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AIBU?

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Original poster

to think that DH should look in the 'special baby ' rear view mirror at DS to check that he's ok?!

71 replies

YumeeMumee · 12/09/2008 23:24

Today, on the way home in the car, I turned around to look at DS and he was shaking his cup of water everywhere and was drenched!

Now rather than having to turn right around (as DS sits behind the passenger seat) and strain my neck/back - AIBU to expect DH to look in the mirror occasionally to check on DS?!?! This also happened when DS was sick in the car, a while ago we'd prob never had known until either I turned around or we'd reached our point b

Seeing as the driver would be checking the rear view mirror anyway, it wouldn't take a few more seconds to look in the other mirror which is located on the windscreen right next to the rear view....would it?

OP posts:
Habbibu · 12/09/2008 23:51

If you're in the car, then you should do it, I think, simply as you're not responsible for driving the car - I take your point about other distractions, but their existence doesn't make another necessary, if you see what I mean. Maybe he just worries a bit less that you? Your ds can't be that young if he's got his own drink in his hand - maybe your dh has just got a bit more relaxed about it. Try not to worry.

1dilemma · 12/09/2008 23:52

knew it

didn't the sick smell?
wasn't there any vomitaceous noises?
was the music too loud?

if it was runny baby milk burp sick gravity will probably drag it out of ds mouth

people with more than one child rarely have such worries

Habbibu · 12/09/2008 23:53

oh, let's please not do the pfb thing. bah humbug.

mabanana · 12/09/2008 23:55

This is SO pfb though. A pfb gadget designed to capture the pfb market. Like those bath thermometers, and room thermometers (like you can turn the sun down!) I had both of the latter until dh laughed at me and I came to my senses
It's a total waste of time and money, and makes parents even more paranoid.

theSuburbanDryad · 12/09/2008 23:57

Ds always used to enjoy listening to loud gangsta rap in the car when he was little. We've had to swap it for the less abrasive Scouting For Girls as I don't think nursery would be too impressed with a rendition of "Fuck Da Police."

1dilemma · 12/09/2008 23:57

I was responding to her why? when I asked if it was her first

It can be helpful to know that once you have a few more years under your belt such things rarely seem so important. Those are your letters I purposefully didn't use those letters because they wouldn't be very helpful in this situation.

Original poster
YumeeMumee · 12/09/2008 23:57

1dilemma!

No...the sick didn't smell immediately and no...there wasn't any vomitaceous noises.

I agree....the existence of other distractions doesn't make another necessary but I'm only talking about glancing on occasion!!

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Habbibu · 12/09/2008 23:58

Oh, I know, it's just a bit wearying. Och, I'm grumpy - sorry.

unknownrebelbang · 12/09/2008 23:58

So you do the glancing.

theSuburbanDryad · 12/09/2008 23:58

I was terribly PFB with ds.

That's why I used to sit in the back with him! Also, so I could hang my boob over the car seat if he got upset on long journeys!

1dilemma · 12/09/2008 23:59

Who sings scouting for girls?

(my lo learnt all thier swear words from me in the car)

dc2 now growls 'madam get out of my way' when needed (and even when not!!)

1dilemma · 12/09/2008 23:59

their

1dilemma · 13/09/2008 00:00

lol suburban

for a long time I thought you were a man (suburbandad!!)

theSuburbanDryad · 13/09/2008 00:00

Scouting For Girls are terribly innocuous new-ish band singing in some sort of Regional Accent. I find them a little bland but ds seems to like it!

Ashantai · 13/09/2008 01:39

Sooo was there a reason you couldnt sit in the back or did i miss that explanation?

Tortington · 13/09/2008 01:57

she couldnt be arsed

why dont you drive?

SuperPsychoFabioSlayer · 13/09/2008 02:01

baby mirrors are marketed to rip of new mums and dads and making them think that without them baby might have terrible problems in the car. how do you think our parents coped with driving us about, and not car seats, no belts even, and certainly no mirrors.

I think we all thrived, as will your LO as you clearly love him to the ends of the earth.

calm down....fret not over the little stuff as the big stuff will bite you in the arse!

lou33 · 13/09/2008 02:19

if your h was driving, why couldnt you look?

zippitippitoes · 13/09/2008 02:45

is this a serious post..heavens above

Janni · 13/09/2008 05:24

It sounds to me like you are just looking to pick a fight with your DH. I would advise you not to imply to him that he doesn't care about your DSs safety. Presumably if you were in the car with him, he was expecting you to keep an eye on your DS.

priceyp · 13/09/2008 11:57

Suburban I have got a terrible mental image of you hanging your boob over the carseat!! How big are your boobs!!
Keeping your eyes on the road is very important. Those mirrors are too distracting. Sit in the back, then you can mop up the vomit.

findtheriver · 13/09/2008 12:07

What SuperPsycho says. You have been ripped off, my dear, by being persuaded to buy a pointless piece of crap. There is something seriously wrong if new parents are being persuaded that they cannot possibly strap their child in a car and drive somewhere without this. Your priority when driving should be, erm... looking where you are going. If you give a toddler a cup of water in the car they will probably shake it all over themselves and you. Which wont hurt but will be annoying. So give him a drink when you stop. If a child is sick, you would normally hear it. And certainly smell it within minutes.If he is sick silently and doesnt even scream or call out once he's done it, it clearly ain't bothering him!

turquoise · 13/09/2008 12:26

A dad in in a bloody great massive FU4X4 was so busy adjusting his baby mirror down our village street the other day that he very nearly drove into me, and then nearly took out a parked car when he finally realised and swerved, so IMO yes, YABVU.

Twiglett · 13/09/2008 12:39

ROFL .. the driver should be driving not checking on a child

you are quite quite unreasonable and rather mad too

I see from the name that you're probably a troll, what a shame

Twiglett · 13/09/2008 12:41

a baby sitting in a car seat is not going to die when it vomits .. it is just going to stink your car out

you're mad

you should get rid of the mirror immediately .. they should be illegal

do you know that accidents happen just by a driver changing a radio station ... accidents where people are killed and mangled