to think its odd how some mums get dressed up to the nines for going to toddler group?

[sneekychanger]

a couple of mums in the group had knitted dresses on and knee hign high heel boots.
not exactley preactical for playying with toddlers is it?

one of them had her hair all tonged curly and full make up.

i wonder how long it takes them to get ready/made up in the am.

Hi, i swing between not giving a damn about what I look like at playgroups and then sometimes I'm late as I just have to get my hair washed and straightened before I can imagine leaving the house! I think it motivates me to make an effort sometimes which is good and other times I just don't care and i imagine that there are no snotty mum's mocking my greasy hair and spotty face ( 6 weeks pregnant ) instead they are just thinking I'm a normal looking mum. I work 3 days a week and have to dress smartish for that and do hair n make up etc, maybe these woman who get dolled up don't have any other reason too??

I do it! If you practice every morning it doesn't take long.

well if they want to get up early and spend ages getting dolled it is up to them

just seems a little bit desperate but it is their choice

Isn't it all part of the wanting to feel like a Yummy Mummy?? If the celebs can look so great after x amount of babies so can we even if we're still a size 16 years after the birth and look nothing like Posh?? It's just about making an effort to make yourself feel good. I know lots of mums who look fantastic. It's so easy to give up on everything else in life because of having children (like having a career or just a good job, being independant, having time to yourself etc) it helps to do what you can to achieve something for yourself.

well i don't really agree
Make-up needn't take more than a couple of minutes to do and is not bad for your skin if properly removed
i think its a nasty trap

sneeky why is it desperate I would say it's pretty desperate to leave the house looking a sight and I would rather not
why do you think we are all sad I am very happy thanks partly I'm sure due to the fact I make an effort with my appearance
it's not like we think we are on the pull or anything you know

Cecily: Miss Prism says that all good looks are a snare.
Algernon: They are a snare that every sensible man would like to be caught in.
Cecily: Oh! I don't think I would care to catch a sensible man. I shouldn't know what to talk to him about.

(Oscar Wilde)

Listen, sneekychanger (deepbreath)

the purpose of your 'thread' is to ask if you 'are being unreasonable'

in summary of the all the posts - .... you are.

The end.

Boobalina - well said

I wore a jumper dress, jeans and long boots to toddlers yesterday. I always wash and dry my hair and put a bit of makeup on, it makes me feel good. I honestly couldn't give a flying feck what anyone else thinks, I just wear the clothes I like and feel comfortable in.

Unless someone turned up in a ballgown or full suit of armour I probably wouldn't even notice what anyone else was wearing at toddlers, I'm too busy chasing my dc's around.

mabanana - thank you for raising the intellectual tone.

and badly dressed by the sounds of it

My 2 cents...

I don't reall care one way or the other on this...

Personally I'm a scruff at times, very casual indeed, but I was like this before having DD.

But I'm comfortable like this, not sad or frumpy.

If you're happy/comfy "dressed up", that's honestly great too! Neither type needs to make snap judgements about the other.

The problem as I see it is when some think that mothers ought to look glam or slovenly... other people's expectations. Do what's right for your circumstances and be comfy in yer own skin.

Is the OP a little jealous perhaps?

Well, tongued hair for toddler group is ten miles fuRTHER than I'd go myself! but some people just don't do bootcuts and trainers. They can't. They'd feel invisible if they didn't make the amount of effort they do make. But probably, it comes so naturally to them, that it isn't the amount of effort for them that you imagine it is.

ahhhh i see, ok then so you would think it was odd if someone wore ball gown?

well why shouldn't they ?

RubyRuby I love your facts.

Could another reason for this thread be to have a little dig at ladies who dress to impress?

I try but my make up always slides away somewhere and haven't properly worn heels since I broke my ankle when I was 14.

Yes, it can make me feel much better to dress up a little. I have just lost 3 stone after having 2ds in quick succession and I love the flattering comments I get from my friends

sounds like a nice outfit knitted dress and boots.
any reccomendations?

Just for interest, today I am wearing a knitted dress, leggings, knee length boots and I have a full visog of make up and straightened waist length hair - and I am at work and I did this before giving two kids breakfast, dressing them, driving them to nursery....

Tomorrow, I will probably wear jeans, trainers, jumper, hair in a pony tail (needs a wash) and some make up and still go to work...

Guess what Sneekychanger... I'll still be the fucking person.

(maybe a bit less full of vitriol? who knows)

Sneeky -

Haven't read all posts so sorry if I am repeating:
Going to toddler group might be the only socialisation some mothers get, so they really do 'go for it'.

I'll be honest and admit I never go out the house without my make-up and am quite fashion concious, as it makes me feel good about myself. Make up and clothes for me doesn't take more than 10 mins.

meaning to say

I'll still be the same fucking person

didnt make sense then...

Yes if tomorrow morning I can manage to get two children up, breakfasted, ready for school and at the CM by 8 on my own (DH away tonight) and myself to work suitably attired with make up, tights, heels etc by 8.30, surely getting everyone out of the house an hour or more later is no trouble and easy to make myself look half presentable.