to be a bit perturbed by somebody taking a small girl to the gents loo?

[FourArms]

On a family day out last Saturday, I saw a bloke take a small girl (over 5, under 10 - rubbish with ages!) into the blokes loo. I think that there was some kind of single dad's trip on - lots of blokes with kids came off a coach at the same time. I can understand him not letting her go to the ladies by herself, but there was a vacant disabled/baby changing loo which they could have used.

I've got no problems with boys of any age being taken by their mums into the ladies - there's nothing to see after all, but I'm not sure about a girl being taken into the gents where she might see other blokes using the urinals.

AIBU to be a bit wierded out by this? Luckily for me I've got two boys, so will continue to take them to the ladies with me / use a disabled loo as appropriate. I know that there was another thread about letting boys use a gents by themselves recently, but this feels a bit different to me.

I allow my 6 year old DS in the ladies. But my DH wouldn't take our dd into the mens, he says it's too dirty.

Oh I think YABU. My DH takes our daughter to the gents and if I have the children I take them to the female. Unless a child needed a change mat I see no reason to use disabled. I have forbidden my husband to let my DD go into a toilet on her own...now that would worry me!

not read all posts but my dad had a lovely way of sorting out this problem, he would ask a lady who was going to use the ladies loos if she would mind supervising my sister or me...

the ladies (as far as I can remember) were only too happy to help and probably rather charmed that he'd trusted them with his dd's

this was in the days before baby changing facilities and toilets for the disabled.

My DD has often been taken into gent's toilets when out and about with DH. Not all places have family rooms and she isn;t old enough to go in the ladies on her own. In many places disabled toilets need you to have a RDAR key s also not an option - also not keen on idea of using disabled when neither of u are disabled.

Besides men are not really on full view are they? I have been in gent's toilets and managed to go in and out of the cublices without catching an eyeful.

Also how do you know that dad didnt need to go also.

thi situation doesn't even warrant a thread FGS!

I think this hygiene thing is a bit of a variable really. Obviously there is quite a spread in ladies toilets from quite spotless to a bit grim. And I suppose that men's is probably from quite spotless to very grim.

LOL atHunkers "chesney waving"

I think the dad was being sweet in not sending his dd off to toilet on her own

I have never thought to worry about women waving their fanny's at my ds when he goes into the ladies...

as long as they dont sit the girl in the urinal and make sure she is in a cubicle, then there is no other option unless there is a disabled toilet near by. if the dad needs the toilet then should he leave the child outside to be possibly kidnapped by a passer by. i think this is such a ridiculous thing to be worried about.

disabled loos are for just that disabled people.

I remember as a young child being desperate for a wee at the pantomime, queue for the ladies was massive so my dad took me in the mens. A man at a urinal looked at me and physically jumped and just looked absolutely shocked. It stuck with me but was only years later that I realised he must have felt worried about having his penis out in the presence of a young girl.

... But there is never a queue for the mens!