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to be shocked at 20 month old sitting in a pram feeding himself a jar of baby food on a bus?

515 replies

justneedsomesleep · 23/03/2009 18:08

Probably Miss Judgey pants here. But surely if he's capably feeding himself with a spoon, it shouldn't be a crappy jar of baby food! And on a bus while mum talking on her mobile phone!

Guessing he was a bout 20 months as older than my ds but prob not 2. Was a bit shocked at the self feeding on the bus,and crap nature of it....

....flame away.....
I'm ready for it..

OP posts:
screamingabdab · 23/03/2009 20:05

Mintyy I agree.

Enough about the name , already

TooManyKidsToName · 23/03/2009 20:06

If tomanykidstoname wants this name she is welcome to it, if i can give it to her?

Is it possible to do that?

Thats if she wants it?

DSM · 23/03/2009 20:07

I don't think it was a personal thing to tomanykidstoname TBH, it was just that the people who have actually said this was somehow 'shocking' have been generally mocked, and she 'took the bait' so to speak.

She also riled a few people earlier when likening the situation to abuse.

MmeLindt · 23/03/2009 20:09

I don't get the horror at jars of food. When I had DD we were told that jars of food are better for the DC than cheap veg as the jars are made from organic ingredients so very healthy.

DD was not still eating jars of food regularly at 20mths, but I might have given her one occasionally when we were on the go.

I also do not sit and watch the DC eat. We normally have at least one meal a day together but I often do other things while they are eating.

You don't have to sit and interact constantly wiht your children. In fact, I like it when I am doing something and I can hear them chattering to each other. It does them good to have time to interact with each other and not have mummy dominate the conversation.

MsSpentYouth · 23/03/2009 20:11

I am sure the organic jars are actually worse than the non-organic jars?

Because of them not being able to add vitimins to them to keep the organic, it luls you into false security.

Alona78 · 23/03/2009 20:12

I have just read through this and i don't think she likened it to abuse, what she said was that we all need too take more notice and not be scared too speak up! If this is the treatment they got for saying something bothered them then is it any wonder people are scared too speak out when the see a problem in their eyes?

pinkmagic1 · 23/03/2009 20:13

Very judgmental, I think. Nobody is a perfect mother and if the child was hungry and this is all the mother had on her then whats the problem.
I make home cooked food from sratch most days but my kids do sometimes have a Mcdonalds or god forbid, a Gregs pasty or a fruit shoot and sometimes in the case of my youngest in her pushchair! Its all about balance and people shouldn't be so quick to judge.

popsycal · 23/03/2009 20:13

I am sitting in bed eating yesterday's cold pizza. But most alarming, I am on my side of the bed rather than DH's

And OMg DSM - where have you re-sprung form!?!?

DSM · 23/03/2009 20:15

Alona - it is the fact that this 'incident' that she felt people needed to speak up about was a child eating on a bus. From a jar of food specifically designed for a child.

Its a fucking joke. Do you honestly think this is something that people should be bothered about? A mother making a phonecall whilst her child eats??

For Fuck Sake.

sazlocks · 23/03/2009 20:15

what are these buses that you speak of

psychomum5 · 23/03/2009 20:15

but alona, what is the problem with feeding your child on the bus, that would need speaking out about??

please tell me, I might learn something then!!

things to speak out about is beating the crap out of your child, swearing and being utterly abusive in your language towards your child, not letting your child feed themselves.

DSM · 23/03/2009 20:17

Popsycal -hello! I was away touring for nearly a year, and internet-less for the large part, but I am back

Mmm... cold pizza..

MsSpentYouth · 23/03/2009 20:18

alona, thats a nice name, and do you know what is really strange, tomanykidstocounts name is alona too!

You have more in common than you think

Alona78 · 23/03/2009 20:19

Because it doesn't bother other people doesn't mean it's not right for it too bother her, everyone's different any one of us on here could have doubts about a real abuse case in our neighbourhood that we would have came on here and asked about before we did anything,if they read comments like these women have recieved would they bother?

popsycal · 23/03/2009 20:20

DSm - touring?!?!? You in a rock band or something?!

Hijacking sorry
should start a new trhead

MsSpentYouth · 23/03/2009 20:21

its received (remember i before e except after c)

psychomum5 · 23/03/2009 20:24

but alona, this is not about abuse. this is about being judgemtental!

this thread really would not put off anyone who had real fears, believe me. it may put off the OP from returning however!!

DSM · 23/03/2009 20:24

Alona...

Are you serious?

Real abuse case? This is a child eating food. get a fucking grip on reality.

Oh, and we know you are tomanykidstoname.

Popsycal - something like that

chegirl · 23/03/2009 20:27

I used to put a jar of fruit in my bag when I took the kids out. I made all their stuff at home but it was much easier to take jars out shopping etc. Specially fruit as they would always eat that. Surely its better than a packet of monster munch?

There is so much snobbery about food nowdays. I am amazed any new mums would DARE to feed their kids in public less they are stoned and chased with pitchforks for filling their kids with toxic substances.

There cannot be a parenting forum that does not have thread about how awful some mother is for feeding their child in the wrong way. The wrong way basically meaning differently from the person who starts the thread.

Its a trickle down version of the way women are so bloody hung up on their own eating habits. Well IMO and I am very clever.

BTW to the OP this rant is not directed at you. It is a corescating (love that word but not sure if I can spell it) indictment of the state of our society as a whole

Portofino · 23/03/2009 20:27

Are you famous, DSM?

popsycal · 23/03/2009 20:29

dsm
hmmmm

i havebeen having more babies and you have been living the high life???
spill!!!!!!

MsSpentYouth · 23/03/2009 20:31

i actually think that tomanykidstoname is a micky take

look here where sh tells of getting pregnant in the last few weeks of pregnancy or a couple of weeks after because her two youngest at 8 months and 16 months

RaspberryBlower · 23/03/2009 20:31

Chegirl - I never really considered all this weaning shite in that context before, but that is an interesting point.

screamingabdab · 23/03/2009 20:32

Hi che!! How are ya?

DSM · 23/03/2009 20:32

Popsy - more babies! Congratulations

Its not as 'high life' as I think may imagine, but I have had one hell of a good year!