to think a 35 year old man should have had at least one BJ in his life so far???

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I actually enjoy giving blow jobs - I like to give pleasure
NM, 35, sexually experienced, pretty good in sack, very considerate lover, good at giving shall we say!
Seemed VERY grateful for BJ and later admitted he had NEVER had one before - has had a good few partners and a few long term relationships!!
How is this possible???? He says he likes to give pleasure (and I can see that he is a very caring loving guy), and he also thought BJ's a bit odd (might add though he didnt ask me to stop and certainly seemed to enjoy it ) ...
Are there girls out there who just dont do it at all??? Personally I think this is selfish love making??? So AIBU am genuinely interested here?
FWIW I AM a regular I AM not a troll have name changed for obvious reasons

"I think it's sad that some people are so buttoned up when it comes to sex. And then they wonder why their husbands don't see them as sexual beings..."

"I can't understand how any physical intimacy can be 'disgusting'..." well I recall a thread no so long back from someone whose partner had requested she lick his arse. I'm fairly sure the majority of the posters on that thread considered that disgusting, even though it's physical intimacy and all...

At the end of the day it's a question of where one sets one's limits. What drives one person wild is horrible to someone else and vice versa, and just because one finds one particular thing horrible does not make one buttoned up wrt sex.

I think there are very, very few people who have no limits...

pregnanthedgewitch - guess i can see where you are coming from

maybe you dont dislike them as much as you say you do, as you do give them iykwim

its like me and anal sex

i really dont like, have tried it a few times but its not for me

and NO WAY will dh or anyone else get their willy near my bum again, as i REALLY hate it

where you dislike bj's but do give them - does that make sense?

Blimey, am staggered at how many women seem revolted by oral sex.
What a revelation.

Urgh I hate giving oral sex but that is to do with an incident of abuse when I was young.

anal???

elmo - i will try most things once - esp as been with dh for years and feel very relaxed with him

but also agree that you should NEVER do anything you really dont like/want to!!!

btw i wasnt the one who brought up anal in the first place

By ThePregnantHedgeWitch on Sat 24-Jan-09 13:07:43
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LEL.. i can assure you i am not 'buttoned up' when it comes to sex.. i write porn fgs, lmao.. i just dont like giving BJ's, end of.

do u really?????

btw i wasnt the one who brought up anal in the first place

I dunno who did tbh???

If my husband found 'going down on me' disgusting, and only did it begrudgingly every now and then I'd be devastated.

I'm sorry, but finding basic physical intimacy with your lover 'disgusting' and doling it out as a 'favour' is really sad.

I can't understand how one can be rampantly passionate with ones lover and find intimate physical contact 'disgusting'...

Totally agree

Totally agree

ligntbulb - "I can't understand how one can be rampantly passionate with ones lover and find intimate physical contact 'disgusting'... "

OK. so does that mean that anything goes. What if your lover decided that anal sex was essential, or he wanted to use a cane on you, or expect you to eat his shit? It all comes under the heading of 'intimate contact'. Does that mean because you love someone and find them attractive, anything goes? We all have our lines and draw them in different places. It has to be about preference and the fact that you 'can't understand' it is your problem, not anyone else's.

lightbulb - "I can't understand how one can be rampantly passionate with ones lover and find intimate physical contact 'disgusting'... "

It's not all intimate physical contact!

Of course I can be rampantly passionate, but it doesn't have to include everything. There are lots of different ways to be intimately physical, but it doesn't have to include all things oral! Or anal! I am sure that I am not the only one who would find licking someone's anus disgusting for example, (some people may love it) but I can still enjoy being physically intimate without doing certain things.

Each to their own.

So, all the uptight non bj-ers, how would you feel if your partners found going down on you 'disgusting'?

The penis is the males primary erogenous zone. Equating caressing it orally with caning or anal sex is just ridiculous.

"Uptight"???????????

Ooooh, that's risky!

It's not ridiculous at all. It's about where you personally draw the line. It isn' up to you to dictate that. And some would think you 'uptight' to find anal sex and caning beyond the pale.

How do you know that I find anal sex or caning beyond the pale?! But to equate activities that don't concern primary erogenous zones with finding fellatio 'disgusting' is a bit disingenuous.

Interesting, no one has posted to say that their husband finds going down on them 'disgusting' and that they are cool with that.

I used to be with someone who found cunnilingus disgusting. Didn't bother me at all. In fact I didn't blame him!

Anyone who doesn't like being gone down on is not having a proper sex life!! Sorry, but it's true!

Still, if the majority of mumsnetters enjoy once weekly, missionary position sex in their nylon nighties who am I to argue

I really do feel sorry for a lot of you, you don't know what you are missing out on!!!

There is more to sex than blowjobs though.

Thanks for the sympathy lightbulb. Much appreciated.

lel, I agree with your last sentence

but I would have phrased it a lot more tactfully and with a ikkle bit of female solidarity

are you a bloke?

And I'll pass it on to DH too. He isn't aware he's in need of it yet but I'm sure he'll be delighted to know.