... to hate people that bring their own food to parties?

[trumpetgirl]

My dd has been to a few parties recently and I have noticed that some people have brought food for their children and I assumed that their child must have allergies or something.
I have just found out that actually they just don't want their child eating the crap party food.
Should I feel offended by this? Are they implying that I'm a terrible mother for letting my dd eat crisps and cake for her tea? If not, then why do they have a problem letting their kid eat it?
It's a one off, a treat. What's the flipping problem with that?!

It's extremely rude. And having spent some time in other countries, I would say it was a peculiarly British kind of rudeness. It would be unthinkable as a guest to take your own food to a party in the Middle East for example. It would be seen as insulting to your host's hospitality, and rightly so.

It is unbelievably rude to bring food.
IMHO children need to learn manners from their parenst as well as their views on healthy eating.

YANBU! Until recently sil took her own food for her dc -aged nearly 3 when eating at my parents house mainly because she wanted to control every thing she ate and perhaps she felt my mum wouldn't serve everything organic/sugar free. Does have an egg allergy but obviously my mum is well aware of this and wouldn't dream of serving her ANYTHING without trible checking the ingredients first. It always seemed weird when visiting that my ds1 (the same age) was eating what we were eating and my neice was eating something different. The irony is that my mum is extremly health especially when feeding children. It was the way my brother and I were bought up and the way I'm bringing up my children. Sil not as strict as she used to be though although my mum always runs anything she plans to give her to my sil first and sil will scrutinise ingredients before she can have it (or not) as the case may be!

Non I am not joking - If I come to your haouse and say I am on detox or bring food as a gift and only eat that you know your house is a minging!!!

(Have OCD you see!)

that's a thought. trumpetgirl perhaps some of the mums you see had something like ocd or aspergers which would make them feel they needed to bring their own food?

Ah, you may have a point there MadameCastafoire / nappy addict.
I'm really scared of saying something quite stupid now as I've never known anyone with OCD, but is that really something you would want to inflict on your child?
Would it not be better to run away and pretend it's not happening?!
Don't want to trivialise OCD here, because I don't get it, and don't want to cause offence, and realise it is a serious thing.
However my house is minging... and I love it

To anyone who seems to think I hosted this party, I didn't. I cheated last year and went to a soft play and they did everything because I was very busy, one person did bring food as their kid was fussy.
The food was crap!!!!
Thinking about organising it myself this year (if I have time), but petrified that people will judge me. I'm not going to ban crisps and biscuits and cake for anyone!

trumpetgirl - you don't need to ban cake and crisps just provide healthy alternatives aswell.

Yeah, the kids will ignore them, but you'll look good to other mums.

i don't find kids ignore them? i find they try a bit of most stuff.

Toms 2nd b/day I made sarnies, did some wee pizzas, had crisps, sausage rolls, fruit shoots, cakes, yoghurts and strawberries. One mum did give her little girl a banana and most had their own drinks. I do take Tom a drink as he will only drink the Tesco hi-life blackcurrant, lol.

for ds' we had some homemade chicken nuggets, pizzas and wedges, a friend bought some homemade pork and apple sausages (i really need a food processor so i can do these too!), cheese straws, cheesy twists, sausage rolls, cheese and onion rolls, bowls of strawberries, grapes and sliced banana, bowls of smarties and chocolate buttons, jammy dodgers, party rings and choc fingers, homemade flapjacks and rocky road bars, some organix crisps and i did some homemade crisps too. so a good mix of crap and healthy stuff imo.

I obviously lead a very sheltered life. I have literally never met anyone who brings their own food to kids' parties for their kids.

Have met a fair number of irritating faddy adults who do though.

I know one mum-monster who would do this. I've never invited her DD to a party though, so I can't test the theory.
As everyone else has said, apart from allergy sufferers, it's extremely rude and an insult to the party-giver's hospitality.
I was a really fussy eater as a child but could always find something in the traditional party spread to nibble on. I've never met a child who doesn't like crisps.