to think a 35 year old man should have had at least one BJ in his life so far???

[ilikeblowjobs]

I actually enjoy giving blow jobs - I like to give pleasure
NM, 35, sexually experienced, pretty good in sack, very considerate lover, good at giving shall we say!
Seemed VERY grateful for BJ and later admitted he had NEVER had one before - has had a good few partners and a few long term relationships!!
How is this possible???? He says he likes to give pleasure (and I can see that he is a very caring loving guy), and he also thought BJ's a bit odd (might add though he didnt ask me to stop and certainly seemed to enjoy it ) ...
Are there girls out there who just dont do it at all??? Personally I think this is selfish love making??? So AIBU am genuinely interested here?
FWIW I AM a regular I AM not a troll have name changed for obvious reasons

I just asked dp if it would bother him if he never had another blow job. His first reply was "Are you on mumsnet again " he then said that he understands that with a penis as large as his some women find it a challenge.

anyone want to come and row about it on

my thread?

On a more serious note though he said nothing would turn him off more than knowing I was doing something that I did not like.

But I think he thinks that as I have raised the topic that he is in for some action and therefore is telling me what he thinks I want to here.

Agree with the sentiment behind Ormirian and Thepregnathedgewitsh's posts and think lowenergylightbulb is being a touch narrowminded.

Actually I love both giving and receiving oral but that is up to me and i certianly wouldn't think anyone who didn't was uptight or missing out. I equally am not into botty sex but don't think anyone who likes it is depraved.

Each to their own - like ormirian says we all have our own personal line that we draw and as long as our partners are happy then who the f*ck cares where it is?

Agree with the sentiment behind Ormirian and Thepregnathedgewitsh's posts and think lowenergylightbulb is being a touch narrowminded.

Actually I love both giving and receiving oral but that is up to me and i certianly wouldn't think anyone who didn't was uptight or missing out. I equally am not into botty sex but don't think anyone who likes it is depraved.

Each to their own - like ormirian says we all have our own personal line that we draw and as long as our partners are happy then who the f*ck cares where it is?

Anyfucker - not a bloke, just a normal woman who thinks that uptightness about sex is a bit bloody ridiculous.

No wonder the relationships board on this website is so busy.

lowenergy, has it occurred to you that it is not something that people actively choose? You don't choose to prefer red over white wine do you, you just happen to like one better than the other.

Similar thing methinks.

some people have reasons for being 'uptight' about sex lel!!

lel, you have not addressed nor acknowledged any of the posts that say they have a problem with certain sexual practices because of the connotations they have with previous sexual abuse

do you tar these women with the same "uptight, repressed" brush ?

"I really do feel sorry for a lot of you, you don't know what you are missing out on!!!" Actually I feel sorry for you lowenergy. It must be horrible to feel you can never say no.

Right, I have read the whole thread finally...!

For myself, I'm in the same camp as ilikeblowjobs and lel but would never judge anyone else - we are all different. Actually, I don't know that I would ever think I was normal as sex is tied up with one's psychology and mine is odd to say the least!

A few things occur to me though;

why is it degrading to give a man a blow job? Also, why is it particularly bad if they touch your head or thrust? I think that when engaged in any kind of sex, both men and women are kind of in a different state. If any of those things happen to me, they don't bother me I have to say - but I'm interested in why some people have that perspective (not because I necessarily think it's wrong).

I have come across a guy who said he didn't like oral sex which in my experience was unusual - he was about 30.

I wonder though whether people who don't like certain things are really that few and far between or whether they are just afraid to voice their actual likes/dislikes for fear of being judged to be abnormal...?

Especially for a man it mst be difficult, because men are essentially considered to have high sex drives/be up for anything, so to admit that you're not must be difficult..

I have to say that the comments from some on here mean I will never talk about my sexual preferences ever again.

This was a first and a last for me - I have never discussed anything wrt sex on mn or even with my rl friends. Mainly because I think my sex life is private and something which is shared between me and dh and really not for public discussion iyswim. But the one time I have shared one detail with people I have been made to feel like some kind of freak by a minority of people who see fit to judge me based on one revellation.

I certainly won't be doing it again.

wannabe feel sad that this made you feel like that!
I think its important that women do discuss sex and preferences - it is that which liberates us !

Ohh I just remembered a comment from a long since gone partner, he may have been trying to make me feel better and he was obviously not ideal or I would remember his name but he said that a woman with too much expertise in the bedroom was off-putting as it implied she had been around the block a few times.

I suppose that could easily be a factor - I mean a playboy type puts me off for exactly that reason - I don't want the risk of infections. But equally, a person can acquire expertise without ever having more than one partner.

nice [hmm[ not at all happy how this thread ended up

Going back to the issue of the OP, I don't believe the OP's new bloke. I find it impossible to believe that a 35 year old man who has had numerous sexual relationships (fair enough if he was inexperienced) has never ever had a woman even lick his penis, ever.

ilikeblowjobs - I'm afraid it was inevitable . Discussion of sexual practices tends to polarise MN a little. Anyone who expresses reservations of any kind is pounced upon by other and accused of being repressed. Because apparently there is only one way of leading a sexual relationship

FWIW - I find it hard to beleive that he never had a BJ before too.

I don't understand other people making judgements - if something works for a couple then who is anyone else to say it isn't a healthy relationship?

I still want to hear the reasons of how a blow job can be degrading though.....not because I want to disagree with it, just interested in what the theory behind it is.

nor do i much like tasting myself afterwards.. i much prefer to kiss my DH without eau de fanjo in my nostrils TYVM.hedgewig couldnt agree more - have finally trained dh to have a swig of beer etc before he passionatly kisses me after a little licking

he LOVES the taste of me - i dont

just as sure he doesnt want a mouthful of his cum!!

or is that tmi

I personally don't think it is degrading electra, unless one party is being forced into it.

Well, yes that's what I was thinking. And in moments of passion - where is the guy supposed to put his hands? Personally I wouldn't equate it with disrespect.

if dh gets carried away and puts his hands on my head, I just push them off

no biggie

he knows not to thrust, as I will stop

it aint deepthroat