NMC, if your training is in psychology, can you not start offering counselling from home when your dd starts fulltime school? That would fit in with school hours etc, and maybe you could offer people help with stuff you really understand, like being a carer, coping with disability etc?
I think that you, like me, found that autism (aspergers) in your family made f/t work an impossibility? I'd guess that unless you are as rich as David Cameron, say, then it's just very, very hard to work f/t once you have a disabled child. My son has Aspergers, and my bitterest regret is that I went back to work, albeit part time, when he was five months old. I am actually tearful even typing that. His childminder found him really hard work and I don't think she was particularly kind or responsive to his needs, and it breaks my heart to think about it. To me he was my lovely, perfect, heavenly baby, but to her, he was different and difficult. I think he was so unhappy, and I still wonder if it (and his subsequent miserable experience of nursery) damaged him. He absolutely could not cope with after-school clubs etc. It's so easy to make breezy choices if you have money for nannies and regular-issue kids. I do work - I work quite a lot and when my youngest goes to school I will work more, but I don't use any childcare except school and half-days at nursery for my youngest. It's a real struggle, but my dh is a totally committed father and we juggle stuff together.
I think all the taking offence at the slightest thing on this thread is nonsense, if I'm honest (ffs, how can anyone genuinely feel affronted because other people think working in law is boring!) and it is valid to discuss issues such as the importance of financial independence of women, and what young children need etc, and also I do think that people can use their imagination to realise there are different choices that are right for different families.