to dread my son getting married going on some of the attitudes to MIL on MN?

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I hope if my son ever does get married his wife will be more forgiving of me than some of the mumsnetters posting on here.

If I say absolutely anything to a prospective daughter in law I can expect it to be interpreted as possessive, arsy, interfering, not generous enough, too generous, the wrong kind of generous, want the grandchildren for themselves, want the grandchildren only at appointed times, favouring some grandchildren over others, not pc enough, not making enough effort, making too much effort, making the wrong kind of effort, not understanding, old fashioned, loony, mad, spiteful etc etc.

I appreciate some PEOPLE (not just MIL) will be any of the above but why do some women seem to really hate their MIL for trumped up reasons?

No worries, just realised that my post sounded bit topsy-turvy itself!

We were college 'sweethearts' so not a lot of baggage and our Mum's only became friends after we split up cos they were desperate for us to get back together.

15 years, both of us married with a LO each and I think they've finally given up !