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to want people to treat me like a proper mother!!

156 replies

teenagemumANDPROUD · 05/09/2008 21:22

im so jealous of all you adult MNers

being a teen mum SUCKS. yes i've heard on condoms and yes they sometimes split.

nobody treats you like a mum if your a teenager they treat you like a silly little kid.

i am a good mum! dp is a good dad! why does it matter that im 15! ds gets just as good a childhood as you do and i'm still a straight A/B student, and dp is getting a degree

i am not scrounging money off you via benefits, i dont live in a council house, my parents do not raise my little boy

SO LEAVE US ALONE

sorry i've seen one to many documenteries about crappy teenage parents. its not an excuse to be a bad parent if your under 18!!

ive changed my name to avoid the backlash of this...

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ethanchristopher · 05/09/2008 22:59

i dont think they are condoning me being a teenage mum

i think they are agreeing that teenage mums arent necessasarily bad parents and that stereotypes are not always true

and personally i think abortion should only be done for the sake of the mothers health (if having a baby will damage her badly) and the babies health (if they will grow up in a dirty environment) not because the mummy is young and doesnt have much experience

thisisyesterday · 05/09/2008 22:59

so KM, do you think that all teenage mums should be hidden from society???
after all, wouldn't want people seeing them and thinking it's ok would we?

KerryMum · 05/09/2008 22:59

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hollyandnoah · 05/09/2008 22:59

AND personally, i think a 13 year old who gives a life is a much bigger person than someone of any age that takes one.

PinkTulips · 05/09/2008 23:00

yes, let your teenage girl live the rest of her life with the memory of an abortion behind her Kerry. much better option

not to mention the fact that you live in ireland and abortion is illegal here the people voted on the issue twice and as a society we decided it wasn't a road we wanted to go down.

funny thing is, you still expect sympathy and support whenever you start a thread but you have so much fun judging others constantly

handlemecarefully · 05/09/2008 23:01

I have no issue with anything you have said - as long as you love your dc and do you best then that is great...except for 'condoms split' - no they don't. That's what I told the GP when I got unintentionally pregnant in my early twenties. Didn't want to own up to getting carried away in the heat of the moment.

KerryMum · 05/09/2008 23:01

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thisisyesterday · 05/09/2008 23:02

hollyandnoah, I think that the issue of termination is a very personal one.
no, it isn't the answer to everything, but for some people it is the only option,.

I don't think you can accuse someone of not knowing the emotional implications of a termination. you have no idea what KM may have been through before? or anyone else.

ethanchristopher · 05/09/2008 23:02

no the condom did split

believe me

maybe i should start an AIBU that a £2 condom from the condom machine should be expected to do its job?

thisisyesterday · 05/09/2008 23:03

ok, enough with the anti-abortion stuff already.

not necessary

handlemecarefully · 05/09/2008 23:03

(and getting carried away in the heat of the moment is no crime)

KerryMum · 05/09/2008 23:03

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hollyandnoah · 05/09/2008 23:04

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handlemecarefully · 05/09/2008 23:04

Whatever ethanchristopher - who cares about the mode of conception. Just keep being the best mother you can be and sod everyone else

thisisyesterday · 05/09/2008 23:04

and I don't think KM is saying that all teenage mums should be forced to have an abortion, which is what some people seem to be assuming. just that it should be an option.

KerryMum · 05/09/2008 23:05

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hollyandnoah · 05/09/2008 23:05

I just don't think saying a teenage mum should terminate is very fair tbh. It is a horrible thing to say.

thisisyesterday · 05/09/2008 23:05

hollyandnoah, I am seriously thinking of repotrting that post.

what a vile thing to say.

proof exactly that maturity comes with age.

KerryMum · 05/09/2008 23:05

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thisisyesterday · 05/09/2008 23:07

and yes, condoms can split.

will never use mates again.
one split on me, and my friend has had 2 split on her.

UniversallyChallenged · 05/09/2008 23:07

What really is shocking KM is not so much the amount of single mums, but the amount of never to be seen dads leaving it to the mums to cope.

ethanchristopher - your posts on this and other threads show you to be a mature young lady, and I love the aibu response!

hollyandnoah · 05/09/2008 23:07

what was vile?
because i am trying really hard to get my head around someone favouring an abortion over a teenage parent.. I dont get it at all.

KerryMum · 05/09/2008 23:08

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QuintessentialShadow · 05/09/2008 23:08

KerryMum, I can understand you coming down so opinionated against teenage sex and teenage parents, IF you were talking to a year 6 class in school. You are NOT. You are preaching to fellow mums, and young teenagers who already are mums. You are not educating anybody here you are condemning. Your opinion is not helping anybody right now.

handlemecarefully · 05/09/2008 23:08

thisisyesterday - clearly I am having the wrong kind of nookie

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