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Original poster

To reject this invite from a new neighbour?

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TheDevilWearsPrimark · 13/03/2009 01:24

Maybe I'm being a grump but I find it a bit confrontational. I'm confused as to what they mean too. They posted it through my door today, I haven't even seen them yet (they have moved in four doors up).

Hiya Neighbour

On 24th of March our building work will be over and we will be good to go. If you could drop round with housewarmers between 3pm and 7pm we would be happy to offer a glass of wine.

Kind Regards
X and X

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cornsilk · 13/03/2009 01:26

Eh? What's a housewarmer? Are they swingers do you think?

MsSpentYouth · 13/03/2009 01:26

If you don't want to go don't go, tell them you can't get childcare

It would put my back up too, as they aren't really inviting, more telling you to go

I would be

Alambil · 13/03/2009 01:28

I wonder if they mean "Feel free to drop in between 3-7" but are clumsy at saying so?

I rekon that's it more than anything out of order.

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TheDevilWearsPrimark · 13/03/2009 01:30

I don't know! I don't understand any of it. It's very odd behaviour here in london too, it usually takes me a few months to notice new neighbours.

What do they mean , are they expecting a tray of cakes a la Wisteria Lane?

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cornsilk · 13/03/2009 01:32

Maybe they're from ooop North and don't realise that there are rules!

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TheDevilWearsPrimark · 13/03/2009 01:33

I'm from oop north! I know the rules

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cornsilk · 13/03/2009 01:34

Me too!

tigerdriver · 13/03/2009 01:34

Er, I think they are asking you round for a housewarming. It's pretty much what I would say, TBH.

Why don't you just go and meet them?

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TheDevilWearsPrimark · 13/03/2009 01:35

I thought at first they must be American but they spelt neighbour with a U.

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MsSpentYouth · 13/03/2009 01:36

If they want 'housewarmers' you should take them a log for their fire

Cheeky so and so's.

Thats like saying 'pop by with a gift on my birthday between 3 and 7'

not a good first impression

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TheDevilWearsPrimark · 13/03/2009 01:37

It's just plain odd when you live in London.

I must be a grump eh?

Are they trying to tell me to bring a gift tough, or a cake?

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cornsilk · 13/03/2009 01:39

I wondered whether they meant a gift or were referring to other invited neighbours?

tigerdriver · 13/03/2009 01:44

Don't they just mean - with the other housewarmers - ? Or perhaps I am naive on this and they expect a fondue set

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TheDevilWearsPrimark · 13/03/2009 01:47

'housewarmers' meaning warm bodies?

Maybe. I took it to mean gifts.

Ach who knows what they meant , I suppose I'll rsvp with a maybe. The only neighbour I know well is a lovely Irish woman next door, she's 87 and very straight talking so I will ask her tomorrow if she got an invite and what she thinks.

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tigerdriver · 13/03/2009 01:49

Oh just go, drink their drink and take that bottle of wine you won on the preschool tombola, if you lived near me I would give you the half a dozen bottles of crap tombola wine that have been circulating this village!

TinkerBellesMumandFiFi2 · 13/03/2009 01:57

I think they mean people TBH.

MadamDeathstare · 13/03/2009 01:59

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TheDevilWearsPrimark · 13/03/2009 02:01

You are right I think. I'll just pop over with a bottle of wine, will be fine whatever they meant. It is odd for London though.

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FiveBells · 13/03/2009 02:09

Good lord, they are being relaxed , even..... friendly!!
Paraphrasing, they are saying "Hello new neighbours, who we don't know yet, but would like to..... Thanks for putting up with any noise and inconvenience from our building works - its finally over and we'd like to thank you all and celebrate with sharing a few drinks with you all".

You are misreading their tone. How about challenging the habits of a million Londoners by turning up with a smile on your face and maybe even a cheap bottle of plonk - you never know, you might meet a pair of new friends. At the very least you'll avoid potential years of embarrassed face-turnings and road-crossings when you encounter each other in the street, after being so unfriendly for no good reason.

I speak as a former temporary Londoner.....

nooka · 13/03/2009 03:40

I think it's a bit oddly worded. Perhaps English isn't their first language? Difficult to tell whether it's come with a gift or just come. But I'd be bringing a bottle (or something) in any case to a housewarming.

Lawks · 13/03/2009 04:21

They sound Australian to me.

I don't think they could possibly mean gifts, because who would do that?

They might mean sth to eat? Like they'll provide the booze but you could bring a bag of crisps and some dip or something?

They sound nice.

thirtypence · 13/03/2009 06:43

I took it to mean a plate - am in NZ.

MaryBS · 13/03/2009 06:58

I took it to mean a plate of food too.

I think it sound clumsy, but lovely and I would go.

compo · 13/03/2009 07:10

I agree wit 5bells
why must there be a maning in everything? fgs they're just inviting you round for a glass of wine in return for putting up with their building work and to get friendly wit you. Is that so sinister?!!

georgimama · 13/03/2009 07:16

I reckon they are Australian - an overtly cheery race with an odd turn of phrase.