to take the mick out of male colleagues who bring in shared food that their WIVES have made

[morningpaper]

this makes me both scornful and slightly depressed and I resort to extreme sarcasm

Only last week I was nibbling lemon cake from a colleagues WIFE.

What IS that ABOUT?

AIBU?

[LiffeyCanSpellGeansaiNollaig]

That's how the used to see you!! You just erased 15 yrs groundwork when you sent in cupcakes

[largeginandtonic]

I have a floury pinny COV but dh wears it too

He cooks far better than me i am just the better cake baker.

I have always quite fancied the 50's at least i could do what i do and not feel like i have to do everything else as well.

[Anna8888]

Crikey.

When I worked in an office and before I had a family I occasionally made a cake for my colleagues - I would have a baking urge and the only way to fulfil it and not chuck the contents in the bin was to take the cake into work. It was generally very appreciated .

But bake a cake for DP to take to work? He would be horrified. The thought has never, ever entered my head.

[ComeOVeneer]

No they don't because I often send them along with a questionnaire to gain feedback when I am trying out new recipes, or icing/cake combinations for my business

[ComeOVeneer]

Awh shucks, thanks moondog

[Lovesdogsandcats]

Sorry but I agree totally with OP.
Why would you bake cakes for STRANGERS?
Let me guess,you like all these blokes who dh works with, passing nice comments about your food (kevin ate 6).
If dh worked with a load of women, would you be so quick to get flour on your clothes then?

[Gorionine]

Nighbynight It is just jalousy then?

Oh4CryinOutLoud have you namechanged?

[LiffeyCanSpellGeansaiNollaig]

haha lovesdogs, that's so funny, kevin licked his lips even!! he said is she as good in the bedroom as she is in the kitchen, oooh you're a lucky man Mr OP

[Libraloveschristmas1975]

"If dh worked with a load of women, would you be so quick to get flour on your clothes then? "

DH does and I have sent him in with cakes before when I made enough brownies to feed the 5000 instead of us 2.

[LiffeyCanSpellGeansaiNollaig]

Poor Kevin, his wife fannies about in an office all day long and he never gets a cake.....

[ComeOVeneer]

How is a sahm baking cakes onemanupmanship to a ft working woman? If they were both ft workers in the office and one made cakes then possibly, although it may well be the woman's hobby/relaxer in the eveing to bake, yet doesn't want to stuff her face full of cake!?

[notwavingjustironing]

Blimey where do I stand on this one then? I work AND make cakes for my colleagues (male and female)

[ComeOVeneer]

When then you are just showing off

[LiffeyCanSpellGeansaiNollaig]

If the man wants to,he can revel in the subliminal message behind the cake, my wife doesn't compete with me, she looks after me

A lot of men would never dare vocalise that, but to bring a tray of cath kidstony cup cakes into the office made by their wife could appeal to that never vocalised boast.

[Doodle2U]

Gorionine - you know me so well

[MuchLessTiredNow]

I work too - baking isn't just for sahms. And, I know most of my husband's colleagues - but even if I didn't, I don't mind doing stuff for people I don't know.

[Libraloveschristmas1975]

I've been thinking about this some more (yes I need to get a life but my LO is not feeling well and I have been bascially breastfeeding for the last 3 hours). The OP is not only being unreasonable she is being downright rude, if someone does something nice for someone else the correct ettiquette is to say thank you. To take the mickey out of them is to basically be rude about their choice of wife. Also some wives LIKE looking after their husband they do see it as their job in return for being able to stay home prehaps (and not all women who stay home have children) and there is nothing wrong with that, again it comes down to choice. (DH if you reading this don't get any ideas that's never going to be the way it works for us )

[morningpaper]

"their choice of wife" made me lol

LiffeyCanSpellGeansaiNollaig I'm liking your political deconstruction of the cupcakes

[BucksFizz]

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[morningpaper]

Hmmm I'm not sure why it is horrible/bitchy/etc. to be baffled by wives making cakes for strangers

and to suspect that these are the TORTES OF TYRANNY

[Nighbynight]

Gorionine - no, it is not just jalousy. (It has nothing whatsoever to do with windows.)

Comeoveneer - not oneupmanship between working /SAHM. Could be "I am a DG, lay off my hubbie you office crones". Could also be "My wife doesnt work, she looks after me instead". Could also be "My wife makes better cakes (= is better in bed) than yours". (Might also be "Here is a cake for you because I am full of the milk of human kindness", but I worry about the others)

It is the middle one that is the insidious one for me. there is no doubt, that a colleague who gets up, puts on his washed and ironed clothes, and eats his breakfast and departs for work while his other half runs the house, has the edge on me in the office, because by the time I get to work Ive already loaded the washign machine, made sarnies for my children, got them off to school, made up my list of things to do surreptitiously in the office (paying bills etc), and am seriously in need of a coffee and a rest.
Now that is a bit of an exaggeration because not all my colleagues have this experience, but many of them do. Their day is just free from the stresses that I have.
This only matters, because in the pay / promotion stakes, it gives them an advantage.

[Nighbynight]

pmsl at the Tortes of Tyranny

[Libraloveschristmas1975]

Yes I could have phrased that better , I was wearing my floury covered pinny at the time instead of allowing my breasts to hang free.

There is nothing wrong about being baffled by it but that's not what you said in your OP you said "scornful and slightly depressed and I resort to extreme sarcasm". That to me is unreasonable.

I don't get the ironing thing but plenty of women do it for their partners.

[Nighbynight]

morning paper - have you considered, that the Wives are not making cakes for total strangers? Their OH probably shares every detail, so they know you as inimately as if they had sat next to you for years.......

[bloss]

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