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to be secretly chuffed that teenage boys shouted MILF at me when I walked

390 replies

LoveMyLapTop · 16/02/2009 17:42

past them?

ANd it was at me there was no one else around!

OP posts:
twinsetandpearls · 16/02/2009 23:28

They will have forgotten, remember post with care

LoveMyLapTop · 16/02/2009 23:29

its my new mantra

OP posts:
RiaParkinson · 16/02/2009 23:29

lovemylaptop no you wont

we all have those looking at the laptop through screwed up eyes because it scares us days!

StayFrosty · 16/02/2009 23:29

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

cornsilk · 16/02/2009 23:29

No-one will remember it LMLT.

nkf · 16/02/2009 23:33

I don't think you've made a tit of yourself. Not at all.
And I skimmed the rest of the thread and see that you were annoyed by the other thread. Started by me, I admit. It wasn't meant to be malicious. There seemed a lot of MN threads like that - hot drinks and toddlers etc - and I thought it would be funny. It is quite a funny thread, by the way.
But I'm sorry it upset you.

LoveMyLapTop · 16/02/2009 23:36

Thanks NKF
It was funny, all the other threads were funny too, but was starting t feel a bit picked on.
I dont hold grudges
So will start afresh tomorrow

OP posts:
smugaboo · 17/02/2009 01:14

My take on the original OP. There is so much handwringing about young people in our society. We worry about the values of our youth and their apparent lack of respect for their elders.

And then - some boys make a sexually lewd comment to an older woman in a public space and some posters on here seem to think it should be taken as a compliment. There is an implication that disrespectful, confrontational behaviour is OK in this circumstance because it implies that the boys find the woman sexually attractive - and she should be grateful and pleased. Take the comment in the vein it was intended - it was intended to be intimidating, sexually aggressive and demeaning.

C'mon, it was more about disfunctional male bonding than anything else.

LMLT - no disrespect intended to you. I can see you are feeling a bit battered by this thread but I am simply on the other side on this one.

mrsblanc · 17/02/2009 02:01

LMLT I am 100% in agreement with you and I can't relate to much of what is written here.

I too would have been flattered

JodieO · 17/02/2009 02:15

Some of you need to take the stick out of your arse tbh.

JodieO · 17/02/2009 02:17

And it doesn't have to mean anything, not every human emotion or action needs anylysing, sometimes, shock: horror: they just do things for the sake of it or because they feel a certain way; just like everybody else. Sigh.

Bumbleybee · 17/02/2009 02:55

What I find most concerning about this thread is the commonly held view of teenaged boys, it is as much a stereotype as any of the others identified on this thread.
If boys get treated as if they are hormone driven, would fuck anything and are unable to control their own desire, then surely this is what we will end up with.

Most teenagers, boys and girls, struggle with their hormones, but boys do not suddenly become sex pests when they become teenagers, just as girls are not automatically victims.

By the way am certain this will kill the thread once and for all!

OrmIrian · 17/02/2009 07:30

"women in my opinion feel threatened by attractive women - one of the downfalls of feminism "

No that isn't one of the downfalls of feminism at all Feminism allows women the right not to feel defined by their looks. Which is a good thing no?

OrmIrian · 17/02/2009 07:30

"women in my opinion feel threatened by attractive women - one of the downfalls of feminism "

No that isn't one of the downfalls of feminism at all Feminism allows women the right not to feel defined by their looks. Which is a good thing no?

OrmIrian · 17/02/2009 07:31

"am dreading coming back on tomorrow as i am sure people will come back for more"

Oops sorry laptop

Don't fret. This too will pass.

MrsGravy · 17/02/2009 07:39

Well LoveMyLapTop I hope you're proud of yourself. You have apparently, singlehandedly, set back the cause of feminisim by about 100 years or so. Before you know it Germaine Greer will be hurtling down your path in high dudgeon. Ms Pankhurst is spinning in her grave as I type.

Shame on you, shame on you.

LucyEllensmummy · 17/02/2009 08:08

Wayhaaaaaaaaayyyyyyy bitchnet mumsnet at its best again!!!

Someone posts to have a quite little boast about being wolf whistled at by younger lads or called a MILF (i honestly used to think it was to do with wearing leather trousers and thought she was being unreasonable for having such bad taste!)and she is villified to the point where she is clearly upset.

In my past i have been wolf whistled at, and asked to get my tits out (im blessed in that department) and of course i feigned indignity but i bloody loved it!! Now i walk past building sites and i can hear the tumbleweed a gathering - i can promise you, i would rather be objectified than ignored!

WHAT is unfeminist about wanting to be sexy? and recognised as such? Or should we all be walking around in sack cloth?? Of course it is sexist to be seen only in that light, but come on ladies, surely there are men (i mean there must be!) that we think Phwoooaarrrr i wouldnt mind being stuck in the lift with him for the afternoon. I think i have been with a group of girls more than once and made comments like "nice arse" etc etc.

So long as comments are complimentary i say keep em coming! please, pretty please - go on, just to make me feel better.

Saying that there is a fine line between complimentary and offensive and it can depend on the tone of voice, group of lads etc. I have to say, i think if i were the OP i might have felt a little intimidated as i am visualising a group of hoodies on the street corner - but she is obviously confident and i think thats great. Yeah the peado comment was a bit off but we all say things we regret when we are backed into a corner.

I am not a blonde bimbo with nothing going on between my ears - i am an intelligent woman and have often been described as a bit of a militant feminist - fucking idiot bloke at work used to call me germaine - but everyone thought he was a tosser anyway (different issue). BUT what we seem to forget is, feminism is about CHOICE - and if a woman choses to look sexy why would she not want this recognised? OK, its a bit off if you are togged up in your woolly hat and scarf but if you look the part - take the credit fgs. The OP has nothing to be ashamed of and is rightfully chuffed - the rest of you need to get out of those winciet nighties, put the knitting down and GET YOUR TITS OUT FOR THE LADS!

Bluesapphire77 · 17/02/2009 08:16

@ LEM's post

Fk me i'm glad i went to bed last night and missed this

LMLT hope you're feeling ok today flower lol how does it feel to be popular/famous

LucyEllensmummy · 17/02/2009 08:18

Mrs Gravy - i stopped taking Ms Greer Seriously when she appeared on celebrity big brother. Oh, i think its Dr Greer

PollyFilla · 17/02/2009 08:18

I think it's fairly clear from that post that you are not a 'militant feminist' Lucyellensmum.

And the OP hasn't been 'vilified' but plenty of women do find MILF offensive and not at all complimentary.

PollyFilla · 17/02/2009 08:19

And you can be a feminist and be sexy. The two aren't remotely related.

daftpunk · 17/02/2009 08:23

"choice" being the operative word lem....

if some mindless boy/man shouts "id love to fuck you" at me.....that wasn't my choice was it...they are invading my privacy.

LucyEllensmummy · 17/02/2009 08:27

now you look here Polly - I have read the Womans Room and that qualifies me to wear my militant feminist badge with pride. And AND i used to wear Dr Martin boots! .

MILF isn't something id want to be called, but perhaps thats because i have always preferred older men .

Im just saying, its not a big deal - IF the op took it as a compliment, does it matter FFS?

LucyEllensmummy · 17/02/2009 08:28

but they didn't shout that did they! I know they did in a round about way - I would be offended and upset if someone said that, but its just different and less offensive in my opinion. They are just quoting some naff american teen movie im sure.

LucyEllensmummy · 17/02/2009 08:29

anyway - ive done my bit and ressurected the thread for the day My trouble making work here is done! I'm off to walk past the local building site see if i can't get a reaction