To think mums shouldn't do drop at nursery in their pyjamas?

[TheDevilWearsPrimark]

I know they may have been up all night with a newborn, depressed, etc etc.

But really, I do wonder when I see a flashy subaru 4x4, child immaculately dressed and the mother has an expensive coat on, over pj's. How long does it take to put a pair of jeans on ffs?

I shit you not, I once saw one of the offenders in pj's and heels.

Or is this some high fashion thing I just don't get?

What Halia said.

Frankly I envy those people, as someone who has to get dressed for work to do nursery run and hopes DS doesn't throw up on me as we go out the door.

If the sight of someone sloppily dressed for the school/nursery so offends you then look away.

HATE they way people judge on appearance. It's just snobbery, plain and simple. Find something better to do with your time.

Who cares? As long as she is not flashing her lady garden, she is covered up, doesn't matter what with...what is the point anyway if she is going back to bed?!

It is not nice to have someone who is unwashed and smelly (bo and bad breath in particular) hand over their child. I would never do that to anyone. I don't like dh's morning breath never mind mindees parents!!

I hardly ever have a shower in the morning. A long bath or quick shower in the evening so I'm gorgeous for bedtime and in the morning an approach I witnessed in France which involves mascara, perfume and a confident walk. My husband favours the morning wash so between us we have time to drink tea and talk before going our separate ways. If my if Spanx made pjs I might go out in those. And my tiara of course.

ROFL at this thread.
I had never realised people were so bloody judgemental although i think it smacks of jealousy.
Let me tell you on a Thursday morning my babies go to nursery for 8. I get up throw on pjs(velour pants,vest) dress both dc's throw them in the car drop them to nursery, chat to nursery nurses and other mums, nobody ever comments on my attire.
Go back home jump back into bed with Dh for an hour .
Get up have leisurely breakfast.
Have the longest shower in the world, no dcs and do my make up(the only time in the week) when 1yo hasn't tipped contents of make up bag down the toilet.
I then set about working from home.
In one day i manage to maintain excellent marital relations, my house immaculate (not my doing) and run a very succesful business so bloody what if i'm not dressed for 8am.
My dcs are home on the other days so it is a very different story (although am rarely dressed by 9 lol) and live in a council house i do not although tbh what would it matter if i did.

I learned everything i know from my mother who i can proudly say dropped me to the train station for school for at least 5 years in her jim jams.
I think its really sad if you have to get really dressed up for the school run as comparing yourself to the other mums is the highlight of your day. As for checking out what car they are driving!

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Why on earth do any of you care what other people wear when they drop their kids off?

Is it any business of yours?

Please explain...

it looks a bit trampy-ish (depending on PJ's) and like you have just got out of bed..... and bit like you don't give a toss!

I may quite like to be like that tbh.

rubyloopy, your post made me remember

spray on mud

Why do you care OP? I wouldn't care if the other mothers turned up in spacesuits.

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I am so glad that geepers is in the
minority

I mean if geepers saw me this morning I would have been judged as very organised (dressed, washed, hair donw, all three children fully dressed to shoes, clean, hair done. was almost early for school)
friendly and chatty(helped a small child with her umbrella, chatted to mum I hardly knew)
and that would be the exact opposite if the way I would have been judged one day last week.

Its just absurd, you dont know me properly, you cannot call me lazy and slovenly

Comment on TimesonLine this morning....

" lived in Texas for 5 years. Sadly I left before my children were of school age. The reason I feel so bereft, is that those 'lets make life easy' yanks invented something called a 'car line'. You just wait your turn, someone opens the rear door of your car (that's if it doesn't open electronically...) and your tiny little school tot is helped out and delivered to the classroom without you having to step a foot outside the car. My friend often drives her child to school in her pyjamas. She washes and dresses after she gets home. For the kids old enough to catch the school bus, those big yellow buses stop several times on every street, so again, no need to go near a pair of socks before 9am. Incidentally, a similar system is operated for pick-up, enabling you to stay in your PJ's all day. This is obviously only practical for those that don't work outside the home"

Perhaps it depends what your PJs look like....I'm the same as KnickersOnMaHead, I don't actually wear PJs in bed. A t-shirt when it's really cold, but that's it.

So for me, wearing PJs to do a drop off would mean putting on my jogging bottoms and jumper that I wear in the evenings after a bath or when my work/day clothes have annoyed me enough that I want to change.

So, clothes, really. A bit scruffy, but clothes nonetheless.

It's all a bit splitting hairs, though, isn't it? Not sure anyone would consider turning up in their nightie and dressing gown, but the definition of PJs is quite wide.

I am so glad that geepers is in the
minority

I mean if geepers saw me this morning I would have been judged as very organised (dressed, washed, hair donw, all three children fully dressed to shoes, clean, hair done. was almost early for school)
friendly and chatty(helped a small child with her umbrella, chatted to mum I hardly knew)
and that would be the exact opposite if the way I would have been judged one day last week.

Its just absurd, you dont know me properly, you cannot call me lazy and slovenly

If I had seen you this morning I wouldn't have given you a second thought, that would be normal.

If I saw you in your PJs I'd think 'how ridiculous and lazy' and not given it a second thought. I do actually have better things to do than come home and think about grungy women in their bed wear.

and I really don't believe I am in the minority, not by a long way.

It is normal to get dressed before you go out in the morning.

Yes but sometimes its convient for someone to throw PJ's on and drop the children off then go home and get dressed

It may be convenient but it is also wierd.

On the school run this morning, I asked the DCs two questions. The questions and their answers were as follows:

Q1. Have you ever seen any parents do a drop off in their pyjamas?

A1. No parents would do that.

Q2. If I dropped you off at school in my pyjamas, maybe with a coat over them, how would you feel?

A2. Really embarrassed. Really really embarrassed. People would think you were ill in the head.

How old are your DC's?

Ummm Sometimes people look better in Pj's than other Mothers who dress like tramps

I don't know why its such an issue for other people its not u wearing the Pj's so get over it

Also no one is asking you to wear your Pj's to drop your children off. You can't say its a hygiene thing because throwing on some clothes in the morning don't mean you have washed or showered also you don't know if they slept in there Pj's or not they may of slept naked and threw them on. I may suggest you ask next time you see someone in Pj's but don't stand to close as they may not of brushed there teeth and have some stank breath hmmm.

I just asked DS1 (4) if any parents drop their kids off in the pjs.

He said no. When asked why not, he said because it's not night-time at ((name of school)).

Then I asked him what he would think if I dropped him off in my pjs.

He said it would be "sad".

geepers
you are so funny

you just dont get what I was trying to say

you would and have judged me as grungy

but you wouldn't give me a second thought if I was dressed 'normally'

doesn't that make you see that your judging is ridiculous

you cannot possible know about someone from one outfit

that is my point, I dont care if you think I'm weird

and how would you judge me today
I am wearing black leggings, purple and black stripey knee high tights, a denim mini skirt, bright pink strappy top over red bra and a fluffy grey coat and long black boots with buckles.

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