your opinion (which doesn't require that any of us know any of the truth about this situation) should her ex not have paid anything towards his own keep?

dittany · 03/05/2009 21:55

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FlyMeToDunoon · 03/05/2009 21:56

Aha does fumble now have some specific information?

So what is it like living with the cocklodger?

fumble · 03/05/2009 21:56

Doris Have YOU never read something that mad you angry so you felt you should say something?

Life is hard enough for me and hubby and to read things like this makes me sick! I bet she has far more money in that house than we do so what does she do with all HER MONEY?

DorisIsAPinkDragon · 03/05/2009 21:56

Why on early would she want to tie her finances to someone who put nothing of what they already claimed towards their own keep???

Well rid, he can disappear off to some other sucker!!

fruitbeard · 03/05/2009 21:57

MENATL? S'wossat?

I ask again - how do we know that YOU are not the ex/his wife?

What about YOUR ELABORATE SCAM TO MILK GRUMPYMOO and put the cash into a SECRET OFFSHORE ACCOUNT in order to buy up stocks of Tamiflu for when the swine fever hits??

It's all bollocks, of course, much like your ridiculous postings...

fruitbeard · 03/05/2009 21:58

I'm getting to quite like this RANDOM POSTING IN CAPITALS style of semi-lucid consciousness...

fumble · 03/05/2009 21:58

PMSL FRUITBEARD exactly how does anyone know anything??

Good discussion though!

PortoPandemico · 03/05/2009 21:58

Ooh err - this has kicked off! fumble you sound like a loon! Can you calmly state in what way Grumpy is cheating the system and where the evidence lies for that in this thread, and then people might not just think you are a troll/exW. You seem very convinced so it should be relatively easy.....surely?

FairLadyRantALot · 03/05/2009 21:58

Fumble...I think you are the mad one here...it is op's x hubby who was controlling/abusive, not this, now, x-partner...this one was a user...

op, I am glad you are now shot of him....you are to good for him... best of luck to you and your Kids

pooka · 03/05/2009 21:59

Again - why shouldn't a man contribute towards his food, use of electricity, use of a house? I am gathering from grumpy's posts that he didn't go out and buy his own food to complement the food she bought for herself and her children. Ditto I assume he kept no records of water/heating/phonecalls and other living expenses.

Fact is, he was living with grumpy as her partner.

He had money coming in. She had money coming in (partly to pay for her children). Shared pot, shared expenses, surely? Only of course not, in this case, he made no financial contribution to the household running.

Fumble you are completely missing the point.

lizziemun · 03/05/2009 21:59

FUMBLE

whether she/they were claiming as a couple is not the point. The point is HE WAS NOT PAYING TOWARDS THE COST OF LIVING FOR EITHER HIM OR HIS DAUGHTER.

Does your so called DH pay towards living in your house, if so why shouldn't grumpymoo ex do the same.

dittany · 03/05/2009 21:59

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FlyMeToDunoon · 03/05/2009 21:59

I have rarely read such a concentrated one track attack on a poster.
You have no history, no profile and nobody knows who you are.

DorisIsAPinkDragon · 03/05/2009 22:00

Yup life is also hard for me, but if the Government feels that is what she needs to keep the house then she is doing no wrong in claiming it.

She has not at any point suggested she is defuading the system.

IMHO there are far more important things to get mad about, people living off others income and not contributing for one....

fumble · 03/05/2009 22:00

Fairlady re read Grumpys post about her controlling XH not allowing her to spend anything and then later on writes that now money is HER MONEY!

DorisIsAPinkDragon · 03/05/2009 22:00

Yup life is also hard for me, but if the Government feels that is what she needs to keep the house then she is doing no wrong in claiming it.

She has not at any point suggested she is defuading the system.

IMHO there are far more important things to get mad about, people living off others income and not contributing for one....

OldLadyKnowsNothing · 03/05/2009 22:00

What she did with HER MONEY (and £750 of the banks) was pay to keep a roof over the heads of herself, her children, you her cocklodger and your her cocklodger's daughter. To put food in bellies. To heat the house. To buy clothes for all. Etc Etc Etc.

Why, in your opinion, is it OK for a man to live free of any financial responsibilities at all?

fruitbeard · 03/05/2009 22:01

YES Dittany you are SO RIGHT

(and it's not OFTEN I find MYSELF typing that!)

DorisIsAPinkDragon · 03/05/2009 22:03

Sorry life really is hard !!!

lizziemun · 03/05/2009 22:03

Perhaps Fumble should his her own thread about his her problems instead of hijacking this one as there are obviously some big issues.

StercusAccidit · 03/05/2009 22:04

OMG i can NOT beleeeeeeeeeve i missed this.

Thank GOD you have chucked him grumpy moo

Forget about getting your own back, slashing his tyres, getting your phone back ect.

Returning his stuff you did the right thing, now get on with the rest of your life my love.

FWIW i don't think fumble is your XP or his XW, i think they are just someone who came on here to comment about benefit fraud or something, iggy is best for those who aren't cheering you on ATM... she may feel like she has a valid point but its a whole other thread.. this is a

YAAY got rid of the cocklodger thread

fumble · 03/05/2009 22:04

oLD lADY stop referring me as her ex! As I certainly am not!

What I am saying is that if they went together then their money would have been joint and they would have had roughley the same money for two people as you get for one.

So what WAS SHE expecting???

DorisIsAPinkDragon · 03/05/2009 22:04

Fumble- how do you justify (in your heasd) living with someone but NOT CONTRIBUTING??

(thought i'd have a go too!)

caramelwaffle · 03/05/2009 22:05

Oh fumble. You DO tempt me..

Do you care to respond SPECIFICALLY to this?

"Hmmmm.

Perhaps the twat having to move back in with his wife has messed up HER (and his?) plans for her to be claiming to be single - and therefore receiving Housing Benefit/Council tax benefit/single parent tax credits etc etc
(and having their mortgage paid by the Government/us mugs

Just a thought. Ho hum.