to be peed off that my nextdoor neighbours 1year old cries for hours at night

[earlynite]

I don't know what to do! The crying is so loud that it keeps us all awake. This is not really a noisy neighbour thing and I don't suppose they can help it but I can't stand it much longer. Any suggestions?

What exactly is the point of being annoyed about it?

PS VOTE WILF

Ok, so it's reasonable-and-yet-pointless!

Do you think the child is being ill-treated or neglected?

Couple of night ago i heard mum shout "shut up!" (not very constructive)

Perhaps not, but I suspect a screaming child who doesn't like to sleep is enough to make you say and do things that aren't entirely 'constructive.' That's what sleep deprivation does to you.

Yes it's annoying, but it's one of those things. Sorry but yes, yabu. If it's that much of an issue invest in some decent sound insulation, wear ear plugs or even put some nice, soothing music on low whilst you're in bed, hopefully it'll go over the sound of the baby?

Oi Wilf, shame on you!

why does there have to be a point?

The op and the op's children are being kept awake every night by someone else's child.

That would piss me off too.

Of course the parents may not be able to do anything about it (although equally they might and may just choose to let their child scream every night rather than go in to them,) but if op is being kept awake every night between 2 and 5 then it is not unreasonable that she may by now be a bit pissed off at having to lose three hours sleep every night.

Because if there's no point, all it is is wallowing in pointless annoyance.

So not only do you feel shit because you are sleep deprived, you are also adding to your feelings of general shit-ness by feeling a mis-directed annoyance. I would recommend stoic endurance.

YANBU to be annoyed but is would be very unhelpful to go round there and complain etc as that would just make them feel even worse. Is the noise bad all bedrooms? Get some ear plugs. Maybe leave a story cd playing for ds to mask the noise?? Not much you can do to be honest and probably nothing your neighbours can do either. Rotten situation really.

at hearing waht they say in bed!!
do you watch what you say and have sex very quietly?!!

last night Callum screamed for hours, DH took him in the pushchair to try and settle him, I hissed 'shut up' to him It was nearly 1am before he actually went to sleep

thanks to all who sympathize and those who don't, maybe you should try it for a couple of weeks and see how you get on.

I would be a bit pissed off, bad enough when it's my own dc keeping me up, but someone elses.....
Think it's like all the other things babies bring us, the minute you stop fighting it and find acceptance is the time that everything gets easier.

How well do you know the neighbours? Could you go round and offer support rather than complaining? It must be a nightmare for all of you but maybe they are new parents who can't cope and would appreciate some help - ie suggest they seek advice from GP/HV. They might not be aware how much it is affecting you.

Would the childs parents be able to sleep through all that screaming??

I would think i would rathewr go into my child or co-sleep or something rather than have to hear screaming all night.

I wouldn't want to listen to anyone elses baby screaming for hours either tbh.

I do watch what I say yes.

I can't do it if I know they are in their bedroom.

TMI sorry

lol, it sounds hideous!

AGal - dd screamed in our arms for hours when she was going through a very bad phase. Nothing, but nothing would comfort her, and then she'd suddenly just stop. She was never left to cry. I do feel for the neighbours, but sometimes there's just nothing you can do.

never spoken to them sent flowers and card when the moved in. I have never seen the baby but see them coming and going.

It sounds horrendous, you have my sympathy. I'd hate to be kept awake at night for 3 nights, never mind 3 months. And I'd hate the fact that dd was being affected and there was nothing I could do about it.

habbibu i am not talking about situations like yours sorry. My db and his gf left their v small baby to cry it out and i know the neighbours were pissed off and did complain.

Hab, Callum was screaming for hours IN MY ARMS last night, I couldn't comfort him, he wouldn't take breastmilk, cow milk, anything. He got into such a state. I know how you feel too.

Oh god..... are you my neighbour? Im so sorry if you are. My dd cries sometimes for ages in the night and sometimes im so tired I cant wake up to deal with it so she can have been crying for a few mins before I wake up properly to sort her out.
I always tell her to shut up, sounds harsh but its very frustrating when you havnt had much sleep.

Do you live in bristol? Im really worried that your talking about me.

Yep until until last week my ds was screaming his head off in the middle of the night - bad teething pains, poor love.
Tried all the tricks in the boo. He is much better now... until the next tooth!