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To think mums shouldn't do drop at nursery in their pyjamas?

458 replies

TheDevilWearsPrimark · 11/09/2008 13:02

I know they may have been up all night with a newborn, depressed, etc etc.

But really, I do wonder when I see a flashy subaru 4x4, child immaculately dressed and the mother has an expensive coat on, over pj's. How long does it take to put a pair of jeans on ffs?

I shit you not, I once saw one of the offenders in pj's and heels.

Or is this some high fashion thing I just don't get?

OP posts:
blackrock · 12/09/2008 22:05

I wish I had time to it in my PJs, but DS is only ever at nursery when i am on my way to work, for which I have to be smart.

KVC · 12/09/2008 22:15

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giraffescantdancethetango · 13/09/2008 10:15

Loads of people here where PJs to the shops/chippy/postoffice/van usually pj bottoms and slippers (older person) or ugg boots (teenager) and either a vest top or large hoodie.

TrinityRhino · 13/09/2008 10:26

well geepers?

dingdong05 · 13/09/2008 10:26

This thread is hysterical.

I used to do my paper round with my pjs on. As it was cold I'd pull my jeans and a jumper on top, but the principle is the same.
Does that make me better because no one could see them?

I wish my life was such that I could get that upset about something like this lol

Podrick · 13/09/2008 10:38

Do fathers do this too?

peacelily · 13/09/2008 10:44

I don't think anyone is dictating on here or even bothered by what other parents are wearing, just expressing an opinion.

Surely "nursery run" implies that the reason a pre-schooler is in nursery is because the parents are both working. If a parent is regularly dropping off their dc in pyjamas at nursery then he/she is in a priveledged position!! Having nursery care AND being a SAHP, if you haven't got time when you're this fortunate to get yourself washed and dressed then IMO that's lazy!!

Personally think it's a bit "ewww" but never stay in pjs very long after getting out of bed anyway, like to be clean and dressed and ready for the day. can't function in nightwear even if I don't leave the house, although that never happens either even on a day off (work not childcare).

At our nursery all the parents work and we're all pretty smart in the morning, no one as far as I know has an employer that allows pjs!

BarefootShirl · 13/09/2008 11:26

I don't wear PJs in bed so that is not an option. However, have been known to just pull on a pair of shorts and a sports bra or crop top when running late - no shoes as usual - and walk DCs to school. Get a few look from some of other mums but so what - it's not a bloody fashion show, although you do wonder with some of the outfits they are wearing.

strummer · 13/09/2008 11:39

I drop the kids of in an old t-shirt with nothing else on, well I should do as thats what I wear to bed.

KnickersOnMaHead · 13/09/2008 12:10

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LuLuMacGloo · 13/09/2008 12:13

I find the 'not wearing pj's in bed' thing weirder than wearing them for a drop off.

Why would you bother taking off all your clothes in the evening, getting into a pair of pj's for a wee bit, then taking THEM off and getting into bed.

Seems like a completely unnecessary change of clothes or am I missing something?

aGalChangedHerName · 13/09/2008 12:15

One of my old families (am a CM) used to reguarly drop their ds off whilst in their jammies. Bleurgh!!

Dad was huge and wore stinky tshirt that was too small and bed shorts. Unshaven/morning breath too. Used to hand over baby and then lean in close to baby(and me obv) to say bye bye and kiss etc.

I could have been sick some mornings,was bloody rank!!

KnickersOnMaHead · 13/09/2008 12:17

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Geepers · 13/09/2008 18:41

TR, what do you mean 'well?'

I didn't think it needed pointing out again that I think you are lazy and weird for taking your child to nursery in pajamas.

I did re-read your all your posts in this topic and to use the excuse that you have no clean clothes just enforces what I think.

zookeeper · 13/09/2008 18:48

Barefoot lol at your school run attire. do you really turn up at school barefoot wearing shorts and a sports bra ?

KAEKAE · 13/09/2008 23:28

I couldn't care less what others do, each to their own.

LittleBella · 14/09/2008 07:51

"I think you are lazy and weird for taking your child to nursery in pajamas."

Geepers, I think you sound hopelessly stupid.

nkf · 14/09/2008 07:54

Pyjamas and heels? Are you sure it wasn't some kind of fancy leisure wear.

TrinityRhino · 14/09/2008 10:19

thankyou littlebella
its not just me that thinks geepers sounds hopelessly stupid

Pineneedles · 14/09/2008 10:32

"I shit you not" is such a nasty turn of phrase. Is it necessary? Is this the standard we wish our nation's children to aspire to if they are going to turn out like us?

BarefootShirl · 14/09/2008 10:50

Zookeeper - my "outfit" for the school run will be whatever I happen to be wearing at the time (within reason ), but almost always without shoes as I rarely wear any wherever I do. I was always taking my shoes off and going barefoot as a child, much to mum's concern, and just never seemed to grow out of it - now DD seems to be following in my footsteps (literally)

Janni · 14/09/2008 11:12

If I saw someone doing a school or nursery run in their pyjamas I would assume they were having a very bad day and that getting their kids into class on time was all they could manage. If it happened regularly I might reassess, but as a one off I'd think it more important for the children to be on time than for the mum to be properly attired.

Janni · 14/09/2008 11:19

Quattro - you won't have seen them as they've seen you first; you're too immaculate to miss.

They psst to each other 'Duck! - there's Quattro. Don't let her see us in our nighties!!!'

Quattrocento · 14/09/2008 13:26

LOL If by "immaculate" you mean dressed, washed and teeth and hair brushed, then I plead guilty. Don't do make up though. TBH all the school-run mums at my DCs schools are always dressed, usually rather well-dressed, and look quite, you know, respectable.

I must be old fashioned, thinking that getting dressed in the morning is the norm ... Clearly in other people's worlds it is not. It does sound a bit depressive and odd to me. Do the children not get teased? When do the p-js for school run brigade actually get dressed? At what point in the day? Lunchtime? Dinnertime? Not at all?

halia · 14/09/2008 13:58

wow, I'm obviuosly judged most mornings then! I drop DS off at nursery in my sweatpants/PJs and with unwashed hair quite alot. I enjoy being able to go home, shower in peace, shave my legs get into clothes and wash my hair without the screams of an abandoned 3 yr old (out on the landing).

And yes sometimes I'm going back to bed - or on those days should I have a large sign round my neck saying 'suffering from long term health condition / Have flu/ Been up since 1am/ on night shift' or whatever reason is good enough?

Honestly are there people so shallow and judgemental out there that they actually care about what other people are wearing at 8am?
As long as the kids are warm/healthy/happy who gives a flying f?