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To reject this invite from a new neighbour?

233 replies

TheDevilWearsPrimark · 13/03/2009 01:24

Maybe I'm being a grump but I find it a bit confrontational. I'm confused as to what they mean too. They posted it through my door today, I haven't even seen them yet (they have moved in four doors up).

Hiya Neighbour

On 24th of March our building work will be over and we will be good to go. If you could drop round with housewarmers between 3pm and 7pm we would be happy to offer a glass of wine.

Kind Regards
X and X

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solowitch · 13/03/2009 12:54

Not read this thread except for a half dozen posts.

'Strange for London'. Hmmmmm. It's only strange because no one talks to their neighbours anymore. People don't smile and say hello.
I think it's a fabulous thing to do and who knows, you may find you become great RL friends(or get an invitation to their next swingers night/orgy

Enjoy!

solowitch · 13/03/2009 12:58

And I would take the 'house warmers' thing as joining other people invited to the house warming. It's not Japanese(or perhaps they are Japanese

Flier · 13/03/2009 13:14

Here's a thought - go and knock on their door and enquire whatthe colour scheme for their living/dining room or kitchen is and say it is so you know what to bring as a housewarmer. Of course you can then rsvp in person.

haemomum · 13/03/2009 13:35

It's quite an upfront and dare I say - cheeky - way to tell invite people round! I'd go to their house with a tape measure a few days before, and when they ask what you're doing, say you're "measuring up for a housewarmer, any particular colour?" but hey that's just me

lowrib · 13/03/2009 13:51

FFS! OK it's badly worded, but the underlying sentiment of an offer of friendship.

Lets all stay at home, never make new friends or welcome neighbours, especially those whose invitations don't meet our standards!

YABU.

Merrylegs · 13/03/2009 13:52

Yeah, but watch out.

They are asking for 'housewarmers' (ie multiples) and in return they would be happy to offer 'a' (as in singular) glass of wine.

What happens if you would like another glass of wine? Would they still be as happy then?

Be v. careful DWP. Do not go alone.

Ivykaty44 · 13/03/2009 14:00

I read it as they would like to give you a glass of wine at their place on 24 March if you can go along.

I invited all my neighbours within a rsnable distance to a housewarming party, about two weeks after I had moved in.

i had 12 bottles of wine and went round continualy topping up the drinks on a Sunday lunch time.

One man fell over his wall getting home and all the dc were sent back to my house to play as their parents were sleeping of thier hangovers!

Housewarmers are people that go to the house, you just pop along and say hello have a glass or two of wine and go home. You get to talk to people that live near you, it might be a pleasant way of spening a few hours.

I would think the wine has been mentioned to intice you to go

mm22bys · 13/03/2009 14:24

I'm Australian, and I say "Hiya".

We most definitely would never ever ever ask for a gift! I know we as Aussies are supposed to be forthright, but we would never ever ever be so presumptuous!

I actually asked my mum about this thread, I haven't lived in Oz for more than 10 years (although this time two weeks I will be making my way back for semi-good), and she wasn't sure if either "good to go" or "housewarmers" were Aussie expressions.

I am so curious as to what the story is DWP. Please let us know what you find out!

RumourOfAHurricane · 13/03/2009 14:27

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Hulababy · 13/03/2009 14:31

It is this part "If you could drop round with housewarmers" that makes me a bit

I do read that as come round with a gift. What else would your drop round with,

And if just asking people round for a drink wouldnt you just write (based on OP message)

"If you would like to drop round between 3pm and 7pm we would be happy to offer a glass of wine"

Maybe it is just wierdly written, but I do think it is a strange phrase.

I'd go if I was free for a while - out of curiousity. I would probably feel like I should take something though, even if just some nice cake or flowers.

RumourOfAHurricane · 13/03/2009 14:35

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Bubbaluv · 13/03/2009 14:40

I'm Australian and had never heard anyone say "Hiya" until i moved to London- I was under the impression it was an Essex thing!?
None of the note sounds even slightly Australian to me, and I would be just as bemused as the OP.
I'm sure there are parts of Australia where people go knocking on their neighbours doors to introduce themselves ect, but where I'm from (Sydney) I would not expect any more interaction than would be the norm in London.
Sounds like people on this thread watch too many Australian soaps!

Ivykaty44 · 13/03/2009 14:43

The housewarmers are the other guest, you need housewarmers at a housewarming party that was how I read it anyhoe,

totalmisfit · 13/03/2009 14:48

oh be nice and go along. just take someone with you. at the very least, if they're weird as hell you'll have something funny to share on MN the next day and you'll get a glass of wine out of it too.

ScottishMummy · 13/03/2009 16:55

this has made me smile.talk about cant see the invite for the alleged nuance,for the words,for the composition

this daft so called etiquette,is hilarious

well you think they would say oh my very gosh fancy popping round after suppah

are they english

fancy sending an invite like that

ding ding

they are offering a free wine and nosy around their new home

not too dip your wick with the neighbours.though that would certainly constitute housewarming in some parts

look forward to hearing all aout it

elsiepiddock · 13/03/2009 17:03

Haven't read whole thread but 'housewarmers'? what does that mean?

Maybe they meant legwarmers?

Homebird8 · 13/03/2009 17:06

In the end you need to decide whether you want to meet them or not. Either way it doesn't matter in terms of who you are.
Go if you're nosy, lonely or welcoming. Don't go if you're busy, you're scared, or you don't want to impose.
What do you want to do?

jalopy · 13/03/2009 17:07

Perhaps the only remaining job is to install the central heating and they would like each guest to provide a radiator.

lalalonglegs · 13/03/2009 17:16

God, they sound frightful. Poor you. Any chance you can move?

carocaro · 13/03/2009 17:28

I'd go round just to be darn nosey about what they had done! And wine! You don't have to be best mates overnight, perhaps they are just trying to be nice and perhaps they pissed a few people off with their building works and are trying to build bridges, Christ know our neighbours pissed us right off with their building work and not even a sorry once!

Go and get pissed!

ZZZen · 13/03/2009 17:38

I don't understand the bring housewarmers bit. If they mean a plate of food , I find it a bit odd. I probably would never do this but if I did invite new neighbours round like that, I would offer them a glass of wine AND something to eat too.

COuld have been phrased nicer IYAM.

DarrellRivers · 13/03/2009 17:44

I think the 'good to go' is slightly more interesting turn of phrase
Perhaps it's a swingers party

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TheDevilWearsPrimark · 13/03/2009 19:14

Maybe 'housewarmings' is the new pampas grass?

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kitbit · 13/03/2009 19:19

I took "housewarmers" to mean "other people who we want to invite to the housewarming". No?
But I like the idea of taking wine and muffins. I think they're just a bit clumsy with the wording but I think the sentiment is really nice.

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TheDevilWearsPrimark · 13/03/2009 19:24

you are totally right kitbit.

I can't believe this thread has such a response though, it was posted at stupid o clock I thought there'd be a couple of replies.

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