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Horrid text 'joke' from a friend , how do I respond?

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TheDevilWearsPrimark · 28/02/2009 17:21

I feellike calling and ranting at her. It's bloody horrible.

Should I just ignore it? What do/ would you do?

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kitbit · 28/02/2009 17:22

Just ignore. The cold shoulder should do it and if she mentions it "did you get that hilarious joke?" then feel free to give your views

TheDevilWearsPrimark · 28/02/2009 17:23

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kitbit · 28/02/2009 17:23

Sorry sounded rushed and snippy got small person pulling on leg

solidgoldbullet4myvalentine · 28/02/2009 17:24

Ignore it. She has obviously mixed you up with someone who has a similar sense of humour to her. Unless the joke is hurtful towards you or she ought to have known you wouldn't find it funny because the same thing happened to your teddy once or whatever, in which case OK she might have been a bit thoughtless, but really, it's hardly a big deal.

TheDevilWearsPrimark · 28/02/2009 17:24

Ah don't worry. Damn them small people. I think I may ignore. But would rather send her lengthy email putting her views to rights.

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andlipsticktoo · 28/02/2009 17:25

Text her back and say how horrified you are that she/he thought you would find something SO offensive funny.

2shoes · 28/02/2009 17:25

what a strange"joke"

noonki · 28/02/2009 17:25

I would reply. That's not funny and then delete her from my list.

I seriously would not be friends with anyone that used that word.

solidgoldbullet4myvalentine · 28/02/2009 17:26

Ah. Hadn't seen the joke before posting the last. I don't actually understand it myself. It would make me wonder about a friend who sent that to me, too. Why not text her back along the lines of 'Hi pal, someone's got your phone and is using it to send icky racist jokes to your mates, better give them a slap'.

TheDevilWearsPrimark · 28/02/2009 17:28

I don't understand either, she's never shown any racist traits, if she had she wouldn't be a friend of mine.

I actually felt angry when I read it. Still feel angry.

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dittany · 28/02/2009 17:30

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PenelopePitstops · 28/02/2009 17:36

feeling rather silly here as i dont undrestand the joke at all

but to use the word is awful, tll her you are disgusted

TheDevilWearsPrimark · 28/02/2009 17:38

I sent her a text maybe patronising but hey ho

' How lovely you are a woman with children in a western country that has the freedom to express such horrible views. '

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Katisha · 28/02/2009 17:39

QUite like solidgold's suggestion!

Princeonthemove · 28/02/2009 17:41

Is it a reference to the veil?

CarGirl · 28/02/2009 17:41

Dh said it should be say "muslim" or "Arab" perhaps it's a reference to woman wearing their head gear - sorry don't know the proper term.

He hadn't heard the joke before but it does make sense if that was what it meant to say.

Yep sick & racist not sure what you could say back in text though.

JacquelineBouvier · 28/02/2009 17:46

Penelopepitsops, i think its some weird and completely unfunny comment on women who wear hijabs.

TheDevilWearsPrimark · 28/02/2009 17:47

I just got a reply 'oh lighten up xxx'

Not sure I'll count her as a friend anymore.

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stoppinattwo · 28/02/2009 17:50

I actually wondered until i read the final few posts what the joke was on about...i thought what would someone find funny about someone looking through a letter box....now i understand, but still a bit of a shit joke....

TheDevilWearsPrimark · 28/02/2009 17:51

Now a text from her DP saying 'why not text someone tht gives fuck you posh bitch'

Death of a rienship, oh yes.

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noonki · 28/02/2009 17:54

rude fucker. Obviously hit a nerve.

HecatesTwopenceworth · 28/02/2009 17:55

they clearly know they're in the wrong. People often get mad when they know they have no excuse for their actions. they then turn on the person they really should be apologising to

lockets · 28/02/2009 17:57

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