to be a bit perturbed by somebody taking a small girl to the gents loo?

[FourArms]

On a family day out last Saturday, I saw a bloke take a small girl (over 5, under 10 - rubbish with ages!) into the blokes loo. I think that there was some kind of single dad's trip on - lots of blokes with kids came off a coach at the same time. I can understand him not letting her go to the ladies by herself, but there was a vacant disabled/baby changing loo which they could have used.

I've got no problems with boys of any age being taken by their mums into the ladies - there's nothing to see after all, but I'm not sure about a girl being taken into the gents where she might see other blokes using the urinals.

AIBU to be a bit wierded out by this? Luckily for me I've got two boys, so will continue to take them to the ladies with me / use a disabled loo as appropriate. I know that there was another thread about letting boys use a gents by themselves recently, but this feels a bit different to me.

YABu, If he was own his own with the child that was the best thing to do. The disabled toulet might have ben locked.

Not sure I understand your problem tbh. Is it:

a) girls shouldn't see penises?
b) all men are paedophiles?

My DH has had to take our DD's into the mens while out with them on his own.

I trust his judgement, and it is not as tho they would be able to see much anyway. if it is his child, YABU.

i cant get over this, there is nothing wrong with an innocent little girl goin to do a pee with her father, and why i mother would feel any different is beyond me!!!

YABU! FGS I don't know what the problem is I am pretty sure if a Father took his DD in the toilet and another man started to wave his bits at her the Father would deal with it.

Not all men are Paedophiles

My DP regularly takes some or all of our 3 dds to the men's loo, what else would he do?

I had a run-in with an angry woman recently who totally disapproved of me taking my desperate 4yo into a disabled loo. She argued that adults got desparate too. She was very cross indeed, it put me off using the disabled loos with children.

My DH didn't even like my DS going to the gents up until he was around 7. He always made me take DS to ladies claiming the mens toilets were filthy and hand washing was non existent. He is obsessed with hygiene and a complete bossy boots on the subject of cleanliness. Yawn

TBH I always thought it was weird that people would think any thing into these situtions. Maybe something about them aint right.

I find the OP rather disturbing actually. I think it is an unpleasant thing to think.

i agree ping ping, something must have happend in there lives to make them so suspicously worried about girls usin the fellas toilets with there dad

read the op and agree with theSuburbanDryad@s second post

I think how you feel about this will be influenced by how you feel about your children seeing nudity generally. If it isn;t something you are relaxed about at home then I can quite understand that you might feel uncomfortable about it.

Personally I don;t think its a big issue if your DD was with her father and presumably she was using a cubicle and not attmepting to use a urinal!

If the DD was over 5 she was also able to comminucate with her dad. Can't imagine many 5-10 year olds not letting their fatehr very clearly know if they felt uncomfortable with something, they're not reknowned for keeping their opinions to themselves

I disagree with the OPs astonishment.

However, I dont get why a child of reception age cant go to their gender specific toilets by themselves, with mum/dad/carer waiting outside. It is not as if their teachers are coming with them to the toilet in school, so clearly they can do the business by themselves.

tiredsville. Usually the ladies toilets are just as bad.

PMSL! At FAQ

You are absolutely right. Children should never be allowed to see adult genatalia in any circumstance until they are old enough to download porn off the internet. this will ensure they grow up with a healthy understanding of human biology and a normal attitude to nudity, and I'm sure it won't in any way contribute to the fetihism towards dnudity abundant in our society.

ideally, the father should have made the girl wait until she got home and taken her to the doctors later for the resultant kidney infection, or left her to piss herself in public at the age of between 5 and 10. This would be far less psychologically damaging than using a cubical in a men's toilet, I'm sure.

I would have been very excited about going into a mens toilet at 5-10 and seeing a strange willy. My Dad was no fun.

I remember when my son was five years old, in the changing rooms with me. This was when I was Spain, and a German woman had a go at me saying she felt uncomfortable with my son in there. I had a rant, assuring her my little boy was not interested in ogling a sixty year old woman.
I felt this was ironic as most of the German women on my complex always had their tits out by the pool. (Nothing wrong with that by the way).

I've used the gents many a time (at events etc when the ladies queue is too long) and have never seen anything interesting in there. Can't see any problem.

Reception children have little toilets. School toilets are very dull and designed to make children want to spend as little time in them as possilbe.

Things like fancy taps or liquid soaps can keep children occupied for hours. It is nightmare when you let your 6 year old child go into the mens toilets and they then decide to spend 20 minutes playing with high tech taps that come on when you wave your hand in front of a sensor.

tiredsville - maybe you should have told her that your son was uncomfortable by her wrinkly body and that it would have put him off women for life!

MEOW!! Just giving my paws a lick ROHBH.

My DH usually takes DD who is 3 to the ladies (I was pregnant and couldn't carry her) and is most of the time told off by ladies because he takes her there and they seem to think that because he is a bloke he should take her to the gents (which we don't think so for the reasons the OP mentioned). So you can't win really.