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AIBU?

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Original poster

to be fed up for my DS to have to wait & shiver to use the showers after swimming whilst Mums of girls wash & condition their childs long hair ?

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CaptainUnderpants · 04/09/2008 18:44

Arghhhhh ! Really bugged me the other day . This is in the family changing area , why cant they use the ladies changing room if they only have girls .

My boys come out of their swimming lesson and have to wait whilst the showers are being hogged by these women !

My eldest Ds will now use the mens changing room so he doesn't freeze when getting out of the pool but my youngest will just have to wait !

Rant over - do I need a hard hat ?

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bloomingfedup · 04/09/2008 19:31

My DD gets very scragy if I don't condidtion - she looks like she has been dragged through a bush backwards.

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CaptainUnderpants · 04/09/2008 19:32

One is nearly 8 so he can go in mens but I think I will take the other who is 6 into the ladies from now on.

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bloomingfedup · 04/09/2008 19:32

Starlight

It takes an extra minute to condidion a girls hair - honest

StarlightMcKenzie · 04/09/2008 19:34

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CaptainUnderpants · 04/09/2008 19:34

Yeah but these Mums comb the conditoner through and get all tangles out ! A minute is a long time when your frezzing your butt off.

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Hulababy · 04/09/2008 19:35

I used to get DD to shampoo and condition her hair after swimming, int he shower. Why? It saved me time at home having to fit in another shower time in the week to do her hair. Made sense. Put I was in the ladies changing room, although there were loads o boys in their too - only option if the boys had been brought to swimming by mum.

Hulababy · 04/09/2008 19:36

I used to get DD to shampoo and condition her hair after swimming, int he shower. Why? It saved me time at home having to fit in another shower time in the week to do her hair. Made sense. Put I was in the ladies changing room, although there were loads o boys in their too - only option if the boys had been brought to swimming by mum.

bloomingfedup · 04/09/2008 19:39

Agree getting the tangles out is going a bit far but prehaps their kids hair is really knotty and if they don't do it with condidtioner on - is a nightmare.

Why don't you take towels to the side of the pool to wrap your kids in or wait until you get home for a shower?

bozza · 04/09/2008 19:43

I do think this will vary according to the facilities. But at our swimming there are only 4 showers in the ladies, no family changing, and up to 36 children finishing lessons at the same time. Somewhat chaotic....

kitsmummy · 04/09/2008 19:45

Gosh, the women only want to condition their daughter's hair so it can be combed without the children screaming. My hair brushing would be unbearable if hair not conditioned, and those 2 in 1 shampoos are pretty shit on long hair. And, is there really any harm in a family using a family shower? If you had DDs instead of DS, you might view someone trying to oust you from the showers a bit differently?

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CaptainUnderpants · 04/09/2008 19:51

kitsmummy - we are talking about girls in swimming lessons here. Mummy is washing childs hair but has nbot gone swimming herself.. family chnaging area is really hectic during swimming lessons so hoggong thw shower isn't helpful so why cant they use the ladies changing room ?

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Original poster
CaptainUnderpants · 04/09/2008 19:53

Two showers only in family area- both being hogged by girls having their hair done

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kitsmummy · 04/09/2008 20:02

They probably just get in teh first showers they come to and don't think anything of it. First come, first served and all that.

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CaptainUnderpants · 04/09/2008 20:06

Oblivous to the crowd of 'blue' children forming around them

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nelliesmum · 04/09/2008 20:10

Oh wrap him in a bl**dy towel, what's wrong with you all?

amidaiwish · 04/09/2008 20:11

no YANBU
i have 2 DDs
i NEVER wash their hair not to mention condition it at the swimming pool
a quick rinse (if they are lucky and if i can be bothered) then bath and hair wash, at home, at bathtime. Including shampoo, conditioner and combing! Takes bloody ages.

half the time i just get them dressed straight away, no shower.
do you really need to shower ds if you're going straight home? does chlorine left on the skin/dried in for a few hours really do any harm? can it not wait until bathtime?

Word · 04/09/2008 20:16

No, YANBU. Hair could be washed later - or they could wait till everyone else has done. I don't think it's too much to ask for my DS to be able to have a quick rinse/warm up.

It's not just hair-washing that gets me. It's the people who think it's OK for their kids (or them) to hog the shower full stop.

ShyBaby · 04/09/2008 20:21

I hadn't really thought about this before tbh. My hair is so bad that there's no way I could leave a swimming pool without washing and conditioning it. I'd have trouble even tying it back if I didn't and that's not vanity..it hurts... and im not "sore headed".

Dd's hair isnt too long yet but if the poor child ends up with a curly wiry mop like mine then we would need to sort it out im afraid

findtheriver · 04/09/2008 20:21

YANBU

Used to really annoy me when my kids were younger. Communal showers should be for a quick rinse. The whole hair washing and getting out the shower gel malarkey is pretty skanky - use your own bathroom

christywhisty · 04/09/2008 20:30

I never got it either and my daughter had long hair. She had a quick swill off, but used to get really annoyed when every week there would be a queue of little one waiting outside the shower, a much older girl of about 12 would walk into the shower and wait in there and grab the next shower. She was asian with very long hair and would spend ages doing her hair.
After weeks of her jumping the queue and all the other mum's muttering, i told her off. Her mum then had a go at me for making her cry

TheMadHouse · 04/09/2008 20:39

YABU - I take my two boys in the ladies with me and they are conditioned too.

Charmander · 04/09/2008 21:10

Can't your boys have a swim in the pool for 10 minutes after their lesson then go for a a shower when the others have finished?

Or is the whole pool used for lessons?

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CaptainUnderpants · 05/09/2008 08:09

Well after swimming if they have a quick rinse off at the pool they dont have a bath at bedtime as it is tea time when we have the lessons anyway. Even if we didn't get a rinse off they wouldn't have bath.

They cant have an extra few minutes in the pool to swim as more lessons after theirs - its a conveyor belt of lessons !

So its wrapping them up on towel from now on but still wait , take them into the ladies or make mutterings to mothers washing DD hair whichever option will depend on whether I am PMT ( which I was this week ! )

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Ashantai · 05/09/2008 08:24

YANBU

When my girls had swimming lessons there was no way i would stand there and faff about conditioning their hair. Tbh i think the shower is for a quick rinse, especially if there are a lot of people waiting.

My kids have ridiculously curly hair and i much preferred them having a quick rinse to get some of the chlorine off, then a nice hot soapy bath when they got home which gave me time to properly sort out their hair.

MadameCastafiore · 05/09/2008 08:31

Bit sexist isn't it expecting your son to be able to go first or push in because he hasn't got long hair? Because effectively that is what you are saying isn't it - why should your son get preferential treatment?

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