to be annoyed that someone well my mother called my dd a tomboy

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she was wearing a dress

i don't like her being labeled tomboy

What's wrong with being a tomboy?

Why?

I think you're being over-sensitive.

She hasn't been labelled anything.

I think tomboy is a compliment!

WHat's the problem. It's a dumb sexist label, of course, but people who use it can safely be dismissed as either old or ignorant.
Do you think your mother is criticising your parenting and wants you to force your DD into frilly frocks and bimbo passivity? Did your mother restrict you to 'feminine' behaviour when you were little?

What's wrong with being a tomboy?

Tomboys rocks!

You can wear a dress and still be a tomboy.

YABunbelievablyU and over sensitive.

Hardly a nasty comment. How old is she?

I would be please and anyone called my dds tomboys, they both are in some ways, but also girly in others.

Think you are being a bit unreasonable.

I would be more annoyed if someone called mine girly girly or something, like they donb't have any oomph to them.

What don't you like about tomboy ?

Why does your mum see it in your dd but you don't ? Just curious !

what is your problem?

I don't consider it a dumb, sexist label.

Jeez, out come the 'well if you buy a doll for dd you must buy one for DS brigade!'

Now I don't understand what's wrong with buying a doll for a ds either??

I would be annoyed too to be honest.

my ds all loved dolls and had buggy's and slings for them....

sgb my mother think certain thing are not ladylike, like going into pubs

My ds1 had dolls and a buggy lol ds2 is getting a kitchen and a buggy and doll for xmas.

Hadn't thought about a sling though!!!

whats the oppisite term for a boy then?

ladyboy?

I wouldn't be annoyed, what's wrong with it ? Is it insulting in some way ? Like your dd is less attractive in some way ? I just don't understand why its annoying. I suppose I can understand people being annoyed if someone called their ds girly thgough, but that is one of lifes unfair double standards. And for the record, if someone called my ds girly I would think shut up you insensitive git, but would certainly not do anything to change anything about my ds. And would not change anything about my dds if called tomboys. Makes sense ?

Well, people who call a little girl a tomboy generally mean that she is assertive, confident, happy and won't be restricted by idiots' ideas of proper 'feminine' behaviour. So it's a compliment. But it also betrays a fuckwit attitude on behalf of the person saying it (that little girls should be made to moderate or change their behaviour in case they grow willies start to think of themselves as full human beings not second-class appendages to men).

Oh bloody hell! I never said boys shouldn't play with dolls;mine does. I was taking issue with the over simplification of what is sexist.

It was not sexist. It's just a term of endearment.

My DD told me she wants to have 'tomboy lessons' so she can play football with her older boy cousins. I was a tomboy and kind of proud of it. Used to play up to it. I always hoped I'd have one but DD1 a real girl (but most delicious). My son has (aged 3) had just joined himself to her ballet class and will the only male and the shortest dancer in the Christmas show.

come on girls being called tomboy is kind of kinda then tellng a boiy he is gay , which seems to be the "accwpted" term for boys pram or have a sling....not that I let my Kids be bothered by it...that push a buggy/[

Who cares?

Really I mean, WHO CARES? It's hardly an insult. Get over it.