... to hate people that bring their own food to parties?

[trumpetgirl]

My dd has been to a few parties recently and I have noticed that some people have brought food for their children and I assumed that their child must have allergies or something.
I have just found out that actually they just don't want their child eating the crap party food.
Should I feel offended by this? Are they implying that I'm a terrible mother for letting my dd eat crisps and cake for her tea? If not, then why do they have a problem letting their kid eat it?
It's a one off, a treat. What's the flipping problem with that?!

I always understood one of DS's friends to be vegetarian. Then his family and our family were invited to a BBQ chez mutual friends. I asked hosting friend what they were cooking for the veggie family - she said "they're not veggie, we've been to their house and eaten meat". Very confusing, turns out so-called veggie mum tells people that they are veggie until she knows where they buy their meat to be sure it is OK for their kids to eat.....

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I think you are being a bit unreasonable. Some kids are fussy eaters, so it would make sense to bring food that they will eat. However if it's purely because they don't want them to eat the food then it might be rude, unless they have a reason for it that they might not necessarily want to tell you if it's personal/medical.

Ah, going back to the ot the use of the verb is truly over the top. We've never brought our own food to any party but to be honest seeing some of the crap offered out there I understand how some people might do.

bah, the verb HATE....

why are people so pippy about food?in the scale of things some party food wont kill wee apple.but being the child with the anal mum will surely lead to derision

maybe do a moving and handing risk assesment before pass the parcel in case the parcel is heavy or potentially harmful

face it,your lo grows up,goes to uni eats rubbish hydrogenated fat drinks chemical soup.gets munted.

whether or not you watched with beady anxious eyes or denied party food will have no bearing

YANBU - too precious for words!

do they also come wrapped in cotton wool and bubble wrap?

I'm staggered that people do this. Yes, it's rude.

Fussy eaters can do without-it won't hurt them to miss food for a few hours!
I have never had it happen but I would challenge them about it-it is an insult to the hostess.

If you really care about what is served as party food, the thing to do is to invite all the people you expect to issue invitations to your own DC and serve unfussy, but high-quality fare.

They might then rethink their own menus.

It is just so rude and antisocial to make your kids take their own food to parties, unless they are kids who need an adrenaline shot should they consume the wrong ingredients.

if you are that anal and controlling oh boy are you setting yourself up for rebellion

big time

Me personally, being the mum of a very fussy 4 yr old, i just make sure dd has a bit of something at home before the party, then if she doesn't eat anything there its no big deal, i certainly wouldn't take my own range of food for her

Agreed ScottishMummy-I think they are in for a shock when they get to teenage years. They will have more to worry about than a cheesy wotsit!

re there really people who do this???

If I met one I would certainly dislike them as controlling obsessiveness is a most unattractive trait.

In fact I'd proably dislike them alot, but not hate them.

I wouldn't be offended though.

They're the wierdy bad mannered ones, I'm the rational laid back one who has her priorities in the right place.

I wouldn't be offenede I'd bask in her rationalness.

yanbu,
What are party rings for if not for parties? Party food is not meant to be a meal is it? so unless child has allergies, they can eat party rings and cheesy wotsits to their hearts content.

(mmm cheesy wotsits)

i have learned that there are children's parties, and then there are Western Scottish children's parties .

ach, well, it's a party an aw'.

it's a chance for wee one to have a bit of fun.

i don't sweat the small stuff.

so she wants tacky flashy trainers from ShoeFayre with Disney characters on them, and naff Xmas deccies from Primark, so she's got a flare for bric a brac and cuddlies, and asks for a bag of mini sausage rolls from Gregg's whenever we go 'across the water' that is Loch Long.

she's a joyful lass just enjoying her childhood.

what's a few wotsits and a bit of cake in the party bag?

I just thank god that at the moment DS isn't friends with any little people whose mothers are 'rice cake and water mums'.

I would be REALLY offended if someone bought their own food to my DS's party.

What a load of wank!

steady on!i have already identified myself as said rice cakes and water mum

never knocked back a freebie though

Lol expat 'so she wants tacky flashy trainers from ShoeFayre with Disney characters on them, and naff Xmas deccies from Primark, so she's got a flare for bric a brac and cuddlies, and asks for a bag of mini sausage rolls from Gregg's whenever we go 'across the water' that is Loch Long.'

All the shite you hoped you'd avoid but it brnsg them such joy yu go along with it. I have the same with Dr Who pyjama's nd football kits, loathed both before my DS's wanted them so much. Now I jst love seeing them enjoy things.

a bit of compromise and everything in moderation is our MO around here.

the wee ones like rice cakes, as long as they're the flavoured ones .

ScottishMummy -

(do you carry round little tubs of chopped fruit too )

aye!organic bread sticks and organic hummus too.hands up i am poncy

oh, aye, bringback.

i can't stand cuddlies or naff deccies or things with cutesy stuff on them or Disney.

but she's such a delightful girl, and she just gravitates towards stuff like that.

i can't resist her because, in the grand scheme of things a) i can't expect her to share my austere taste b) she's such a kind, gentle and thoughtful soul.

it's not that big of a deal on the whole.