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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

to think mners should read threads before posting?

107 replies

asicsgirl · 14/12/2008 19:11

sorry but this is starting to hack me off. been reading several long and involved discussions recently and getting a bit sick of the number of people who join in going "i've only read the op but here is my opinion, despite the fact that you all moved on about 3 pages ago"

sigh

OP posts:
belgo · 14/12/2008 19:13

YABU.

pagwatch · 14/12/2008 19:14

YANBU
I have defined this as 'pissed bloke'.

It is as if you are all having a nice sensible chat and some drunk staggers in and just shouts something incoherent.

It is happening a lot.
annoying twats

pamelat · 14/12/2008 19:15

But if the thread is say 10 pages long, I think its ok to just read the first and last page.

Am sometimes (over) keen to join in but cant read the whole saga. I think thats ok .. ?

traceybath · 14/12/2008 19:16

yanbu - its as though only their opinion counts and they don't want to take part in the discussion - i just find it slightly odd and embarassing.

pagwatch - put it perfectly.

2AdventSevenfoldShoes · 14/12/2008 19:17

yabu
I often answer the op first, so that I do it honestly, rather than being swayed by other people.
if I then find out that I am wrong(like of op then ads something) I can then post again.
There are no written rules.

asicsgirl · 14/12/2008 19:18

lol pagwatch

i was in the pub having just such a conversation and bloke on next table slurs at us "are you psychology?"

you what love?

OP posts:
traceybath · 14/12/2008 19:18

interesting advent - i hadn't thought of it from that perspective.

MrsMattie · 14/12/2008 19:19

yabu - why should I read 377 posts in order to have my say on the OP?

Twiglett · 14/12/2008 19:19

yes YABU because 90% of Mners now talk shite!

LoolaBoys · 14/12/2008 19:19

YANBU. If you can't be bothered to read all the posts, then at least read all posts made by the OP, then you should at least have a clue what is going on

asicsgirl · 14/12/2008 19:20

i see your point 2shoes. but i usually find if the thread is that long, several people have already said what i would have (and put it better to boot).

OP posts:
givethedogachristmaspudd · 14/12/2008 19:21

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laweaselmys · 14/12/2008 19:21

I do that sometimes LoolaBoys, if you click on their user name and then go back to the thread their username comes up as a differently colored 'used link' and it's a lot easier to skim through and still get the whole picture.

daftpunk · 14/12/2008 19:22

yubu....we're all busy(ish) do you think we have time to read 100's of posts?

i post just reading the thread title...don't even read the op half the time.

asicsgirl · 14/12/2008 19:24

but mrsmattie, surely the point is to discuss things, not just have your say. otherwise we might as well just have surveys:

people who park on the pavement should be shot. agree:63%, disagree:37%

OP posts:
givethedogachristmaspudd · 14/12/2008 19:27

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tiredsville · 14/12/2008 19:27

PMSl at Pagwatches definition of drunk bloke.

Hulababy · 14/12/2008 19:32

YABU! You are trying to change the way MN has worked for years. People have always posted without reading. It is just the way it is. Change - it'll never happen! lol

Actually - have also posted just after readiong OP as it means I give a more honest answer and am not swayed by what others have said after. I then often go back and read the other posts after this and if necessary report with an update.

FantasticMissFox · 14/12/2008 19:40

LOL I do this. Tbh I can never be bothered to read 12 pages just to answer the OP!!

MrsMattie · 14/12/2008 19:44

Not always, no@asicgirl.

I dont want to discuss this, for example. I think the OP is BU. Not much else to say!

Beachcomber · 14/12/2008 19:48

I very much agree with pagwatch's drunken bloke analogy. I keep being tempted to make a deaf old auntie one on similar lines.

I think it depends on the discussion that is taking place. If it is in any way controversial, sensitive, complex, etc then by posting without reading one tends to look stoopid, adds nothing to thread, can cause offense and generally makes it difficult for oneself to contribute anything valid IMO.

If it is a more light hearted thread then why not be lazy lacking in time, but the chances are your point has already been made.

TinselianAstra · 14/12/2008 19:50

Sometimes I look at threads and think '8 pages? Can't be bothered!'

Later, on another thread, someone makes a joke, or mentions how the first thread could be in classics. Then I am

IotasCat · 14/12/2008 19:56

Only 90 per cent , twig? Things must be looking up

juicyjolly · 14/12/2008 19:56

Oh I am so glad you asked this question!

Yes! I do think if the subject matter is a serious question, then all the threads should be read.
I only posted a question yesterday and because a few hadn't read any of the earlier threads, they start to slag me off and presume my views are the complete opposite of what I know they are, iyswim.

Point is...If your going to start slagging someone and give an informed opionion, then be smart, read what you are commenting on, it really does help!

juicyjolly · 14/12/2008 19:59

Pagwatch.........Excellent analogy!

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