to think that THIS is bad parenting

[NannyNanny]

A friend of mine leaves her 3 year old DS to watch T.V by himself in the morning until she can be bothered to get up. He can watch T.V for up to 3 hours before gets her lazy bum out of bed.

Halo shining? To judge that a child is being put at risk and say so?

I can't be bothered anymore.

Oh dear me!! i think i will just say
"calm down,calm down"

even the most over-protective parent can be caught out
who's the judge between over-protective and a cause for concern?
you?
does it matter if the mother meets your exacting standards or not either way?

what makes you so judgey judgey?

It is not what i would call an overprotective parent who stays in bed for three hours while there THREE YEAR OLD CHILD is amusing themselves out of sight!!!

you didn't say it katyh did!

I agree Mooog! - I love the mornings with my kids - after the first cuppa - we have loads of fun

think the kid must get lonely on its own.

Yes i know who said it.
But the 'judging' about what is overprotective and what isn't stands.
It is NOT being overprotective to leave a 3 yr old unsupervised no matter who or what said what!!

Wouldn't happen in our house my 3 year old comes running in my room and jumps on the bed shouting wake up wake up even slapping me on the face and prising my eye lids open at times! I'm envious!

Envious or not
Would you do it?

I'd never do it, and I'm not envious.

I don't think it matters whether I would do it or not
If the OP genuinely thought tat the children were in danger she would say something to her friend
She doen't really think that there is a problem except in perfect parenting land

Something might happen but something might always happen being in bed does not make it more likely necessarily
Nor does being constasntly vigilent

The parent is probably doing her best

Perhaps she hasn't considered the danger...couldn't the OP stop shining for a moment and point it out?
She'd ave more impsact tot he friend than on here

No ofcourse not I was only joking Making sure my children are up washed dressed and breakfasted every morning (not necessarily that order) is part of my job as their mum imo! Wouldn't dream of leaving him to his own devises for 3 hours in the morning even if he let me. That would surely make for a sad and lonely start to the morning for this little chap imo.

would not feel right at all for my children to go downstairs before I do. If it was after 7 I would just get up! Fair enough prattling about in room for half an hour or so but I am their parent and it is my rsponsibility to make aure they are safe/fed/getting dressed/not electrecuting themselves of falling off a chair trying to reach a cupboard.

Ronald. Do you have children?
Because i cant believe you dont think it will necessarily happen if 3yr old is on own for three hours. I dont give a shit if in bed or not.
You cannot leave a child so young on their own for 3hrs.
Can you understand this!

Her best - sorry ronaldihno - her best is to stay in bed for 3 hours whilst her DS is on his own aged 3 - would hate to see her worst

and before anyone says it - of course there are worse things in life, there always are, doesnt make it OK.

Let me see..
Did I understand the thread?...yes
Did I understand the situation?...yes
Can I understand having a point of view that is my own?.....mmm yes

Why are you so worked up?

All op needs to do is give her point of view to her friend

Are you alright? (pretends interest whilst really patronising)

Ronald..........I am sure you wont mind answering this one question for me.
DO YOU think it is alright to leave a child of 3 on his own for 3hrs ?
Remember, you only have to answer this one question.

Why do you care what I think?

I've made my position clear here and in real life....

I'D MAKE MY POSITION CLEAR TO THE FRIEND, IF I ACTUALLY WAS WORRIED OR REALLY GAVE A SHIT IN ANY WAY AT ALL

or I'd say nothing and get on here for lots of angsty types to debate the rights or wrongs of the action

So to clarify again
I disagree with you but this is an AIBU thread and I feel I have a right to mho
That does not mean that I do not understand the thread or the questions surrounding it

Your trying to ascertain my personal circumstances of personal stand point so that you can then try to flame me as well is hilarious

I won't judge the other mother as I don't know her or her situation
The OP does and if worried should say something to her

Glad someone has started a thread about this.#At our pre-school we have one boy who is just 4yrs old who will not stay still for 5 minutes at ANY task. Will tell adults that he "HATES THEM" but he says it with so much force it is scary.
The pre-school leader has tried talking to the mum about his lack of concentration and she said that "he can spend hours EVERYDAY" watching TV with no problem.
Errr.. yes lady because it is hypnotic for small children.
Do you think this is neglectfull parenting?
He has no siblings by the way.

After going to bed a bit late last night, DP is away and will be for the next two weeks, and I was up feeding DS in the night, I tried to get a bit more sleep after 6am wake-up of 2 1/2 year old DD was pacified by a nappy change and a big banana, but then she wandered in at 6.30, tolerated my heavy lidded eyes for about 10 minutes and then shouted "Mummy, not do nothing!", meaning "Get up!" I am looking forward to the day she can just quietly watch or listen to something on her own for a little while, but three hours from 7 am sounds like the mum in question has too many self-induced late nights or needs a bit of emotional support. I can imagine how she feels.

Dunno I can spend hours on mumsnet.....

I'm more worried about the "I hate you!". Too much from such a young child.

You have to do what is right for you as a parent and hopefully have 'friends' that don't judge your parenting....
What works for one family doesn't work for another.

Why dont you just try and calm down.
If you read any of my threads you will see i am not judging anybody. Just MY opinion on the op question. OK

I do hope you are not refering to me mooog??? My comment was a general reply to the whole thread.....thank you.