To be dead jealous of childless couples sometimes? What do you miss?

[LittleOneMum]

OK, so did anyone see that article in the Observer the weekend (a response to an agony aunt question I think) which said that childless marriages are much more likely to be happy ones than ones with children in? I think that was childless by choice rather than anything else.

I don't actually accept that this is true, but then I get in a big depression about the things I can't do anymore. My sis has just gone off to Paris for three months to be in a play. I WANT TO DO THAT! I want to fly off to Miami and sunbathe on the beach all day! I want to fly off to New York for the weekend for shopping...! AAAArrrgh....

Anyone else with me or AIBU?

going out for breakfast on a weekend morning nad if there were a 2 hour wait, it was no big deal. you just hung out and leisurely drunk coffee and read the papers.

I really miss:

going out for dinner
sleep
lie-in in bed with the papers
going to the loo on my own
long dog walks
being able to enjoy the hours of 5-7pm
being able to sit down quietly with a cup of coffee without someone then wailing, demanding things, breaking things, or knocking the coffee over

oh and travel

no longer considering a seven am wake up the height of luxury and five thirty to be normal

yanbu we all feel it at times

my old body.

yoga classes. 1.5 hour long yoga classes several times a week.

I miss my old body too.

ya but do you no the probs withit

Ah, the old body conversation.

What I miss the most is being able to lie down with no bra on and my boobs stayed where they were and didn't fall under my arms like two flaps- spaniels' ears. The olden days... gone but not forgotten. SOB- I miss my boobs.

silence during the day time

lots of sex

romantic dinners

a flat stomach

getting drunk in the day

reading a newspaper

lieins

nightclasses

but wouldn't swap it for anything

start another thrad desperate and lots of people will come and help you.
don't spoil this thread.

Lots of the things mentioned could be done depending on curcunstances(?) and the age of your kids.

How old are everyones kids?

Mine are 3 and 7 and one the way.

Oh, I'd forgotten about my old boobs. I used to have them. Now I have no boobs, officially. I thought they were meant to grow bigger and stay big? Apparently not.

I miss being able to eat out 3 days a week after work, just because we wanted to and had the disposable income to fund it.

I miss feeling really loving and relaxed on holiday with DH, now it mostly involves us playing pass the baton with DS.

I miss reading the paper in bed, we used to get the Saturday and Sunday times delivered and wouldn't get dressed until lunch time.

But I wouldn't change it, because I know I wanted children and not having one would have left a very big gap in our life.

Oh DS is a very stroppy 2.5.

I miss my non-stretch marked tummy but I wasn't very sponteneous even before I had my child, I didn't take a gap year, I didn't travel, I rarely stayed out all night. The most daring thing I did was go to uni which surprised a lot of people who thought I was settled in a career. I've travelled more and tried more new things {culture, food, general activities, career) since I had my dd. The two things aren't related but she's given me a new perspective - life is for living and I'd hate for her to look down on me in a few years time with pity.

I miss going dancing until 5 in the morning. Actually, I don't as I went dancing until 5am on sat night. What I miss is not feeling like total and utter mince!!

Desperate,

here is a thread about PCOS if you use the search for messages tab at the top left you will find lots more.

Weekends away without a baby or breast pump!
The possibility of going to Africa or Asia on holiday. Yes, we could do it with kids but it would be soooo expensive and involve lots of shrieking on planes!

Staying in bed and reading in the morning,
Squealess days,
Talking to Dh about things other than the kids,
Listening to my music,
GOing for meals at no notice,
The ability to get up and go (not take 2 hours to mobilise a small army),
Spending money on nice clothes and shoes.

I don`t miss anything and view the time before having DD as just "marking time" waiting for life to begin !! I am loving every single moment of being a mum !!
Possibly because I waited so long to have her ??

Me Time! I can't wait to go back to work just for a rest!

Oh and pert boobs

desperate16yearold

do you have kids? im assumin your 16... have you got an email addy or msn we can chat over?

going for long runs
having long baths
watching a film without falling asleep half way through
going out/ away without the kids without feeling like i've forgotten something the whole time
wearing skirts (can't make them work with all that crouching down to play, change nappies etc)
understanding tv programmes that are more complex than america's next top model

but... i also remember working too much, worrying about work too much, obsessing and stressing over stuff that didn't matter. and i have much more fun now i have kids.