to be annoyed that someone well my mother called my dd a tomboy

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she was wearing a dress

i don't like her being labeled tomboy

SGB, what crap!

I would use it to describe DD but in no way would I want or expect her to modiy her behaviour.

A little too much over analysing going on here.

lol sgb.

well i don't like anyone branding her anything.

next time i will say do not call her tombody i don't call x ladyboy do i ?

SGM, a real girl should be whatever the hell she wants to be, as should her brothers

actually not what I meat to say..it was actually more the ...not so loaded as...

Crock of shit, I was a "Tomboy" and revelled in it, hated dresses, loved climbing trees, playing football etc.
Then I got to my teens and liked styling my hair (a perm, with a big fringe, I was luscious) and boys and painting my nails etc
My boys love playing with their toy kitchen, pushing a baby round in a buggy and DS1's favourite colour is pink.
He is 4.8yrs ld, it's hardly going to define him as an adult is it?
Jeez, kids are kids, the more we just let the "be" the better.

YABU - agree with Blu that it's a compliment (I'd far rather have tomboy dds than frou-frou ones)

I'd rather my dd was labelled a tomboy than wear head to toe pink and sequins. Now that'd be offensive...

I agree Lizzy!

My point about dolls and prams was to all those people who obsess about stamping out allgender stereotypes when actually kids just are who they are and play with what they want.

I'm sorry I just don't see tomboy as an insult ?

I was called it as a child as I was well into my animals and nature and outdoor, and yes I can see that is sexist, as if it s a surprise that girls like those things, but I don't think I was called it to insult me or make me feel bad about liking those things.

My dds are both outdoors types, love animals and getting mucky, dd2 in particlular loves cars and trains as much as her little brother.

Its all so silly.

I just really wouldn't take offence. I just wonder why it has offended you so much ? You don't like her being labelled ? But it is just an old fashioned way of saying a girl likes things which are most usual for biys to like, eg getting mucky, cars, trains etc, is your dd like this ?

MRC, I know, it gets my goat that we have to try to pigeon hole kids so early when they just want to have fun.

Yes, I could see it could be construed as misogynistic etc...but I suppose I saw it as a term that offered an alternative to the stereotyped 'feminine' girl..and not with any negative currency attached.Idon't think it gends to get used in connection with confidence or assertiveness, but more an enjoyment of things more stereotypically thought to be 'boys stuff' - climbing trees, not wearing pin all the time etc.

I was known as quite an extreme tomboy.

Am definitely old though.

But hopefully not too fuckwited

sgm here here

KID certqinly should be the correct term

I agree, polarising them as one thing is as bad as constan pressure to be the other (generally pink!)

she is 16 months old btw

Blu, surely is can only ever be construed as misogynistic in an academic sense rather than in the real world. I have never heard of it being used as anything other than a compliment.

that is a bit young to be calling her either a tomboy or a girly girl.

Ok now I can see why you were annoyed, she is still a baby, and she will change loads, and develop her own likes and preferences as she goes along.

Wonder why your mum called her tomboy then, at that age ?

sgb I get what you're saying and agree in part but I just don't think it's that big a deal. I was a tomboy and I revelled in it. It's just a word.

exactely she bearly more than a baby

Op were you a tomboy ?

Again, I think there's too much analysis going on here.

It's like saying a child is a rascal. Nobody really means that child is doomed to a life of no good. I called DD1 a little bugger yesterday (to DH). Doesn't mean I expect her to commit to a lifetime of anal sex!

no

Isn't tomboy good?