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or rather.........................*WOULD* I be unreasonable.........soup etiquette.......

60 replies

psychomum5 · 17/09/2008 12:51

I love soup, especailly in the winter.

and with a warm crusty roll...........

I want to eat it when eating out, but I like to break up my roll into pieces and drop it all into my soup and then eat it.

would I be stared at and frowned on??? In fact, is it a crime for the food police to even suggest doing such a thing????

((and please don;t suggest croutons......I have ishoos with croutons))

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maidamess · 17/09/2008 12:53

If you do anything in a restaurant with enough panache you can get away with it.

psychomum5 · 17/09/2008 12:54

but what is this panache you speak of???

cos I really don;t think I have it!

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Carmenere · 17/09/2008 12:57

Honestly? I would think that was not great table manners. I mean I probably wouldn't let my dd do it in a restaurant but would be happier to see a child doing it than an adult.

psychomum5 · 17/09/2008 12:58

and this is why I do not do it at the moment, for fear of it looking bad manners.

but I wondered if it was as opposed to just 'might be' IYGWIM.

I will happily continue at home tho, I like it that way!

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Overmydeadbody · 17/09/2008 12:58

It depends entirely on where you are eating said soup though psycho.

If you're with, say, a John Lewis foodhall or cafateria or something I don't think anyone would look twice.

If you're in a smart restaurant and you've paid £20 for said soup, people will notice yes.

psychomum5 · 17/09/2008 12:59

£20 on soup

well you can rest assured I will not be paying that much ever on soup, and therefore will not feel tempted!

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Overmydeadbody · 17/09/2008 13:00

I would think it was awful table manners, but then I would think it was awful tablemnners if someone tipped their soup bowl towards them to get the last bit of soup onto the spoon, so feel free to ignore me. My parents where uber strict when I was growing up.

hecate · 17/09/2008 13:02

here's your solution order that!

TheConfusedOne · 17/09/2008 13:02

You slattern, of course you can't nor dip it, eat it delicately along side your soup.

psychomum5 · 17/09/2008 13:04

ah, now I grew up in a house where it was the done thing to tip your plate and drink the gravy from it!

Now, I do not do that, but I did (and still do) like my roll broken up in my soup.

I do not eat soup while out tho, as I do not want to look insane as tho I have been raised without decent table manners, and so opt for salad or something 'safe'.

but sometime I would like to have soup, so I thought MN could help me before I make an utter fool of myself.

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psychomum5 · 17/09/2008 13:05

hecate........that look perfect!

at being called a slattern.....

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bundle · 17/09/2008 13:05

do you have ishoos with texture?

compo · 17/09/2008 13:05

I always dip bread into soup at restaurants
I've paid for the meal, I'll eat it how I likE!

Oblomov · 17/09/2008 13:05

Do you slurp aswell ?

EmmyLou · 17/09/2008 13:07

Have been known to wonder about the tipping the bowl away from you thing. What purpose does it serve in the whole table manners ouevre? Is it purely so the dregs don't end up in your lap?

I'd tend to tear small peices of bread a few at a time for immersion in the soup and repeat the process every few mouthfulls, eating slowly to reinforce ladylikeness and to detract from babyfoodness of the bread soaked in soup (DD2's favourite when baby, esp with pumpkin soup).

Oblomov · 17/09/2008 13:07

My dh has taught ds to pick up his cereal bowl and slurp the last of the milk out, into his mouth. The shame, The shame. They both think this is hilarious.

You are not planning on doing THIS, are you ?

TheConfusedOne · 17/09/2008 13:08

hecate we have soup like that (in the roll type not the whole loaf) on firework night

psychomum5 · 17/09/2008 13:08

in what way bundle?? do you mean with why I don;t like croutons??

they are too hard and crunchy to start with, and then they go all yack and slimy.

bread on the other hand absorbs some of the fluid, making the soup seem thicker, and so easier to eat.

and because of that, I do not slurp(( oblomov!))

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psychomum5 · 17/09/2008 13:10

please all rest assured I do not condone the tipping of plates or bowls to get the dregs out.

that is another reason for the bread, you wipe the plate/bowl clean.....

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bundle · 17/09/2008 13:11

I mean that you don't want to eat bread on its own (until it's well soaked by the sound of it) nor soup on its own.

not saying it's freaky, just interesting

I'm not mad keen on soup... but I do like Heinz tomato with a little cheese grated on top

blowsy · 17/09/2008 13:12

Noooo - all very bad form! Have some decorum, please!

TheConfusedOne · 17/09/2008 13:13
psychomum5 · 17/09/2008 13:18

Interesting hey.......but I am not freaky, so !!!

decorum, me......not sure I have that.....

Lol @ 'medals of soup'. flame often has 'medals of any food' down her. she spills!!

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noonki · 17/09/2008 13:19

but the bread goes all soggy bleuuuughhhhh

SorenLorensen · 17/09/2008 13:19

When I was a child, we always finished off Sunday dinner (which was a meal eaten at lunchtime ) with a slice of white bread, plonked on to the left over gravy and tiny bits of vegetables etc. then turned over (to soak both sides) and eaten with a knife and fork. My grandad did it, my dad did it, we all did it.

I went Youth Hostelling in the Lakes with a bunch of friends when I was 15 and did the same thing after a meal (in the Youth Hostel kitchens). My 'friend' Lisa (and Lisa, if you are perchance reading this and recognise yourself - you were a bitch and none of us really liked you) hissed loudly at me across the table "Oh my God...what are you doing? Oh my God I'm so embarrassed!"

I was mortified - it had never occured to me that it was not the done thing. So I probably wouldn't crumble my bread and put it in my soup but the person with far worse manners would be the one who made you feel uncomfortable for doing it, imho.

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