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AIBU?

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Original poster

To stay in bed for a lot of the day (am pregnant) while DH does DIY and looks after our kids?

171 replies

highschoolmusical · 30/08/2008 15:20

I am so tired.

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pooka · 01/09/2008 11:27

If OP had said she felt ill/was sick/was not sleeping at all well at night, then I expect she would have got a load of sympathetic responses.

But the tone of the post and the fact that she just said she was pregnant (with no additional info) elicited, rightly, some less sympathetic responses.

Agree with Lou.

lou031205 · 01/09/2008 11:42

Exactly, it is like me asking "AIBU to sit in a chair all day while DH runs around after the kids"

Then getting the hump when people say yes, and saying:

"Well I am in a full-length non-weight-bearing plaster cast on my left leg & a ankle cast on my right. I really am that people thought I was being lazy."

VictorianSqualor · 01/09/2008 11:48

LOL Lou.

Original poster
highschoolmusical · 01/09/2008 12:13

Mrsdanversapron,

Here, here.

Some of you other mumsnetters are really harsh - hope you don't go through the heartache of losing 4 babies. Cheers anyway.

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VictorianSqualor · 01/09/2008 12:18

Oh my God, talk about guilt trip.

Sorry you lost 4 babies and have been ill in previous pregnancies but we are not mind readers.

All we know is the info you type, and going off to bed and leaving DP to look after the children and do DIY just because you're pregnant is unreasonable.

Maybe if you'd said everything at the beginning people would have been more sympathetic.

Original poster
highschoolmusical · 01/09/2008 12:24

VS,

Did say it before you made your nasty remarks - glad you feel guilty and hope you don't have equally bad luck.

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Gateau · 01/09/2008 12:26

I feel guilty when I felt sick recently and went off to bed and left DH to get our DS ready for and put him to bed. He didn't mind though.
OP< has any MW, nurse or doc advised you to saty in bed? If not, I think YABVU on your DH and kids.

Lazycow · 01/09/2008 12:28

For goodness sake, stop worrying about it. If yuu need the rest you need it, irrespective of previous pregnancies. I am not pregnant and have no know illnesses yet on Sunday I went to bed in the middle of the day and had a 2 hr nap while dh looked after ds.

I was quite frankly exhausted (for reasons to complex to explain, some of which were my fault) and was unable to put one foot in front of the other. Dh didn't resent this as I wouldn't (and haven't in the past) if he really needed to rest in the day.

We are ADULTS and we try and support each other. If you always assume someone is taking the p**ss then it leads to a vicious circle of resentment and point scoring.

VictorianSqualor · 01/09/2008 12:28

Actually I don't feel guilty, I have no reason to feel guilty.
What I said was 'guilt trip' as in, 'you're trying to make people feel guilty'.

elkiedee · 01/09/2008 12:28

Seems reasonable to me, hope your dh is happy with it and that yuo enjoyed the rest.

Original poster
highschoolmusical · 01/09/2008 12:29

Gateau,

I satyed in bed for 1 day, the rest of the week I virtually have the kids on my own from morning to night. I know when my body needs rest. And yes have been advised by medics to rest as much as possible. TBH, am past caring wether any of you hard faced loons think i should or not. Will if I want and tits to you all.

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VictorianSqualor · 01/09/2008 12:31

If you don't care don't post, it's that simple.

Original poster
highschoolmusical · 01/09/2008 12:32

VS - Thanks for your much appreciated advice.

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Gateau · 01/09/2008 12:34

Well you did ask us for our opinions.
If you can't take it that we think you're taking your hubbie for a ride, don't post.
Just remember: you;re damn lucky to have him.

Original poster
highschoolmusical · 01/09/2008 12:36

"Just remember: you;re damn lucky to have him. "

And that's what you problem is. I'm off you as you lot are loons. Cheers again, soun advice.

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Gateau · 01/09/2008 12:37

You're very welcome. Any time.

UniversallyChallenged · 01/09/2008 12:51

Dont take it heart HSM I soon learned when i started an AIBU thread and was told 100% yes you are not to do it again unless you REALLY want opinions!

No one minds anyone having a rest - especially when pregs.

kinnies · 01/09/2008 13:07

hi girls. reading your posts has made me worn out! lol might go for a nap myself ;) (not even preggs or ill!!!) shock. i say stuff it and hubbys deserve to pick up the slack from time to time

Gateau · 01/09/2008 13:10

Actually, apology needed to the OP here.
Sorry; I misread your initial post. I read into it that you were spending a lot of time most days in bed. Sorry.
For one day, what you have done is not unreasonable at all if you are pregnant.
Take care.

VinegarTits · 01/09/2008 15:54

Ha just read this thread and pmsl, if GODcod had not opened her gob this thread wouldnt have turned out so nasty, but then you get the godcod squad jumping on the band wagon then it all kicks off LOL

VinegarTits · 01/09/2008 15:55
tamarto · 01/09/2008 16:02

WOW why ask a question if you only want 1 answer?

Original poster
highschoolmusical · 01/09/2008 16:06

Tamarto,

As i said on the other thread, I do want other people's opinions. What I don't want is nasty comments ie you silly bint. I think what is WOW is the fact you comment on a thread you have'nt read throughly enough to comment on.ffs

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tamarto · 01/09/2008 16:07

LOL

WickedBitchoftheEast · 01/09/2008 16:08

12 wks !!!! you lazy thing!