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DH really embarrassed me earlier

102 replies

LeatherOnLeather · 05/02/2009 22:23

We were invited around to friends for dinner tonight. They got the wii out and we had a play around on some of their party games. We were having a really good laugh. Then when it was my turn I was doing this ski jump thing where you have to bend down and DH shouted "OPEN YOUR LEGS!" but in a really rough 'docker' type voice. Everyone was in hysterics, one was actually having trouble beathing and had to leave the room she was laughing so much and DH just kept repeating it over and over again. I tried to ignore him, laugh along and carry on with the game but I felt like everyone was laughing at me.

I didn't cause a scene there but I'm really annoyed with him. he says I'm being unreasonable and childish. Wouldn't you lot react the same way or am I making a big deal out of nothing?

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PenelopePitstops · 05/02/2009 22:26

does he do this regularly?

if so yanbu

if it was a one off, its just a joke

suwoo · 05/02/2009 22:26

I would have just said something like "I won't be opening my legs for you tonight, knobhead" or "thats how he normally propositions me, he's such a charmer" or othe similar lines. Don't let it bother you, he's a prick .

ScottishMummy · 05/02/2009 22:27

yes i imagine everyone was laughing at you both.dh sound ghastly.like a porn master.fret not you wont be invited back

ChiefMangosuthuButhelezi · 05/02/2009 22:28

saying it once would have been a laugh, but repeating it would have pissed me off, so no, yanbu.

GivePeasAChance · 05/02/2009 22:28

SOunds vaguely funny and imagine that because you tried to ignore/were slightly cross, it became funnier in that "please stop laughing now " way.

Not worth a row IMO

tankie · 05/02/2009 22:28

Sounds like he was just making a joke to me - they were laughing at him rather than you tbh.

tiredsville · 05/02/2009 22:29

Should have said, "well you don't really make them worth opening, do you?"

frumpygrumpy · 05/02/2009 22:29

Sounds to me like they were laughing at him. And he felt important and so kept saying it. I don't think it had anything to do with you actually.

MuchLessTiredNow · 05/02/2009 22:30

sounds a bit like (not knowing your DH) - he was getting a laugh so milked it and did not mean to be personal... stupid, but I would not die in a ditch over it

CurlyhairedAssassin · 05/02/2009 22:30

Am I the only one who thinks it's funny?! Surely not.....

Would have found it boring eventually though.....once is funny, but him going on about it just shows a lack of intelligence really.

Tigerschick · 05/02/2009 22:30

Tho it probably didn't feel like it at the time, they were almost definitely laughing at the comment/situation, not at you. ... don't know if that makes any difference.

DH has done similar to me before. I left it for a bit, until I'd calmed down, then said something along the lines of; "I know you think that I'm over-reacting but I was hurt by what you said. I just thought you should know that, I know it was meant as a joke but I didn't like it." It wasn't that straight out but that was the sentiment. I think it's important to let him know how you feel but to do it calmly.

Lemontart · 05/02/2009 22:31

If this is typical of him not reading your mood and being generally insensitive/getting cheap laughs at your expense, you have every right to be pissed off. Not nice, quite immature and selfish.
If it is a one off, be annoyed, tell him if you think he might listen and learn, then let it go. Life is too short to let every badly made joke become a huge deal worthy of hours of stress and angst.

ANamesANameForAThatsTaken · 05/02/2009 22:31

see, now I'd find that really funny

ScottishMummy · 05/02/2009 22:33

nope you both sound like a pair of eejits.you emulating a ski jump.him rough porno voice

you could have said no.acted decisively
gained some composure

so yes they were laughing at you both

oliviasmama · 05/02/2009 22:37

Nah, it's nothing - just a bit of a laugh and when everyone thaught he was really funny he was then riding on the crest of the wave.

be cool.

moondog · 05/02/2009 22:38

esp. at person who couldn't breathe.

wtf is a 'porn master?

ChippingIn · 05/02/2009 22:39

Yes & No. Sounds like the kind of thing most of my group of friends would say and we'd all be laughing, by then I'd have failed the ski jump.... good night had by all.

However, if this was with a group of people you don't know so well, then once might have been passably funny... to continue it on does show a lack of sensitivity....

ScottishMummy - have you had a bad day??

ScottishMummy · 05/02/2009 22:41

you all sound like a laugh-a-feckin-minute set.pissing about on wii with porno commentary

nice

Original poster
LeatherOnLeather · 05/02/2009 22:41

and you sound like a barrel of laughs.

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hobbgoblin · 05/02/2009 22:43

Should have just said 'I am, any wider and we'd lose you dahhhhhhling. If it were my personal trainer/Friday masseuse/Ski instructor/whatever then of course I'd open wider'

And then give him a 'you vile little man' look.

ScottishMummy · 05/02/2009 22:45

this is so inane,and maybe a wind up.so your dh denigrates you in front of friends.so umm to not make scene you continue to do a ski jump????

grow a back bone- dont like dont do it
tell him to be quiet
refrain from daftness,which appears to bring out dh inner sleaze

hobbgoblin · 05/02/2009 22:46

and if feeling particularly lacking in humour and up for a fight say something porntastically withering to the woman wetting herself. Maybe try Fiona Fanjo-dabulous over there with the Tena lady if you like capacious'

TrinityRhino · 05/02/2009 22:48

whats wrong with pissing about on the wii?

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LeatherOnLeather · 05/02/2009 22:50

The ski jump was part of the game! If I'd got off the board after he said it I'd have looked even more stupid.

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moondog · 05/02/2009 22:51

Hilarious SM.
Someone more sour than moi.

Wiis are bloody sad thoguh aren't thry.
If my social life consisted of pretending to ski i someone's living room i would slit my wrists.