to think that THIS is bad parenting

[NannyNanny]

A friend of mine leaves her 3 year old DS to watch T.V by himself in the morning until she can be bothered to get up. He can watch T.V for up to 3 hours before gets her lazy bum out of bed.

Coco pops are yuck! Right up there with greggs sausage rolls and fruitshoots. 7am is unsociable and all children should be trained to remain in bed until at least 8.30am. Still 3 hours is a bit long in my book. Is she a single parent? If not the parents should take turns at having a lie in.

Of Course Nooooooooonki (how many? ).
What I'm trying to say is we all have different things to deal with NT, SN, only child, single parent, 2.4 kids with a pony, etc.
And, I for one, am quite judgey. But until we live that life, how can we know how to deal with it? And we each deal with things in different ways. Despite my tongue-firmly-in-cheek comment earlier, 3 hrs every day (of that is what your saying, I'm not sure) is too much.
BUT answer me this, if you live in, mothers help, whatever...... why arne't YOU sorting out the child in the morning while Mum lies in. Isn't that your job?
Bad parenting happens everywhere, doesn't make you a full time BAD PARENT.
Perhaps Mum is depressed/can't cope. Perhaps that's why you have a job.
Perhaps you should stop slagging people off and look after your charges! Or are you paid to play on 'tinternet too?

Don't care much about the telly watching but leaving a 3 year old unsupervised for 3 hours is just unsafe. Can't believe anyone would think it isn't.

Good job it isn;t rice crispies, that endless snap crackling and popping could deafen the little blighter.

Luke warm readybreak would be good and that way she could feed and heat her child saving money for fags and gin.

Fags and Gin?
Twinset, I hope you din't suspect that I am that mother? DS only 5 months old, honest!

No I didn;t!

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Although I am now thinking that perhaps you are protesting too much

It is unsafe. So far he's been okay but she's obviously oblivious to what he's getting up to if he's doing things like eating tobacco.

Hey, perhaps I'm wrong. I would dearly love to stop giving the nursery all my money.

I cant wait until my DD can go and watch TV in the mornings. She is only 9 months though so I have a wait!

3 hours sounds a lot.

We install DD infront of the TV some mornings, so that DP can come up and "sort me out" but this takes only three minutes, not three hours and even then we get interrupted with "dddddaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaadddddddddddy"

lol at it only takes 3 minutes!

I have children and I think leaving a three year old alone for three hours until 10am is too much.

I have three kids and one of them is three.

I never left my dd unsupervised whilst I slept at age 3 or even 4, I think it is a bit too risky tbh, but this is just my view on it. If I was low on sleep I went to bed early to catch up...which I often did at around 8 or 9pm!!

My dd didn't get up whilst we were still in bed until the age of 7 or 8, and even then not for more than an hour...and I feel guilty about allowing it at all!

The question you have to ask yourself is would you leave a three year old in the house on his own? I shouldn't imagine that you would, so to be honest I cant see why you think it is alright to sleep for that amount of time while he is down stairs watching tv.
You cannot be 100% sure that is all he is doing 100% of the time.
We hear about it all the time on the news about little ones starting fires.
The figures show that most childhood accidents happen at home (when the parent is usually out of sight of the child)
Just something for you to think about!

Oooo excellent a high horse witch hunt

adjusts stirrups and gets kindling ready

yabu but does it make you feel happy with your matches and equine association?

what,explain

I think that baaad parenting is something that we don't even rightly allow our minds to think about.
If we experienced it we try our damnedest not to repeat in any perceivable way.

This isn't bad parenting it's just something that the OP feels that she is superior to and wants others to vindicate her feelings.

This isn't starving beating or burning with fags this isn't abuse or lack of emotional suport this is busybodying and halo shining

IMHO

Terrible things happen all the time we can only do our best and judging each other doesn't help

Has the OP mentioned how she feels to her mate?

ds watched telly for nearly 3 hrs this morning while I was asleep, but he was in bed with me. I'm not sure I would have woken up if he had got out though.

I think childrens' welfare is everyone's responsibility, it's not 'busybodying'. Sorry if I have no sense of humour on this one. I worked in a sick kids hospital for 4 years and quickly realised that children are very inventive when it comes to injuring themselves. Even the most over-protective parent can be caught out.

However, if I'd cared for a 3 year old who had been injured doing something because his mum frequently left him alone for hours at a time, we would most certainly have contacted social services. I don't care if this appears judgemental. I wouldn't risk a child's welfare for fear of upsetting a parent.

The perfect solution is to move the TV into the bedroom with her (like I have ) put cereal (dry) into cups and an apple (a veg portion!) on bedside table, bean bag on floor and can have some quiet time!

I bet she doesn't get a whole 3 hours with out lots and lots of interuptions! I find I don't really ever sleep but the lying in bed with my eyes closed makes me feel much better!

I was a mothers help for awhile so thought I know about having dc. While you do understand the physical what to do/how to do it. I've found I can almost sense when my own dc are up to something - I realise this isn't 100% foolproof but while I appear to be ignoring kids a relaxed parent, I am really a coiled spring ready to spring to action . It is completely different not ever being off duty, even when I'm away from my own dc I wonder what they're doing and I'm never far from my phone.

If you've really got a problem with how she looks after her kids and they don't seem to be happy and healthy, you do need to say something. But the amount of TV they watch is really a question of opinion rather than bad parenting.

actually, the whole judging about how a 3 yo could hurt himself means I would be ok parking dd in front of the TV for 3 hours. She can't move.
I wonder about the truth of this '3 hours' and whether its a one off. Perhaps if your friend is knackered OP, you could go help her out if you're that worried.

Ronald....Most of what i have read here has been opinions on what they would do to make the situation safer!! I really dont see how you can take any chances with kids safety especially when talking about a three yr old.
I certainly dont see a witch hunt.
Maybe you think it is alright to leave a three yr old for three hours on their own.
If you do, you could have just said so instead of going on about a witch hunt.
Do you feel like you are being judged?

This is my opinion on what the op said how would i feel like i am being judged? I didn't pose the question... or is this an example of the mumsnet faux sympathy....are you alright at the moment..???lol

women endlessly judge other women if the op was worried she'd have said something to the mother and not blethered on on here what this is, is an episode of halo shining
imh (judged)opinion

i use a timed cat bowl to feed my children but they have learned to wait for the ping

flames dancing around feet ffs