To think mums shouldn't do drop at nursery in their pyjamas?

[TheDevilWearsPrimark]

I know they may have been up all night with a newborn, depressed, etc etc.

But really, I do wonder when I see a flashy subaru 4x4, child immaculately dressed and the mother has an expensive coat on, over pj's. How long does it take to put a pair of jeans on ffs?

I shit you not, I once saw one of the offenders in pj's and heels.

Or is this some high fashion thing I just don't get?

LOL knickers- what would happen if it got hot in the queue and you forgot?

PM 2beornot2be : I'v done alot worse than go out in my Pj's before and it was FUN at the time, i can look back and smile about these things and maybe one day share these stories with my children once there old enough! (yes i'm a sinner)

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ive done this -and couldnt care less. i think its sadder when u see someone done up to the nines for a nursery run tbh!

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Sorry Knickers!
I am someone who loves looking through house windows
I never look like I'm on the pull though- even when I am! (to be fair, it's been so long since I was, I really can't remember much about how it's done I think you were 6 or so )
In fact you'd probably look at me and think 'poor woman, looks like she has a hard life, wonder if she wants a cup of tea!'

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Trust me- it feels like it at the moment!

If you don't want me to look through your windows, close the curtains.

I love having a good old nose at other people's home decor.

I couldn't just could not walk out of the door to the school, shop, whatever, in my PJs.

Bone bloody idle.

not bone bloody idle at all

so why do you wear your PJs out in public TR?

Well, I imagine (correct me if I'm putting words in your mouth TrinityRhino) that some days something else more important than getting dressed took priority, Geepers.

I, personally, would prefer to read my DS the book he wants read to him before nursery to make him feel happy, than spend time blow drying my hair or choosing an outfit.

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but try not to fall off your judgey chair whilst you do it

Of course it's bone idle not to dress. Like it's bone idle not to clean.

Of course there are worse things to be than bone idle. In fact most of the nicest people I know are chronically bone idle, but equally how can you expect people not to think "slattern" when they see people who can't get themselves together to get dressed in the morning.

I would probably think 'bad morning' in a sympathetic way.

unless it was someone without children, in which case I'd think 'student' - without the sympathy.

If you turned up to work in PJs, I would probably be

But to do a drop off at nursery/school? Nah.

I can't help it.

I've tried to understand, really I have.

And if it was a one off because your dog had been sick just as you found your toddler rubbing sudocrem into his head just as the toast burned and your car had needed a wheel change, yes, I suppose I could just about understand it.

But in full make up and/or on a regular basis, it smacks of that awful "grown woman in knock-kneed pigeon toed pose", with her cuffs pulled over her hands and her head on one side, because she is all delicate and eccentric and quirky, don't you love her?

To which the answer from me is a resounding "no".

Not that I expect anyone to lose any sleep over that.

I blame Friends. Rachel in particular. She started this.

I like proper 1940s grown up women, with nipped in waists, Elizabeth Arden lipstick and hats and gloves. Ladies.

I wouldn't assume someone is bone idle. They might be disorganised, but that isn't the same at all. They might have been up since 5 O'Clock mumsnetting for an hour, then housework, then ironing then realised it was time to go. (Similar has happened to me, though not to the extent that I hadn't actually dressed. )

And handbags, BW, don't forget the handbags.

Oh, yes, in the crook of the arm.

Or perhaps a shopping basket...

These mums actually wear the pjs in bed or just put on to go out?

ah no, pjs as a conscious fashion decision I don't understand. Odd.

No odder than flares, or dungarees though, I suppose.

Don't these mums have to say hello to the school staff & have things to do afterwards like supermarket and such like?

What gets me are the mums already in sports gear off to tennis or fitness!!

do you think this is her nightie?

Am trying not to be judgy judgy but am still really by this concept.

It's not just in Paris that this is unthinkable (sez she from an unfashionable Normandy town!).

If you want to do it, fine, I don't think it's necessarily dirty BUT (apart from some exceptions)

I do think it's

a) a bad example to your children (see Flylady for this!)

b) not a good advert for SAHMs - all this martyrdom about "I choose to prioritise my children before my own apperance bla bla bla"

As several people have said, when you WOH you have no choice, and [shoot me now] quite often I am fully smartly dressed while DS still have weetabix around their mouths.

I WILL be judged on my appearance at work, at 4 and 18mths they don't care yet.