NDTH well done on managing to quit. i did coke while pg but did not breastfeed, so that wasnt an issue. though i have to say that if i was breastfeeding i dont think it would have stopped me
it was part of my lifestyle back then and i didnt know i was pg untill gone three months. i had been doing it roughly three to four times a week all the way through that time.
when i found out i was utterly terrified and the two friends i trusted most in my life turned their backs on me. which sparked a bout of depression. i was on my own, pg and scared. i started partying even more
i stopped at about 7.5 months when i moved back home with my parents as it wasnt accessable to me then.
after i gave birth i went back to my old job and back to coke. even when i knew i had to care for dd the next day.
i stopped when i quit my job while ttc dd2. and i havent done it since. dd2 is now 15 months old.
i dont know if it has affected dd1 as i have never admitted to any doctors that i did this. she was born with a v low birth weight and has always had trouble with eating and gaining weight. she is very hyper and i strongly suspect she has adhd but dont want her medicating so we try to deal with it in other ways. i do feel guilty when i think that her problems could have been caused by my behavior but i also feel lucky that she does not have more serious problems. she is very bright and loving and her eyesight and hearing is just fine.
though i cant say 100% i would never do coke again id never do it if i had to care for my dds that day or the next day. and never while pregnant.
obv doing coke while pg or breastfeeding is very bad and can cause very serious problems in the baby. i personally would tell the mothers this and hope that they are just silly and niave and they would stop once fully informed. if not then maybe SS should be involved.