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Original poster

to think that DH should look in the 'special baby ' rear view mirror at DS to check that he's ok?!

71 replies

YumeeMumee · 12/09/2008 23:24

Today, on the way home in the car, I turned around to look at DS and he was shaking his cup of water everywhere and was drenched!

Now rather than having to turn right around (as DS sits behind the passenger seat) and strain my neck/back - AIBU to expect DH to look in the mirror occasionally to check on DS?!?! This also happened when DS was sick in the car, a while ago we'd prob never had known until either I turned around or we'd reached our point b

Seeing as the driver would be checking the rear view mirror anyway, it wouldn't take a few more seconds to look in the other mirror which is located on the windscreen right next to the rear view....would it?

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1dilemma · 12/09/2008 23:26

Is this your first child?

Hulababy · 12/09/2008 23:26

Hmmm...I drove a lot with DD and never owned a rear view mirror. Never felt the need. DD was fine. I never gave DD food/drink in car though.

Habbibu · 12/09/2008 23:27

Safer for you to look, tbh - not much he could do if he was on his own, anyway.

FabioBigBangBlackHole · 12/09/2008 23:27

water won't kill him
he was probably having fun

I think those mirrors should be banned.
He should be checking the road behind and in front of him if he's driving.

You could always reposition the mirror so you can see ds while dh is driving.

YABU

ThisOneTimeAtBandCamp · 12/09/2008 23:27

YABU - he is concentrating on driving safely better this than checking the seats and having a crash and killing you all.

Olihan · 12/09/2008 23:27

Why don't you put ds behind the driver's seat so you can see him without turning round if you are a passenger and in the little mirror if you are driving?

StormInanEcup · 12/09/2008 23:28

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mabanana · 12/09/2008 23:28

A special baby mirror? WHat in the name of hell is that? Is it new?

EvilWillow · 12/09/2008 23:29

Someone gave us a car mirror for ds - dh thought it was a shaving mirror and I found it in the bathroom several months later.

Pointless things IMFO - it wouldn't take too much effort to turn around? Ds loves playing peekaboo round the headrest!

FabioBigBangBlackHole · 12/09/2008 23:30

mabanana it's a mirror you stick next to the rearview mirror, and you train it on your pfb child so you can watch him/her/it instead of the farking road in front of you.

Habbibu · 12/09/2008 23:30

I did have the mirror on the rear seat so that I could see dd when she was v tiny in rear-facing seat - just looked in rear-view mirror for that. But you'd look, see she was slumped forward or something, and be on a motorway with no way of stopping. It was nice to be able to see her, but not much use.

thisisyesterday · 12/09/2008 23:30

I have a baby mirror and I keep forgetting I have it becuse it's small and stupid and I just turn around anyway lol.

mabanana · 12/09/2008 23:32

Ah (light dawns) woudl this be a totally pointless bit of kit designed to extract money from paranoid parents? One that will be used devotedly with the pfb then lost and forgotten? The kind of thing that all babies born until last year or something survived perfectly happily without?
Will they soon be banned after a campaign by the Daily Mail to 'End This Baby Mirror Carnage On Our Roads Now'?

unknownrebelbang · 12/09/2008 23:33

Is this a wind-up?

YABU if not.

DH's priority is to drive and concentrate on events outside the car, not inside.

Perhaps you could sit in the back with DS if you're unduly worried.

Twims · 12/09/2008 23:34

Do not feed the ? ? ? ?

Original poster
YumeeMumee · 12/09/2008 23:38

No water won't kill him but the sick might have...DS is our first child...why?!

I just thought that in these circumstances - specifically when there are 2 of us in the car, then it wouldn't be too much to ask DH to look occasionally so that he can tell me if somethings afoot.

I usually drive this car, which is why DS sits behind the passenger seat. If I'm driving then I look every now and again as it doesn't take that long that I lose concentration of the road, it's literally a second - I think saying that these mirrors could cause a crash is a little dramatic. If I see something's not right then I find a safe place to stop or pull in off the main road.

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YumeeMumee · 12/09/2008 23:44

No this isn't a wind-up....it really doesn't take that long to just glance at DS that you'd lose concentration off the road.

I think that if a campaign was to be set up then it'd be time better spent on banning smoking in cars...take out the lighter thingie from cars as that must make drivers take their eyes off the road for much longer and have the effect of losing concentration far more.

I believe that they have banned eating/drinking whilst driving for this reason, so why not smoking??

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Habbibu · 12/09/2008 23:46

Sick v. unlikely to hurt unless he was lying flat on his back, and even then it wouldn't be terribly likely to cause trouble, so try not to worry so much.

mabanana · 12/09/2008 23:47

Ha, I was saying to dh the other day that I wished we had one of those screens like in taxis so you didn't have to hear your kids at all in teh car. Now, that I'd buy.

FabioBigBangBlackHole · 12/09/2008 23:48

Fair point about the smoking YM.

I think your concentration could be split between looking in the mirror and the road.

It is possible to manage without them.

Give your dh a break. He may have been thinking you were keeping an eye on ds.

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YumeeMumee · 12/09/2008 23:48

I know his priority is on 'events outside the car' not inside but I'm only talking about glancing in the mirror occasionally!!

What about car stereo's?! DH definitely spends more time fiddling with that and thus more time with his eyes off the road than it would be to glance in the mirror.

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FabioBigBangBlackHole · 12/09/2008 23:48

mabanana you can always put dcs in a caravan and tow it

hth

mabanana · 12/09/2008 23:49

Ooh, good idea! Will go to bed and put this brilliant scheme to dh rightaway. Thanks!

unknownrebelbang · 12/09/2008 23:50

If there are two adults in the car, then the passenger is the one who should be checking the child/ren are ok, not the driver.

theSuburbanDryad · 12/09/2008 23:51

Why don't you sit in the back with the baby?

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