to want people to treat me like a proper mother!!

[teenagemumANDPROUD]

im so jealous of all you adult MNers

being a teen mum SUCKS. yes i've heard on condoms and yes they sometimes split.

nobody treats you like a mum if your a teenager they treat you like a silly little kid.

i am a good mum! dp is a good dad! why does it matter that im 15! ds gets just as good a childhood as you do and i'm still a straight A/B student, and dp is getting a degree

i am not scrounging money off you via benefits, i dont live in a council house, my parents do not raise my little boy

SO LEAVE US ALONE

sorry i've seen one to many documenteries about crappy teenage parents. its not an excuse to be a bad parent if your under 18!!

ive changed my name to avoid the backlash of this...

[thisisyesterday]

you have absolutely NO idea what was going on in kerrymums life when she had a termination.

what a horrible thing to say to her.

I have reported it, and I will not repeat it because I want it to go.

[thisisyesterday]

lol hmc!

[PinkTulips]

handlemecarefully...... i've never had an accidental preg but have experianced plenty of split condoms. tis a nightmare and the main reason dp has agreed to the snip after this baby as we can't trust condoms and i can't be trusted to take the pill

i'm not debating abortion, i'm pointing out to KM that she lives in a country that doesn't have abortion as an option so any teenager here who has an accidental preg has to consider other options.

[handlemecarefully]

kerrymum - on balance I think parenthood is better delayed until later in life, but there are teenage mums on this thread who already have babies and they deserve support

[thisisyesterday]

I don't think it's about condoning or not though is it?
plus, I doubt many teenage girls come on here and think, oooh look, it's ok to have a baby it says so on this thread ,let's go and get pregnant.

so possibly irrelevant.

[SmugColditz]

ethanchristopher - a word from the Mumsnet-experienced ...

This thread is going to kick off BIGTIME. Don't blame yourself.

[hollyandnoah]

yeh, well i've said what i think and reporting it wont do much to change that. It is horrible suggesting that someone should terminate a child because of their age.
I have no idea thats right, but what makes you think an older mum has any idea how teen mums think? And what gives an older mum the right to suggest that?

[handlemecarefully]

Well it might not Colditz ...then again

[ethanchristopher]

thanks smugcolditz

cause im about to buy a spade and dig me a big whole to live in.

please leave each other alone!!

[QuintessentialShadow]

But kerrymum, dont you realize that the only teenagers you are preaching at are ALREADY MUMS and who are you to tell them they should not be parents and should have terminated?

[swiftyknickers]

15 year olds using Mumsnet-whatwas cod saying about Kids not posting

[Mamazon]

agreed Colditz - but it will not be about EC's post. it will be a tangent argument discussion.

[thisisyesterday]

hollyandnoah, KM was just pointing out that it is ONE option that should be made available to teenage girls who become pregnant.

she isn't saying they should have one BECAUSE they are young.
just that they ought to know all their options.

[thisisyesterday]

and we all have the "right" to suggest whatever we want.

you can't complain about young mums being treated unfairly and then come on and say that older mums don't know how you think and shouldn't offer suggestions or advice.

we're all on here because we're mums, and we're all trying to do the best we can for our kids.
doesn't matter if you're 15 or 45.

[ScottishMummy]

KM this is not condoning this is post event discussion for someone who is already a mum.

But KM you have received unwarranted unnecessary comment.sorry to read that.asked it to be deleted

[ScottishMummy]

KM this is not condoning this is post event discussion for someone who is already a mum.

But KM you have received unwarranted unnecessary comment.sorry to read that.asked it to be deleted

[hollyandnoah]

It is available though. But obviously if they are mums already they haven't chosen that road. So why say it? It is like saying that is what should have happened.

[thisisyesterday]

me too scottishmummy. hope mnhq see it sharpish.

I think condoning it is the wrong word.
I don't think you can give support to someone without condoning their actions.
I am sure the OP realises that it isn't a bed of roses already

[ethanchristopher]

thisisyesterday - i havnt complained about the advice given

although it is a little late in the day

personally i could never have an abortion

i wouldnt be able to cope, its like a chosen miscarriage.

but then i am me, maybe im weak in that respect. i dont know kerrym or her circumstances

i want to thank you all for your support too, letting me know that not everyone thinks like the newspapers