To ask DH to bring a couple of bits of shopping home? (continued)

[chickenmama]

Starting a new thread for starsnstripes as the old one got to 1000 posts.

Hope everyone finds this ok

And hope you're doing ok stars x

What dread just said made me think of something - the only time I need to put my passwords in on this pc is after I've accessed mumsnet, email etc from another computer.
This afternoon I was using the netbook and had to put the passwords in. Then tonight I came back on this pc and noticed that I had to give the passwords again.
Makes me wonder if he had a check of your email while he was at work, or on his own pc.

Yes I KNOW I'm cynical!! I just can't help it!!

flibberty, sorry. no offence intended, just liked the name.

No offence taken! I've been called a lot worse ... like an old boot

I stopped myself there, having just this weekend being asked if I'm twins with my sis who is 14 years older than me (and a hell of a lot more tolerant)

also, "boot" is a hell of a lot easier to type than the "F"word

I have clicked on forgotten password.
Put in my e mail address then clicked the little circle which says @btinternet.com.
Then it asks me my 2 sercurity questions which have'nt chnaged.
But says I cannot access it and need to ring the helpdesk.

H has a desktop PC and is linked to my laptop.

Great Led Zeppelin quote.

cazzaben-I will try to remember that.
I know when I have beeen anxious in the past but done something anyway I feel a sense of great achievement.

Well feel a sense of greate achievement right now then. Go back to thread 1 and read if you can't see just how far you've come

Is it linked to the laptop meaning that the laptop uses the same modem as the desktop? Like me and dp now, but I can't see anything he is doing and would have to get hold of the notebook and check his history, and would need his passwords.

Or

Is it networked with the desktop in which case I'd stop posting and cancel the threads.

If it makes you feel any better I went to the bt page and clicked on 'forgotten your password' I didn't even get as far as the questions - it told me to ring the helpdesk as it doesn't recognise the data I'm putting in which is my own bloody date of birth! And just like you, I doubted myself - and checked the numbers on my date of birth!

Wow stars! Have been keeping up with your story and posted a couple of times. You are doing fantasic! I am amazed at the change in you and a big huge massive well done for allowing dread to help you. This is MN at its very, very best

Good luck stars. You are amazing, keep it up!!!!

Stars - can't you treat the WA just as a 'holiday' period - away from worries of being found etc - it would give you space and time to find the right place to rent?

dread-I will go back and have a read.

flibberty-We have a bt broadband wireless set up and think (sorry am terrible at all this computer jargon)that it may be networked with his PC.

I am sure I am typing in the correct password though .
Could I have pressed something by mistake and it has for sercurity stoped me getting into it?

Thanks Holy,am getting there.

Think of all the other lovely ladies you could meet at wa. instant friends. People in the same situation who don't even need to ask you anything because they will just know.

Flibberty-had'nt thought of that ,will need new friends.

Could I request a sunshine bright yellow knitted parachute please?

Ok everyone, send me any silk you have lying around and I can start on some glamorous knickers for me a parachute for Stars

Only if you promise to be needing it very soon

Can't knit as fast as I can type though!

When I first went internetty about 11 years ago, the person who set me up with it was a boyfriend at the time who was a bit wierd (never available weekends and always excuses why I could never phone him at home hmmmm).

Anyway the relationship didn't last long, sidetrack there. He was rather overweight and came from liverpool with an accent that would make Colleen Rooney sound posh.

He set up the email and internet log on passwords. I didn't think anything of it (I wasn't as cynical then!).

Remember in pre broad band days your internetting made your phone line engaged. So he rings up and says ' I tried to ring earlier but you were on the internet'. I said I might have been on a phone call.

'Oh no, I know that you were on the internet'

He'd been logging in as me to check who I was emailing and what about!!

He was dumped very soon after but kept ringing me up. So I changed the password, but left the question the same so that if he tried to do it again he would click on lost password, answer the question, and be given the new password.

I changed it to 'Fatscousegit'

I knew he'd seen it by the way he suddenly stopped calling. I then changed the password again AND the questions!

Just a silly story about a controlling bloke and a pc password, trying to give you a this sunday evening!

Is he in the pub? Passed out upstairs? Are you upstairs in peace and quiet?

I think it's best if you plan the finer points of your escape offline with WA and the lady here who is helping you. For your own safety

silky knickers sound good,although won't be needing them for a while.

Fab story flibberty.

He went up to bed ,he is in the spare room and was on his PC but he has gone to bed now.
I am on my laptop in my bedroom.

x posts pemblass-that would be a good idea,just in case.

I honestly don't think he has access to your pc comings and goings.

Do you really think he would have just gone to work last Friday without any kind of comment at all, or even without saying on Thursday 'I think I'll have a day off tomorrow and spend some time with you' if he had been reading all this and people telling you to just go with dreadpirate?

At the very least he'd have rung in sick, set off for work and then come home saying he'd forgotten something, rung to see what you were doing, come home and said 'I tried to ring you this afternoon where were you?'

etc etc etc.

I think he wonders if you are emailing someone, I really don't think he would ever imagine that you've got something like THIS going on in cyberspace!

I'm off to bed now, all at work and nursery tomorrow. Hope you have a peaceful night and by the way if you are still having trouble sleeping, make another appt to see the doc. When I had my work bullying thing it was the stress induced lack of sleep for 12 months that was making me ill and unable to cope with everything. I turned down anti-depressants but accepted something to just help me sleep and by the next morning I felt like a new woman. If you don't want to go to the doctors you could try some Valerian tea from a health food shop. It knocks me out quite well if I can feel myself a bit edgy in an evening. I make up a very small strong amount though not a cupfull as otherwise your sleep is disturbed getting up to go to the loo!

What (sometimes) works for me is spearmint and chamomile tea - only way I can drink chamomile without feeling sick.

Guess I'd better get some sleep too. Will see you here or the new thread tomorrow.

Sleep tight

xx

Thanks flibberty,will try and get some sleep.

Sleep well ,night.

x posts-night dread.

morning stars
am hoping this will be the week you start the beginning of the rest of your life. you sound more than ready. x

Morning stars, still following all this. You're doing so so well!

Dread has been a fantastic help, she truly is an angel, you deserve every bit of help too, you're an angel also for putting up with all this shit for so long.

Hoping it's not long for you now.

I'm just worried that starks feeling strong enough to cope with her H, and so wont leave.
Please get out Stars.....

Xxx

Morning Stars - hope you have a good day today...