to think doing coke and breastfeeding are incompatible?

[MrsBates]

Well, I know I'm not being unreasonable really but what are your thoughts? Was at a party recently and two mothers who are breastfeeding were taking coke. One says she is a 'bit naughty' to be smoking spliffs in front of her children but at least she and her husband only do it in the garden. One mum did say she is breastfeeding mainly to lose weight. Nice.

I wasn't a saint back in the day but now I have children - no way - and while feeding?! Still I do have too much wine sometimes and think that is sort of OK. Where do your draw your lines (you know the kind) about recreation of the drug kind?

We won't know the long term effects on health until much later and then it will be too late.

when I say no partying, I mean drugs

booze is ok

(but tbh the hangover and the 7am start with cries of "Where is My Polly Pocket Car?" kind of take the edge off for me)

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Does he not get up with them then? I'm quite lucky in that my kids know at the weekends they can lie in. Which means they can get up and play in their rooms until we get up. We usually get to 9am before they come bursting into our room.

Havin more info readily available about the dangers would help imo, If it's writtend down or in your face on a poster it's harder to justify or ignore.

As someone said there is lots of info readily available/shoved in your face about the dangers of smoking and drinking most people don't pretend not to know the dangers about them.

Also people will admit to smoking or drinking thus getting the lecture from the midwife but do many people admit to doing recreational drugs?

I was very, very well-behaved all through my pregnancy and have consideration for what might get to my DC through my breastmilk.

However I miss smoking, drinking, an occasional line of coke etc.

So I ordered some nitrous oxide off the internet. Great stuff and no side effects for bfing. Almost certainly better than drinking or smoking.

And when DC is old enough to go to the grandparents for the weekend and I'm done bfing I am going to party hard just very occasionally!

Well said ParCark-taking illegal drugs is not 'living'-it is a sad individual.

ParCark dear, I do not smoke or take drugs. My only vice is that I can have a bottle of wine at the weekends with my dh (one each that is) whilst watching a DVD. Very rarely I manage to get out with friends and then, yes I may get drunk. Not falling over drunk, but drunk enough. It's called relaxing and having fun with friends.

If you want to stay in and play Cluedo then that's fine too. I wouldn't criticise you for it. But since it is my body I am abusing and it does not have an adverse effect on the children, I would thank you to keep your criticisms to yourself.

Info is good but can't work out how people can think it ok if it's illegal in the first place?

prob stupid question but what is nitrius oxide?

prob stupid question but what is nitrius oxide?

"when I say no partying, I mean drugs
booze is ok"

What seems to be the enormous difference between being drunk on alcohol and high on drugs on a night out, such that the former is 'A-OK' but the latter makes one a 'bad parent'?

I kind of think doing coke and having kids at all is incompatible.

But then I am an old judgeypants.

tamarto, I have friends who take coke, but they are childless so they can do what they like. I've told dh that if he touches it then he's out. I cannot stand drugs.

He does smoke the odd joint however. I'm fine with that because let's face it, it's probably less dangerous than alcohol.

And I bloody hate this new use of "partying" to mean "taking illegal drugs".

Bloody hell, time was a party meant a bottle of Gaymers and a snog on the couch.

nitrous oxide isnt entirely risk free

Cupsoftea - It's easy to pretend something is ok when no is specifically saying it's wrong and giving reasons why.

It's not as if drugs are illegal because of what they can do to a breastfed baby is it.

Blimey

So enjoying a glass of wine or two or having the odd night out equates to benders that should stop when one is a parent now does it?

There is a middle ground you know.

But coke otoh is just beyond stupid.

nitrous oxide = poppers?

Cote, certain drugs are mind bending, as I'm sure you know. Coke gets you high and keeps you awake so you can party through the night. It's like having an overactive kid with you. Once the effect wears off, you sleep for a full day. Not conducive to being a parent I wouldn't think.

You also run the risk of the kids finding the drugs. Some drugs are highly addictive and of course they all cost a lot of money.

That's the main difference. Drinking is seen as a social drug. You can safely do it in moderation.

No, nitrous is what's in helium balloons. Gas n air basically

would hope that people would realise coke and bfing NOT a good idea

but I have never seen any info on it

I didn;t realise it could be fatal

and I am (I hope) a fairly clued up middle class parent

if you are taking drugs recreationally (I never have) I can see how could be completely ignorant about the risks to a bf baby of cocaine use. Becasue no-one talks about it. So what's the harm in more information?

What is it you lot do for fun if you dont go out and have a drink and a laugh. Your so quick to judge mothers that go out and have a laugh I think if they are not effecting there children via breast milk or any other way then its no ones damn business.

I can imagine in 10yrs time cocaine will be made legal only cus the greedy government will realise how many people actually do it and how much money on tax they can make.

nitrous oxide = gas and air

toarto - get what you're saying & info is good but a person on seeing the physical effects should know it's not ok with bf & preg?