To be dead jealous of childless couples sometimes? What do you miss?

[LittleOneMum]

OK, so did anyone see that article in the Observer the weekend (a response to an agony aunt question I think) which said that childless marriages are much more likely to be happy ones than ones with children in? I think that was childless by choice rather than anything else.

I don't actually accept that this is true, but then I get in a big depression about the things I can't do anymore. My sis has just gone off to Paris for three months to be in a play. I WANT TO DO THAT! I want to fly off to Miami and sunbathe on the beach all day! I want to fly off to New York for the weekend for shopping...! AAAArrrgh....

Anyone else with me or AIBU?

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Oh I'm glad you started this as I'm fe-up looking at other peoples' photos on facebook and thinking 'why can't my life be like that? Why are the geeks that I was so dismissive of now looking really cool coz they don't have kids?'. I have NO regets about my kids but I do think back fondly to the days of afternoon drinking, waistlines and not putting the dampners (?) on a good shagging session by one or other of us saying 'it's getting late the kids will be up in 6 hrs'.

I also miss my husband smiling at ME and telling ME he missed ME when he gets home from work. Sometimes the wallpaper in our hall gets a better response than I do (stylish though it is it is still inanimate!).

Overall my kids are a blessing but one that comes at a great personal cost and I say that because I am a deeply selfish person who finds parenthood a challange . YANBU

I'm surprised about somethings that people miss.... like lie ins - I know some people can't because of circumstance but I'm not giving my lie in up for anyone (well not until I have this baby)

I look at it like i can do things like swan off to a sunny destination and lay all day on the beach, when the kids are older.

When you think about it, your kids aren't little for long. A very small chunk of your life in fact so i see it as i will be able to just go down the pub or swan off on holiday one day, just not now.

Unbroken nights sleep - night after night after night
Being able to sit on the sofa smoking gear and watching crap telly on bank holiday Mondays instead of having to fill the day with activities
Being able to drink a cup of tea while it's hot all the way down
Read the paper all the way through
Time to myself - most of all

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Am single - never have a lie-in. Don;t miss them, biggest joy of my life at the moment is DS running into my room at Ungodly O'clock and cuddling into my back saying "Mummy all better now?" Not having that for a whole week was gut wrenching.

Dilema,

I did say some people can't because of their situations. I let my kids get up and paly upstairs when they were about 2 and 3/4's - i had an ear out - depends on your home and the child.

i miss my health! childbearing has not been kind to me.

I don;t have children and I heart sleeping in, afternoon sex, watching what I want on TV, going out for meals when we want. SHOPPING!!

I am broody but when i think about giving up all the lovely stuff I enjoy I am happy not to have children for a bit yet
(not that children don't bring lovely stuff with them but ykwim!)

I don;t have children and I heart sleeping in, afternoon sex, watching what I want on TV, going out for meals when we want. SHOPPING!!

I am broody but when i think about giving up all the lovely stuff I enjoy I am happy not to have children for a bit yet
(not that children don't bring lovely stuff with them but ykwim!)

I'll tell you what I miss at the moment - feeling well! i am pregnant and tired most of the time, everything seems a chore.

Smurf

God, yes don't do it if you're not ready. Enjoy!

I don't miss working F/T.

So glad I started this thread! Of course having children is a blessing, and I wouldn't change it for anything. It's just nice to reminisce sometimes! Nice to see other people miss things too.

smurfgirl-why do you post on a parenting site?

i miss being the most important person in dh's life.
i miss going out to pubs.

i miss spontaneity.

but i wouldn't be without my boys.

YANBU

But having said that the only think i miss is being able to goto the toilet by myself.

I miss thinking, 'sod it, let's eat out' and that sort of spontaneity. I miss having holidays. Lying by a pool with a massive stack of books, leisurely lunches and dinners under the stars and strolling around sightseeing is a holiday. Same shit in a different place is NOT a holiday.
I really, really miss holidays. I wish I'd had more.
Oh, and weekend morning sex.

I want to sleep

I want days off

yanbu

i want a weekend away
I want time off for good behaviour dammit

Hi, does any one no what pcos is

poly cystic ovary syndrome

the spur-of-the moment weekend away is definitely what i miss the most.

the thursday night, 'let's take off this weekend' and friday after work you're off without a care.

especially because Vegas was a 1.5 hour flight from Denver and last-minute fares and lodging abounded.

poltcystic ovary syndrome but you need to start another thread.