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Original poster

to be peed off that my nextdoor neighbours 1year old cries for hours at night

126 replies

earlynite · 16/12/2008 21:01

I don't know what to do! The crying is so loud that it keeps us all awake. This is not really a noisy neighbour thing and I don't suppose they can help it but I can't stand it much longer. Any suggestions?

OP posts:
liahgen · 16/12/2008 21:03

when you say hours, how long really?

and what time of night? What does the cry sound like? Maybe they are trying controlled crying.

FeelingLucky · 16/12/2008 21:04

Yes YABU. Get some ear plugs.

rubyslippersisappearinginpanto · 16/12/2008 21:04

How well do you know them?

they may, as Liah says be trying some sort of sleep training

knock on and ask if things are ok - they will be able to hear the crying too

FattipuffsandThinnifers · 16/12/2008 21:04

Have you had babies of your own?

If it's not a noisy neighbour thing presumably then you're worried they're all ok? If so, and if you must interfere, have a chat and offer support might be an idea.

fuzzywuzzy · 16/12/2008 21:04

Is it possible to try and sound proof your room a bit?

There's really not much your neighbour can do, they probably want the baby to sleep as much as you do.

PlonkerTeatowelOnTheirHeads · 16/12/2008 21:07

I can understand why you would be pissed off by this, but there's nothing you can do about it, and let's face it, they're probably a lot more pissed off (baby too!) about it than you!!

Buy some earplugs.

feelingbitfestive · 16/12/2008 21:08

How well do you know them? My DS has been undergoing high dose steroid treatment and screamed 24/7 for 2 weeks. There was nothing I could do to stop it, and I am certain it would have really disturbed my neighbours too. But they never commented, and I didn't see them to volunteer the info (they were probably sleeping as soon as I left the house ).
Can you grin and bear it for a bit (standard illness length of time)?

HaventSleptForAYear · 16/12/2008 21:10

I know it must be really annoying.

However we have a VERY noisy 21mth old with the loudest screech ever who wakes pretty much every night.

When I put him back to bad he has a tantrum and it can last 45 minutes of to-ing and fro-ing.

I would feel awful if I had neighbours, I'm sure they feel bad...

Original poster
earlynite · 16/12/2008 21:10

3 hours last night 2 - 5am. I have had child of own and I am a bit worried TBH. Couple of night ago i heard mum shout "shut up!" (not very constructive)

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MarkTheHeraldAngelsStretch · 16/12/2008 21:12

I have the exact same problem.

It's awful.

HaventSleptForAYear · 16/12/2008 21:13

That is a long time.

Do you know them enough to have a chat?

PlonkerTeatowelOnTheirHeads · 16/12/2008 21:13

Oh come on earlynite. Have you never snapped and said 'shut up' at 5am after being kept awake by your baby screaming for the last 3 hours??

Constructive, no, but people aren't perfect ...

snickersnack · 16/12/2008 21:13

As someone with a 1 year old who until recently was going through a long phase of crying for hours in the middle of the night, I can say that if our neighbours had turned up on the doorstep either to complain or offer advice, I would have probably either wept or shut the door in their face. (I did in fact apologise when I saw them) and they said they couldn't hear anything.

Very irritating for you, but it won't last for ever. Earplugs?

rubyslippersisappearinginpanto · 16/12/2008 21:14

i bellowed at my DS to "go back to sleep" when he woke up at 5.45 am this morning

when I know there is nothing wrong with him i will not get out of bed at 5.45 am

MarkTheHeraldAngelsStretch · 16/12/2008 21:14

Our neighbours have come round and apologised before.

But our walls are so thin I can hear their alarm go off in the morning.

And their conversatons in bed

popperdoodles · 16/12/2008 21:16

haven't we all shouted shut up out of frustration and sleep depravation in the middle of the night? I know I did, and sat and cried myself.

Original poster
earlynite · 16/12/2008 21:16

Thanks MarkTheHeraldAngelsStretch. This has been nealy 3 months now. Thought she would have grown out of it by now. Ear plugs would be fine for me but I have a 5y old DS who is being disturbed as well.

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Beachcomber · 16/12/2008 21:17

I think I have even uttered a "just fucking shut up" after 18 months of DD2's crap nights. Not proud of it but hey, sleep depravation drives one to horrible places and feelings.

GoodWilfToAllMN · 16/12/2008 21:19

Hmm. Well, you could pop round and ask if they need you to sit with the baby for a couple of hours while they go and have some sleep because I bet it is much worse for them than it is for you...

GoodWilfToAllMN · 16/12/2008 21:20

3 months? My DS3 cried through the night till 14 months...

LittleJingleBellas · 16/12/2008 21:21

Yes of course YABU.

What do you expect them to do about it? Move? Gag the baby?

MarkTheHeraldAngelsStretch · 16/12/2008 21:21

Yes and my 6 yr old gets woken up by it too.

It's been going on for a year now but has got slightly better.

We're looking into sound insulation in our house, they have wooden floors throughout so the sound really travels.

However, we will have a newborn in our room next year...

Habbibu · 16/12/2008 21:22

earlynite, my dd cried for 3 hours per night for about 6 months. And oh, I did tell her to shut up. And I knew full well it wasn't constructive....

Ronaldinhio · 16/12/2008 21:25

yip yabu

wannaBe · 16/12/2008 21:26

oh come on people are being a bit harsh.

The parents have to put up with it as well but the op isn't one of the parents is she?

Of course it's not unreasonable to be pissed off that you're being kept awake by someone else's screaming baby every night.

No the parents might not be able to do anything about it but that doesn't mean the op doesn't have the right to be annoyed about it.