AIBU to consider having a Brazilian before giving birth?

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Im 37 weeks. My ladygarden is a mess. I cant even see it anymore. So, am I?

What KerryMum said. I sort of halfheartedly shave but really don't think about it much. Mind you, my sisters say this is because I am blonde and so it doesn't show .

And I do recognise that we have got away from the topic here - I am not suggesting that making sure your lady garden is under control is on the same level as going into labour and having a baby - only that if the OP can bear the pain this close to D-day, and doesn't expect nasty regrowth, that I don't think she is BU by wanting to get herself waxed.

was going to say the same thing KM re exposure

and currently i shave both legs and armpits about once a week

the issue here is do you need to rid yourself of your pubes before you give birth so you don't frighten the midwives? or somehow embarrass yourself?

and i honestly think those sorts of considerations are just daft when let's face it if you are extremely pregnant removing pubic hair is at best extremely awkward and at worst rather painful and IMO really and truly the last thing any woman about to give birth should be worrying about. It just doesn't seem that important in the grand scheme of things.

actually i don't think the OP is that bothered anyway...

Kerrymum - I have already said that I wasn't talking about in the context of childbirth any more; that we had gone off-topic somewhat and were discussing it in more general terms.

I think it's interesting that you are happy to conform to societies pressures (you say you do shave, if even less frequently in the winter) where hair is visible. Seems a bit contradictory in my book. If it's really all that unimportant and shallow then why bother shaving any of your hair off at all, wherever it is, and whomever can see it?

And why the condescending tone to Expat? What makes you think you have got the higher ground here?

society's pressures, I mean

I shave my legs if I'm wearing a skirt, my armpits when they're uncomfortable.

I hate the shaven fanjo thing myself, I find it quite odd actually that you'd go to a salon, get your kecks off and spread your legs to someone so they could make it look tidier for when you get your kecks off and spread your legs to someone.

Why is it stranger to shave your legs for people you don't know, just walking around the street because you are wearing a skirt, than tidy up your fanjo for the person you are intimate with and allow to get between your legs?

This is getting silly now. I have GOT to finish this presentation for work and clean this house before the in-laws arrive. What have I been doing for the last hour?! Oh yes, debating hirsute fannys vs waxed ones. I AM shallow beyond belief!

See you later!

xxx

I don't shave my legs for people on the street, I do it because it's uncomfortable to wear tights with hairy legs.

I trim my bush, if i didnt i could plait it and let it down like Rapunsel

the handsome prince climbing up would not be reaching a pretty sight when he got the the top

I had all of mine done before giving birth to DS2, but purely because that was preferable to being shaved dry (without gel or anything by a student MW!) whilst in labour as I was with DS1 whilst being prepped for an ec/s. The regrowth was far more irritating than the c/s scar.

In comparison the waxing didn't hurt too much, was over quickly, and had no nasty aftereffects.

I'm about to get dh to get the beard trimmer out!! They are about £10 from Argos and I've always found it useful for keeping things tidy.. Although I did try to do it myself 10 weeks ago and ended up nicking myself..

I wouldn't recommend waxing!! I always get waxed too but before my holiday at 20ish weeks it hurt like hell even my underarms and I got huge bruise/blood blistery type things. I'd have been better staying hairy!!

I don't think you're mad. I suspect it's about trying to have some control over the situation. I had an EMC the first time round and was presumably shaved. Second time round I went for a wax as one of the last acts in a much better prepared pregnancy (kept the weight off, did yoga blah blah blah). On the other hand, the waxing was agony and I had to come home on the bus wearing paper pants stuffed full of toilet roll I was bleeding so much. Still, anyone who had proffered an opinion on what I did with my own ladybits would've got pretty short shrift.

I've had my ladybits done for years, and am currently panicking and missed my appointment this week due to seasonal merriment. Admittedly, it did start off originally as a dare by ex-BF (made him go for a back, crack and sack at the same time. he he he), but as I'm quite, erm, hirsute, it is more comfortable and cleaner. But I get a professional to do it. I would hate to try myself.

As for men gardens, wish DP would at least trim, because of hair in teeth issues (sorry to TMI)

LOL Bleh!

but it is just NATURAL...!

the world is truly mad.

..."it" being, um, having hair between your legs...

Luckily I am half German where it is practically against the law to trim ladygardens and anything else for that matter. I am hairy and proud. (I did try to have a Brazilian once but the beautician got it lopsided and DH thought it was hilarious. i was not amused).

I had one once - for my honeymoon after having two children - a surprise for DH. It was fine - no itchy regrowth or anything like that. He liked the surprise but also likes a natural woman - which is my usual style.

Have one if you want - what's the big deal either way?

I had brazilians just before my due dates as it was a great way to practise labour breathing! Honestly...try it... If you can get through a brazilian whilst extra sensitive and laden with a bump, the birth part's a doddle (well...maybe not a doddle, but copable)!!
x

I would have a wax or a trim - just to keep hair out of any scars and stitches. Think of the cyclists who shave their legs to make sure any cuts and grazes don't get infected by hair. And later, a trimmed garden is more hygienic with all the lochia / fluids etc etc IMO.

I found that the surgeon wasn't careful of my body as I was 'overgrown' at the time of my crash section.
I think she thought I was an umkempt hairy type who wouldn't mind being hacked with a non- cauterized blade for 12 inches.
I wish I had tidied up a bit as it might have given her a few seconds pause to be more respectful of my body.
But maybe she just was a misogynist cow who didn't care about making a mess of a woman's body, shaved, waxed or overgrown... I'll never know.

I'd go for a tidy up, just to feel better about yourself, and just in case you have a section.

That's just my advice based on my experience.

And remember that most Persian women have waxed and threaded for centuries before Playboy. Hair is a no no there, for hygenic reasons - again as Expat said the hot climate
doesn't lend itself to having a fragrant bush.

No Expat - Je ne suis pas Francaise, Ich Bin ein Americaner..! Go Obama
No, not really I'm mostly Irish - and the rest of me is chocolate at this stage!

It is now recommended that women use hair trimming as the only method of hair removal before giving birth, as all other methods increase the risk of infection by causing tiny open wounds.

This is especially stressed before a planned c/s.

Flipping heck if you think you can stand it then go ahead - just ahving my eyebrows done whilst pregnant was bad enough there was no wya I was going any lower!!!!