To detest other mums who only want a friendship based around the kids?

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I'm talking about mums who only want to meet in the week when their DH are at work so that they have something to do with their kids. They don't want to meet at the weekends or god forbid without their srogs as that when they see their real friends.

Even worse, what if you like the mum but dislike the child?

Teeny,

I did find your post smug.

Tulip

I do have that situtaion.

Sorry if I came across as smug. As I said, it's only my opinion, and I'm not a very "mummy" person. I enjoy being a mother, but it's not what I want to be defined as, and I don't get a lot out of interaction purely based on a common "mum" status.

Sorry if I came across as smug. As I said, it's only my opinion, and I'm not a very "mummy" person. I enjoy being a mother, but it's not what I want to be defined as, and I don't get a lot out of interaction purely based on a common "mum" status.

Yes, YABU. Who knows where those friendships might lead? Some of my closest friends are weekday mum pals; we've known each other for coming up to 3 years and we all tacitly accept that weekends can be the only time we have with our whole families. Who are you to try and deny anyone else that opportunity?

Now that one of the gang has changed her job we'll have to find a way to try and see her at weekends, which I for one am certainly keen to do as I value her so much - but if we had dropped her from our circle as you are so narrow-mindedly proposing, we'd never have got to know what an amazing and wonderful person she is.

When you have kids often the only other people who you may click with that are around during the day are other mothers. Your suggestion of dropping potential friends is a brilliant way to un-enrich your life and leave it very stale and bare.