to not want my 17 yr old son going out with a woman of 29 with 2 children

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i know he's going to start wanting relationships with women, but i expected him to bring home a 16 yr old still into high school musical or something....but he's fallen in love with a woman only 6 years younger than me....she probably knows more about life than i do?

i have to stop this...

help me.

no, i wouldn't say anything to her, would only make things worse...

dh thinks it will all be over by january..hope he's right.

Does he have a good social life with friends his own age? If so encourage him to get out with them as much as possible. If he invites her to teenage parties so much the better-I expect she will hate the average 17yr old boy and they will think anyone who is almost 30 is getting elderly!!

My sister was 29 with 3 children when she started dating the 18 year old son of her best friend.

3 years later they are sill together.

It has been one of the worst things my sister could have done. I never see her anymore because he is always around. Now 21, he is still a sullen, immature little boy who is only 7 years older than my neice. Since he's been on the scene my sister's lovely home has been turned (with her full consent) into a youth club where all the kids hang out. I won't go round there anymore because he is so unfriendly that I feel really uncomfortable. She goes clubbing with them, drives them around, allows him to host parties at her house, pays his bills, gives him a rent-free place to stay when he feels like it... basically she is like his mum with benefits which is completely I miss my sister, we used to be very close. I now cannot understand her at all. She is obviously happy, but at what cost? She has alienated her family and lost her best friend.

I really hope OP's son, or the older lady, sees sense.

when I was 18, I had a relationship with a man of 30 who had 2 kids

not exactly the love of my life, but not a mistake either

just a rite of passage in many peoples lives

my parents hated it but bided their time and that was the right thing to do

yes, i think you're right... part of growing up.