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Original poster

To reject this invite from a new neighbour?

233 replies

TheDevilWearsPrimark · 13/03/2009 01:24

Maybe I'm being a grump but I find it a bit confrontational. I'm confused as to what they mean too. They posted it through my door today, I haven't even seen them yet (they have moved in four doors up).

Hiya Neighbour

On 24th of March our building work will be over and we will be good to go. If you could drop round with housewarmers between 3pm and 7pm we would be happy to offer a glass of wine.

Kind Regards
X and X

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PfftTheMagicDragon · 13/03/2009 07:22

Is English their first language? It sounds like an English sentence typed into an online translator...bizarre

Lemontart · 13/03/2009 07:22

Well, they sound like lovely neighbours and what a shame that they live in a place where someone is so suspicious and freaked out by a simple invite to a small party that they go on the internet and discuss it in terms like this. You wonder if they are the ones being weird??

Not all London is cold and bleak with nobody talking to each other! I lived in London for a while and found it warm, welcoming and friendly. My neighbours all chatted and got together now and again. Then again, we were prepared to smile, say hello and make the effort too. If you get nothing back from a little friendliness then you could well end up finding it cold and stand offish in return. If you are looking for more isolation and really unfriendly neighbours who will not bother you with trivial party invites, I am sure there are plenty of places you could consider other than a city..

EdwardBear · 13/03/2009 07:33

Odd phrasing, but nice thought.
Go and meet them. You might even like them!

PadDad · 13/03/2009 08:19

Yes, YABU.

What Lemontart and EdwardBear said.

Why reject?

wotulookinat · 13/03/2009 08:21

Sounds like they are being friendly. YABU.

Coldtits · 13/03/2009 08:22

Take them a cake and drink their plonk, you might make the best friends you ever have. Stop being silly, YABU./ Just because you are a Londoner and weird about People doesn't mean everyone has the same weirdnesses

lilymolly · 13/03/2009 08:23

YABU I am with Lemontart

Seem like a lovely invitation to me from neighbours.

Yes I am a northerner who lives in the country and we have the most wonderful neighbours in about a 3 mile radius where everyone helps each other out.

Makes life far more tolerable

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TheDevilWearsPrimark · 13/03/2009 08:25

I will go! I genuinely misread it and thought they were asking for gifts, but now realise not.

I am friendly with my neighbours, even helped one out with a shopping delivery for her when she was struggling for money, but some of them have snubbed me.

Now I know what they mean they do sound nice.

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Ledodgy · 13/03/2009 08:25

I took it to mean gifts too unless they want you to bring people to warm their house. The 'we would be happy to offer you a glass of wine' sounds weird too.

onebatmother · 13/03/2009 08:29

Freaks.

Altagloria · 13/03/2009 08:30

FWIW... I think they mean bring a present. You can get 'house warmer baskets' on Amazon for new neighbours. Sounds like the offer of a glass of wine is in return for the present!

Making the effort to meet new neighbours is great. Asking for a present or assuming you're getting one is not great, so YANBU.

BitOfFun · 13/03/2009 08:30

The way I read it is that the housewarmers are the other guests coming. Unless they want you to round some more up...that should impress them: maybe take a dozen of your mates and the karaoke machine?

ilove · 13/03/2009 08:30

Blimey we did this when we moved in here!

Moved in end October, and at the start of December sent out an invite to "open house" with coffee, mince pies and mulled wine on offer and invited the estate.

4 years on we met some lovely people that day who we are still friends with now. I'd be mortified if I thought they were discussing our genuine, friendly invitation online like this!

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TheDevilWearsPrimark · 13/03/2009 08:32

Fancy coming BoF?

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TheDevilWearsPrimark · 13/03/2009 08:33

(Hijacks own thread again, so what are you wearing on Sunday, casual or dressy?)

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BitOfFun · 13/03/2009 08:34

I will restrain myself from Uggs and trackie pants seeing as it's you - but I think you should make an effort to go native

mrspnut · 13/03/2009 08:34

I've taken it to imply that it's a housewarming and to let you know that there will be other people there as opposed to you being invited on your own.

When I lived in London, our little community was very friendly and I probably spoke to more neighbours there than I do now living in a village.

Flier · 13/03/2009 08:41

rather strange, but maybe their electrics aren't completed yet and they want one of these yankee housewarmer candles from each of their neighbours to give them light?

amidaiwish · 13/03/2009 08:42

i live in London and we are all friendly, often have drinks/bbqs in the summer with all the neighbours.

anyway, it is oddly worded.
i think they either mean bring some snacks, but probably other people. as in "bring any neighbours or friends you like, would be good to meet you all"

go! and report back...

piscesmoon · 13/03/2009 08:53

YABU I think it is nice if people introduce themselves and want to be friendly.

JustCallMeGoat · 13/03/2009 09:00

i think you should stock up on tins, nail down all door and windows and blackout the windows in case anyone tries this shit again.

mm22bys · 13/03/2009 09:02

Strange, I was all set to say YABU, but what does "we will be good to go" mean? Are they leaving?

And are they expecting something? What are "housewarmers"?

Very strange....

YANBU, but maybe drop round before to suss them out, maybe they are actually "normal" and who knows you may hit it off with them!

sazlocks · 13/03/2009 09:04

I think its nice too. We did this when we first moved in to our new house. Being new to the area as well it was a great way to meet all of our neighbours. We live in a small and close knit community so they had all been wondering who we were, what we did, what the inside of the house looked like so it got all that gossiping over and done with in one go as well ! 5 years on we have made some really good friends amongst our neighbours so I would say go for it, take a cake as a hello - what have you got to lose ?

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TheDevilWearsPrimark · 13/03/2009 09:06

I'm going to! I will take some lovely muffins and a bottle of wine. it is the wording that threw me. Glad some agree it is strange and a little confusing?

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ShauntheSheep · 13/03/2009 09:07

Seems like a really wierd way of writing an invite. I'd be a bit as I cant really make out what they are trying to say.

The 'good to go' does sound like it might be Austrailian tho but have no idea what they mean by housewarmers.

However the offer of a glass of wine would get me there anyday.

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