to be thrilled that my friend has very politely requested that folk don't bring kids to his wedding.

[WouldYouCouldYouWithAGoat]

i love dd but quite excited at possiblity of a weekend sans children.

I'm always thrilled at this kind of suggestion

yy I wish more people did this

hurrah! it is down south so it might even be sunny!

YANBU
Its great to get a wee break and a boogie and a drink and.....
without worrying about the kids

Love them kind of wedding, friend asked us when he get's married in june did we want our 2 ds on the invite, we said No!! -

YANBU, though we've had similar polite request and we're going to find it really hard to stay for the whole wedding as it's hours from home and DD too young still to settle without us/ has been physically sick in the past as gets stressed. I'm torn as not sure my friend would understand and want to be there for her whole big day

I like going to weddings without the kids, too. Means I can get pissed and dance to the cheesy music with abandon.

No way! We are going to a wedding on Saturday, and our DDs (3.2 and 18mo) are invited. We both looked at each other and said "fat chance". No way on earth are our girls coming.

Sit through ceremony where quiet and respect is a must - check
Stand around while photos taken - check
Sit through meal where your table is guaranteed to be served last - check
Sit through hours of speeches - check
Wait until they are overtired and ready for bed before they can run around - check.

Not a place for my young children.

I did go to a wedding last year when DD2 was 9mo and extremely mummified and breastfeeding (bottle refuser) in another county, though, and was very grateful that the bride relaxed her 'no children' policy for DD.

Having said that, I politely told her that I didn't think I would be able to make it if DD couldn't attend, so she had a choice of DH, me and DD or not.

i banned children at my wedding reception - all of my friends where fine with this

those who were mums didnt feel guilty HAVING to leave their dc with a baysitter

if a invite says children welcome if you want, you then dither about bringing them and feel bad for leaving them

weddings are boring for children and one parent normally has to stay sober to look after their child

enjoy the time away with your dh

I wonder if all the people freaking out on the thread about the five-week sailing trip will now come over and berate you for abandoning your dcs for a weekend?

YANBU - the voice of reason!!

On my birth board on another forum someone mentioned that their DCs hadn't been invited to a wedding and most people were... Oh that's terrible, how could they, I would take the kids anyway and tell them the babysitter had let me down, I wouldn't go...

Thank god I find a voice of sanity over here!

Was invited to a wedding with DD (then 18 months) - well she was flower girl - and had my parents pick her up soon after ceromony was over!

We had lots of children at our wedding-it was lovely!

I have one in a few weeks. Without children and without DP (he's working, not banned ).

I can't wait!

To go against the grain I really don;t like weddings with no children. Been to loads and loads of weddings in my time, two of which were child free and these two were the least fun. They were too formal and stuffy, and not all relaxed and having a laugh. Was very disappointing. But that is obviously just my thoughts and opinions.

If people choose that for their wedding, fair enough. If that is what they want.

So long as people who make such decisions are fine about the fact that some guests may not be able to attend as a result, for whatever reason, then this is fin. If they then get all huffy if some guests can;t come hen they are being unreasonable.

Totally agree Hulababy.
What happened to weddings being a societal thing. These days weddings are all about getting together with only your peer group. Forget kids, foget family. Is it any wonder kids grow up not knowing how to behave around adults when they're never given the chance to be part of adults' lives?

I hate the formal, stuffy ones, I think they are all about families and shouldn't discriminate on age. People have to be free to do their own thing but I think they are missing out.(Also making it incredibly difficult for some guests).

Oh don't get me wrong, weddings with children are lovely, weddings without children are lovely.

Weddings without my children, whilst I have two full-nights sleep, eat some chocolate or a packet of crisps and poo without having a toddler blowing rasperries on my thighs is lovelier than lovely

and all in a posh hotel when the only thing I have to worry be on time for is my massage or hair cut

YANBU to want a weekend away sans children!
I don't like weddings without children tbh though, very dull and formal ime. If I'm going all day and its local I take mine to the day and return them home in time for bed If its away then I would do the same as you.
Friends weddings are different to family wedding for me iyswim.

We have recently been invited a wedding where the friend has very impolitely suggested that people don't bring children.

Not quite so good.

Also I suspect that some children will be there and not others - also not quite so good.

I think that people can choose what they want to do - obviously - but need to understand that sometimes that means people can't come or have to leave early.

think you either have to say children or no children

you cant have some but not invite others

I have only been invited to two no children weddings and both of them there have actually been children there - relatives children and best friends children etc.

We couldn't go to the first anyway because DD was tiny and I was BF. I saw the other kids in the photos on facebook

I didn't have children at mine not cause it was a stuffy affair but because I had a comedian at the start whos jokes were not appropriate for under18's

That's all very well, but what about those of us who literally can't go to weddings if our children aren't invited. I have been a parent for 11 years now and DH and I have never had a night away together. His parents are too elderly to cope, mine live abroad and as we have three DC dumping them on a friend for a sleepover is out of the question. Not everybody HAS people to take the children off their hands for a weekend.

We didn't have any young children at our wedding and it wasn't stuffy or formal.

Going back to the OP, isn't it nice when someone makes a decision and everyone is cool with it. It doesn't happen that often.